I don't really know where to start. It's nothing to big of a deal but it really got me thinking. Our girlfriends are good friends with each other, and everyone knows how girls love to talk. So his girlfriend told him something that my girlfriend wrote(txt mssg) to her. Apparently, my girlfriend has a box hidden away in her room on a bunch of stuff with her ex in it. I don't really know what the box contains, I only know that supposedly in the box she has the first condom they ever used with each other. I mean... I don't even know what to think of this honestly... Does this mean she still has feelings for him or something? Or is she packing away everything and putting the past behind her.. I don't really know.. But I mean... why would she even have that?? I don't even carry anything from my ex's... I know they had a bad breakup, especially since it was a really hard time in her life(Alot of deaths in the family) but still... my head is just completely shocked she would have something like this. We generally have a good loving relationship with each other. We always talk about our future together all the time.. But i'm just so confused by this... Any insight on the situation will be much appreciated, thank you for your time guys.

Edit: We are currently 7 months

So the fuck what, some people eat paint chips. Some girls save emotional ties, (Okay a little gross) but whatever.

It's not about you. So quit over thinking it. It's likely more blown up by the other girl anyway.

Do you have a hot girl you care about? And does she care about you?

If so then why would you give a shit what she has hidden in a shoe-box under her bed?

Think about the worst dirty secret you would never tell her.

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Find out if she is still in contact with the ex.

If not, then let it go.

The most worrying thing about this is not that there's possible cheating going on, it's more worrying that your girlfriend is a freak who keeps used condoms. Also question the motives of your buddy's girlfriend. She obviously knew that telling her BF would mean he would tell you. Does your buddy or his girlfriend have any reason at all to make you break up with your girlfriend?

Every girl I've ever dated has a box, or scrapbook, or photo album, or some crap with their ex boyfriends. All of my female friends do the same. I thought this was the norm among females?

Scrap books, yes. Not used condoms.

I see your point... thank you for talking some sense to me.. I just thought it was a little bizarre... but you definitely made your point..

Yeah she is a freak... I know! I thought that was really strange too! What would that mean though? Now that you mention it... his girlfriend does tend to give me alot of IoI's... but I would never do that, not only to my friend but my girlfriend especially.

I don't give a shit if it was her 1st puppy, if you asked she would just rationalize it for you anyway.
I would normally agree with you Hunter, your a wise man, but in this case I think it's likely he was "her 1st" and she and (at the time, or now) had/has LSE. The two girls shared a bottle of boons farm, one let loose more than she wanted to.

As long as little Bro here remains true to himself, that box of garbage won't mean shit.

I have a LDR who's young husband hung himself in the basement stairway. She has his face tattooed on her shoulder.

She is a raging hot Italian girl, FULL of emotion.

She is not going to carve that shit off her arm, I can make the choice not to sleep with her.

But I'm going to anyway, I'm taking her to the "D" for a "Motown" concert on the river, then I'm going to fuck her guts out.

In the morning I'll take her to Bob Evens.

I'll still know the tattoo is there. I still won't care.-

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I honestly had no idea this was the norm... But ew.. what the hell.. If they found out we had something remotely similar they would get so pist.(atleast my gf)

My gosh... that's terrible.. Well, she said that he wasn't her first. however, The ex lost his virginity to her. "The two girls shared a bottle of boons farm, one let loose more than she wanted to." What do you mean by that? Also, what would lead you to believe she has LSE?

I honestly had no idea this was the norm... But ew.. what the hell.. If they found out we had something remotely similar they would get so pist.(atleast my gf)[/quote]

As Hunter touched on, a condom is probably not common. I wouldn't know though, because I have never asked nor cared about what exactly is in the boxes. IMO, females tend to be a bit more in to remembering and dwelling on their past while men tend to accept and try to learn from their past.

A used condom is kinda weird, but honestly who gives a shit. As long as she's treating you properly there is nothing to worry about.
I keep a few of my exes stuff in my drawer. I still have feelings for her. But I'll never go back to her. Keeping stuff doesn't mean shit.

I mean the two girls may have been drinking, and your girl simply talked too much, and told the other girl.
In an effort to top the others story. It happens.
At the time she saved the condom, she felt she would never meet another guy like him, but then she met you, didn't she?

Maybe she has some of your pubes, stuffed in the box as well?

Quit worrying about it.

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That's awful, but harsh as it sounds, i still see suicide as an incredibly selfish act. If one of my loved ones hanged themselves, of course I would be inconsoleably devastated, but I would be angry that they were that selfish that they didn't care what effect their actions had on me and the family.

To put it bluntly, her ex is dead so your natural male instinct as a caveman is you don't feel threatened by him. If we could get away with it and if society did not frown upon it, we would beat the living daylights out of every love rival every time we felt threatened. But since I have socially unconditioned myself, I've accepted that "true innocent love" doesn't exist and every girl I currently sleep with has had another guy's jizz on her face. And she loved it. I don't care now, cos right now they're fucking me and the skills they learned in the past with other guys means they are now sucking my cock with an enthusiastic brilliance.

Thinking about little bro here, yes, now that I think about it, you're probably right. She is probably sentimental about him so decided to keep the condom but I can totally understand why he felt threatened by this.

To the OP, take solace in the fact that girls often keep mementos of their ex-boyfriends as a way of letting go of their past. Just like when you archive old files on your computer, girls archive their memories so that they can free up space in their heart, a space that you can fill.

If it "aint too big a deal" squash that sh*t or make a big deal of it and have it potentially lead to a breakup.