This unfortunately for some, is reality.

It IS Alpha to recognize when done, is done.

If she wanted to try to salvage it, she would. Otherwise fuck her.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Don't chase em, replace em.

im seeing her soon, if she fucks around , her stuff is already packed

this just hurts my heart, deeply

Of course it does. It hurts every time.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

You say you'll confront her in a cool and calm way. I call bullshit. You're already steaming on here. You're about to blow up like Hiroshima. And I wish I were there when it happened.

But before you detonate a nuke, I would post the conversations on here for us to analyze like someone else suggested. Fact is guys can get jealous easily and misinterpret friendly exchanges.

So we met up last night, and we drove around to talk. When we stopped i told her " that a big scar on my hand, do you want to touch it?" (just like she said in her text, and i actually do have a scar as well), i told her i read her shit and i know what happened.

She was pretty shocked, but she had this cold look on her face. I told her i couldnt believe what she's done, that ive pretty much been loyal since day 1. Shes telling it was just for "fun" and she wouldnt actually physically do anything. I asked her what she feels in her heart, and she told me she loves me and wants to make it work. I was obviously pissed but i didnt explode on her. She swore on her life and everything she loves that it wouldnt happen again.

Honestly im still heart broken to the fact that she saved this bullshit conversation and shes flirting with some dude with half my looks, half my dick and has nothing on me, after all we've been through.

I agreed to stay with her, but man i feel empty, i feel i cant trust her after this. I honestly thought she was different then these other bitches, but it turns out shes the same. She fooled me and convinced me that she was different, but it turns out even the most innocent and pure, is also a bitch deep down.

I feel very down and even more depressed after all this, i stupidly called her today to see if she still wants to see a movie we were going to see. She said she wanted to stay home and acted like she didnt care to see me, i was like "this is your way of apologizing and showing your sorry huh, ok" and hung up.

Now im gonna freeze her and strictly keep her around for the sake of having a female until i find some more, but im not feeling it, im too hurt to go out and be positive, its hard to lie to myself. I feel stuck and broken, i truly thought she was the one i would marry and have children with, but she doesnt seem to be doing anything to prove she loves me and show that shes sorry.

What would anyone whos been what ive been through advise to do? i need to find some new girls and get rid of this bitch, i feel betrayed and enraged. Fuckin bitch played with my heart

Where are you meeting your women?

I advise you not to do what you are about to do. If you think that getting new girls is the answer, then you're wrong. It wont fill the hole that you're feeling inside. I advise you to just grief and feel the pain, dont hold these emotions and just let it flow, break something, scream, whatever it takes. It's gonna be hard, but let me tell you that by time, it's gonna get better.

going out with friends, or people you can share your thoughts with, will help the process speed up.

I know in your head that this girl was the ''dream come true'' for you. But the matter of fact is, she wasn't. Throw away these thoughts about her, and realise she's been a bitch. She told you that she swears to never do it again, to me, it says enough. Intentions were obviously there.

I've been in 2 similar spots as you have been, my first girl cheated on me, so did my second girl. for the second one i moved all the way to England to live with her, within 5 months, she's fucking another guy.
I was heartbroken, i was deeply depressed, but eventually i manned up and got back on my feet stronger then ever. From that moment i entered PUA and had the best time of my life, not because i wanted to avoid emotional shit, but because i understood the way a woman works.

I'm currently in a situation like the old one aswell, but differently, the girl hasn't cheated on me, but she's finding the relationship boring. I think the problem with us guys is that girls influence us in such a manner, it's a matter of time before we find ourselfs beta'ing our way through it. I was prepared this time, it's been 1 week since, saw my problems, fixed them, and i'm gonna continue doing so.

Bottom-line is: Don't see a girl as wife material, untill you are at the stage where you can be nearly 100% certain, look at what she invests and how she acts, read the signals, read the way she looks at you and the way she handles things. Stay alpha, and eventually you will find what you're looking for.

we met at work.... she showed no signs of being a bitch like this

i really dont know what to do, i feel broken

The good thing about this forum is you're getting advice from people who are not involved in any way, especially not emotionally.
The majority of these advices are usually correct, many have been where you are now. I'm sure you've been there before too.
The only reason why you let her stay in your life are your emotions.
So she said she wants to make it work, yet doesn't want to see the movie with you anymore?
Judge her by her actions and break up. In my opinion that's what you should've done. It's time for her to SHOW you how much she wants this relationship, this s not done by telling you abou it. You gave her an easy option to save her ass, words mean nothing in this case. And of course this will never happen again, either because she stops flirting with him, or because she won't save the convos anywhere you have access to.

I don't think it is possible to slowly detach yourself from someone you love. Walk away. I know it's fuckin hard, but that's exactly why it is so "ALPHA". And it will show u if she wants 2 make it work or not.

You can also next her, but it's not as effective because she knows u r doing it because you're hurt..
Do u wanna be "Alpaha" and go the hard (and right) way, then break up. Do you wanna keep your emotional investment with this girl, then stay...

The reason I asked where you're meeting your women is because it seems it's not the first time a woman has breached your trust. So I'm curious to see how you manage to find yourself these types of untrustworthy women.

That said, the biggest hurdle you now face is trusting her again. Can you trust her again? Is it possible? If not, then you know what to do - break up and move on. Even if you ARE able to trust her again, why would you? The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.

Read this over and over...

I'm having trouble reconciling this:

With this:
If you feel betrayed and enraged at this "Fuckin bitch" then why are you staying with her?

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its a hard decision but i thought about it and i texted her and told her i cant be with a lying manipulative bitch, i might have gone overboard but fuck it. Im still feeling fucked right now, but i know ill be ready one day and come back even stronger.

I guess picking up as many girls as possible is the best route. I hope there really are proper girls out there, this one really had me deceived, i couldnt even imagine she'd talk to another guy while she was with me.

How will i ever know if they can be trusted, if they are that good at acting? The female seems to need a such a constant up and down roller coaster of emotions, and this is very tiring.....this cant be the only way

I think the best way to handle a relationship is to have it like it started for the first 1-2 years. Always be unavailable, dont see her to often, keep things playful and short and dont give away to much of yourself. Let the girl wonder all the time. The thing which i figured out is when you remain your ''secrets''. A girl will constantly be trying to figure you out, the less she can, the more she'll be attracted. It's natural that we get into this ''emotional connection'' sort of thing, but you have to be very careful with this. It often feels right, but the effects are actually negative on long-term. After 1-2 years of this, the connection from her side to yours is so great because after all this time, you're still full of surprises, who is this guy really? she wont go off doing stupid things. If you look at succesful relationships, you will always find a man and women being ''distant'' in a manner that they dont just sit on eachothers lap every day talking about their oh-so-miserable days at work.