Hey guys,
So I'm 18 from the UK and texting is a big part of people my age and I'm currently texting a girl that I've been texting pretty much constantly (every day) for a couple of weeks now, not because I'm bugging her; she normally texts me first each morning and will send two messages if I haven't replied for a few hours.
Anyway I just need help, I have no idea how to keep the texting interesting and fun, it seems to slip in and out of being fun and sometimes she has crappy replies that mean I have nothing to bounce off (reply with) and have to really think about how to continue it.
She also doesn't seem to feel comfortable to be a little bit flirty at times, sometimes she's a bit flirty but I'd like her to be a bit more kinky/ flirty when texting (and in person/ general for that matter) sometimes to keep it fun and different from how she texts her friends. I feel she is innocent and feels unconfident about getting a bit sexual despite liking me.
Also how can I make sure that she stays interested in me and doesn't suddenly just lose attraction and friend zone me? I've seen her in person a few times but its been difficult recently due to us both being very busy, which is why texting is pretty important to our communication.

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Don't always reply to her first text immediately, let her wait. Of course don't do this with subsequent texts in the same texting convo (you don't want to wait 20 minutes between texts once you've started).

Texting is a medium for being playful, flirting and having fun but it can backfire easily if you do it incorrectly. The key is to not have too many extended convos via text (leave her wanting more), and use it sparingly enough that it maintains interest but doesn't come off as needy. You should be initiating no more than 30% of the time, in my opinion.

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Preston's Game Log - Please critique

Thanks man, great advice.
We text like all the time though, every morning she will text me first and sometimes I reply fast and sometimes after a little while depending on if I'm busy. So I don't even initiate it at all, never mind 30% of the time haha. At the moment she hasn't replied for a couple of hours for the first time ever, normally it seems as though no matter what she's doing she still makes time to reply to me but at the moment just isn't and I don't think she's busy (she may be getting bored haha). So how can I keep it fun and interesting and try to get her more open and flirty with me and as you said, leave her wanting more?

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I mostly use text as a stepping stone to actually meeting a chick- flirting through text can only go so far, and it's easier to escalate in person. A lot of times girls will wait on guys to make moves and ask them out when you've been texting a while and many girls will get tired if you don't do this eventually.

As for actually asking them out-I like to be direct and alpha when trying to meet up with a girl. I prefer this:
Hey! There's a ____________ downtown that I'm checking out this weekend. You should come with.
To this:
Hey! There's a ___________ downtown this weekend. Do you want to check it out with me?


Subtle differences, but I think 1 comes off quite a bit better than 2.

The key to keeping interest by text is to be lighthearted and sparse, in my opinion.

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Preston's Game Log - Please critique

Well lately we've been busy with exams but now they are over so we can meet face to face more often. When I asked her out before I tried to be similar and decide where we were going and what time. Only asking what day she was free pretty much. She's replied straight after I sent that by the way. Any tips on flirting in person? Feel I could improve on that as well haha

Thanks for the replies, Preston

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Post the Convo.

I'm always helping my mates texting da ladies. I do consider myself an expert at it.

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What part do you want? Haha we've sent a lot of texts

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Back story

Then post the last 10 or so messages

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Step 1 First Text
recall something that you and the girl have discussed, funny and original. something that no other guy would send her.

Step 2 – Insert a Hook
“flirt with the future” and set up a lot of “future memories”. drop a little hook here that she can grab onto – either somewhere she’s been before and will have an opinion on it, or she’s never been there and we can discuss that.

Step 3 – Get Personal
Once you’ve got her favorably responding, you want to get a little personal with her. This shows that you know something about her – that you see her as a real human being, and not some robot who you’re randomly flirting with.build comfort and familiarity with you.

Step 4 – Create a Future Memory
Sometimes I’ll go into a first date with a girl, already having discussed five or ten things that we are going to do together… and the first date activity is just one of those options. We should do blah blah someday

Step 5 – Ask Her Out
If her response was favorable to something in step 2 and your riffing about it for a while say, how's your week looking? she'll say she's buissy on blah blah day and you say well im free on blah blah day lets go do blah blah

None of the texts are very interesting to show you haha. The one flirty few texts we sent weren't very good it was me saying I'd spank her for bein naughty eventhough she'd probably enjoy it, and her playing hard to get and saying she wouldn't then saying she could manipulate me with her cuteness. That's it pretty much haha all the other conversations are boring about what were doing, watching ect. Apart from sayibg we are going I buy a hot tub together and get our neighbours jealous then get the full hot tub experience lol

Thanks for the continuing advice guys

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No, its to see if your doing anything seriously wrong.

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Ah right, Here is a part of a conversation we had. I'll try to delete them after this as I don't want it too public to anyone on the Internet haha and I changed her name for privacy ect.

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This is just small talk chit chat.

Get to a point with it.

Do you want to get on a date with her or what? What is your goal?

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Yes I know but we texted everyday for like over a week and she initiated it each day so there's only so much we can talk about haha. How do I keep it interesting?
We've not spoken for a couple of days so I think I'm going to text her in a bit haha or should I try ringing her?

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Call her and ask her have dinner with you or something...