I'd have to say that texting used to be my weakness, but I've been getting better at it.

I've figured out that the best way to get better at it is through experience.

When you go out and meet random girls and get their phone number, it makes it easy to test out some text game when you know you won't ever see them again anyways if you screw it all up.

I gotta say though, I still catch myself having the habit of texting more when she texts less. Whenever a girl simply just answers my questions, I just find myself asking more and more questions... I know this is wrong... and that should be the time to just take a break because it makes me seem needy.

The thing is though, I get that foot-in-mouth feeling a lot and over analyze things and then try to text my way out of it by explaining myself... which is completely wrong...

Anyone got any suggestions?

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This has to be my most frequently repeated bit of advice: only text to set up logistics (i.e. to figure out where and when you're going to meet up with a girl next). Ignore inane comments and only reply to direct questions if you feel like it.

You should always have a game plan in mind before you text a girl. Invite her to do something fun or to try something new. I always take girls the same place on first dates and I have it down to a science. I'll text or e-mail something like "Have you been to XYZ before, we should go check it out. What are you doing on (pick a day)?" She'll either say "sounds good" or "I have to work" or whatever. If that day doesn't work for her, then just offer another day until you find one that works. After that part, I'll say "Okay, I'll call you later and we can work out the details".

I ALWAYS call a girl and talk to her on the phone before going on a first date. I find that it drastically reduces a girl's tendency to flake out at the last minute. If a girl DOES call/text and cancel, then act like it's not a big deal (i.e. don't get upset or say anything snarky) and just offer to reschedule for a time that works better.

Remember, dating is a numbers game and the faster you can spot the time-wasters, the better. My method is very direct.. the girls who are actually interested in meeting up with me are all for this and the time-wasters disappear quickly.

-Wolf

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Wolf, your bit of advice here is about to transform my life. It's going to transform my life because what you suggest is the exact opposite of what I've been doing (I thought I was all cool and shit by trying to connect with her on the phone ).

I'm really happy you posted this, jeroenwaning, because you really did explain this SP better than I would have.

Right now I'm in the process of completing Hypnotica's The Collection of Confidence series, and the current exercise is to approach 20 women every day for this week (6 days left)--I want to update you on how the phone interactions go with these women (versus women I've already blown out through the previous "bad phone game")

Thanks again, Wolf, for your advice. I'm applying the shit out of it!!

Your Bro,

Aaron
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Hello all,

i would like to ask a Q:

i met a girl in a summer town and we hang out one night and she was really into me while she was drunk and the next day she left, eventually we are living in the same city.. im going back to the city next week and just yesterday we had convo on SPAM.. but she was just replyin (you know while they re sober they dont show their attention).. and i stopped asking questions.. i have one week to have the chance of meeting her.. what do u reckon should i do till i get there? texting sometimes or just to wait till i get there?? or else..?

thanks in advance for ur helps.

F

If you can get her on the phone, then talk to her on the phone. Talking over the phone is much more effective way to communicate. If you can't talk to her over the phone (or SPAM, I suppose), then wait and follow my advice above (i.e. text to invite her to hang out while you're back in town).

-Wolf

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Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html