This can incidentally be used as a good DHV routine elucidating what a stalwart lover and independent prize you are.

Did you know there are 5 basic human emotions that tend to surface throughout a relationship and that these 5 emotions have a good side and a very bad side.

They are: Love, Grief, Envy, Anger, and Fear

Love is obviously a good thing, but so is grief. Grief is a healthy expression os mourning a loss or expressing tenderness and vulnerability. Likewise envy can be good too (contrary to popular opinion), because it is envy that encourages a child to grow up tall like his/her daddy to reach the doorknob and open the door his/herself. Envy is a motivator. Anger can be righteous. When someone harms a person we love we can get angry at them and become protective. Finally, fear is also healthy as it is a life-preservation mechanism. When you fear for others you show that you care about them.

These emotions can all be utilized to have a successful LTR.

Here's the catch. There's a dark side to every one of these emotions. When these emotions are not expressed in a healthy manner they come out in a negative manner.

Love becomes Possessiveness.
Grief becomes Depression.
Envy becomes Jealousy.
Anger becomes Rage.
Fear becomes Panic.

Many relationships have been destroyed because of these less than savory characteristics.

Ultimately the emotions become somewhat linear with love and fear being polarities.

Let love/charity be your motivator and control your fear/self-preservation/self-love

This should keep you from experiencing oneitis. If your lover does something which triggers the dark emotions you can eject from the relationship before you are cuckolded and blueballed.

Emphasize the good vibes and get rid of the bad vibes. If the woman pulls any of those dark emotions on you then you can likewise be certain that she is becoming dangerously obsessive. Cut it off and go sarge for new uplifting connections.

That's my $0.02

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this is good stuff man. can you elaborate on things to think about to get over shit fast, and reasons why our minds will ponder for so long?

Absolutely.

Firstly, we human beings have a tendency to relive painful events through our memories and cause ourselves to become guilty and punish ourselves for the same mistake over and over and over. A cow that stumbles into an electric fence learns the first time and doesn't go wallow or get depressed and start to hate itself because of the fence. Nope, the cow just moves away from the fence and goes on with life. We could learn a lot from this behavior and not dwell on the past which can never be recaptured. For all its romantic qualities you can never go back there no matter how pleasant or painful.

And that's a good thing! When you have learned a lesson, let it be the one time you will "pay" for "failure". Ultimately failiure is an illusion and can be instead thought of as a learning experience, but that is beyond the scope of this post.

As for getting over these things fast, it is as simple as being in a painful situation and asking yourself, "Have I paid for this already before?" If you answer no, then you just paid for it through your momentary pain and you can safely drop it and move on. You should only have to pay for a mistake once. That's why rejection would be best forgotten and looked upon as a learning experience rather than a failure. So you paid once. Move on and don't torture yourself with more punishment.

Finally, close your eyes and visualize a moment in your life that made you super happy. Save that as a picture that you can remember and call up at any time. Now choose a word to associate with that picture. Choose a word that makes you smile. Now, touch your forefinger together with your thumb and use that as a subtle trigger to feel the emotions you feel when you recall that picture and speak that word.

From now on, whenever you are in a situation where you are pondering dark thoughts and painful feelings arise, just touch your forefinger to your thumb and say the magic word as you remember the most delightful time in your life. Let it make you smile and change your whole altitude.

You can use that as a tool to approach women with confidence and a smile. Just use it as often as you need to. It's what I do and it works!

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good posts man. more people should see this

Scientifically there are 7 Universal emotions:

Happiness
Sadness
Anger
Surprise
Contempt
Disgust
Fear


They are the universal emotions and we as humans bring them to everything we do in life.... including relationships.

While it's true that love is a feeling it's not an emotion.... sounds fucked up right? Feeling loved or feeling in love is NOT an emotion, however it does spark and emotion of happiness in your brain... thus making you feel good...

As far as the bull shit DHV.... no you don't dhv, you be high value... this is especially true of inner game and this is the inner game section...

Sorry to be so brutal but honestly learn about emotions before actually saying such things... those are not the emotions felt but the words to describe the feeling....

Someone with strong inner game falls in love and feels deserving, feels good enough, and all that doesn't need to be possessive honestly, the key to getting rid of the negative is simply inner game and at the same time this will not eliminate one-itis.... how could it? Your emotional reactions are based on your beliefs... you don't get mad because someone cut you off you get mad because of the meaning you granted that person cutting you off.

As far as envy.... fuck are you serious? Envy isn't an emotion, it's certainly not a good thing to envy others... using envy as a motivation is horrible and won't give you true inner game... you go after things you want for you, comparing yourself to others is horrible on inner game and I can seed how envy is a good thing as a motivator... while this could be good for motivating I would hardly use it to motivate... and again it's not an emotion but a feeling. I would use desire not envy to motivate that is where true power comes from your own personal ambition and desires.

Anger is not a good thing in a relationship and never will be.... it's good to be honest but the true reason we need anger was for our limbic reaction which is to fight back against predators... in a relationship would you say you are fighting against predators?

Fear was used against predators and designed to help us (which is also a limbic reaction "freeze, fight, or flight"), fear used in a relationship is using an emotion out of context for what it was created for which is dealing with true danger.... while you shouldn't want to lose a woman by no means should you fear it or you'll end up creating it as truth....

Peace and Love,

Vic

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I have nothing to say about that and stand by my original posts.

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As do I... what I've studied in depth about emotions rather than something you've designed based on your current beliefs about "emotions".

It's best however to learn more about something such as emotions before posting up a topic called emotional mastery... when you in fact mention only 2 of the 7 universal emotions (surprise isn't necessarily an emotion but a reaction).

Peace and Love,

Vic

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I Think I get Oneities obviously because im socially unskilled enough to see that comming, it usually get me off guard, and hit you on your most vulnarble point specially with that perfect hb since you get to used to just flow and then you lay down your shield, feeling you've made your pupose and found that girl..well the whole topic was very useful for understanding it but I guess theres no magic trick or shortcut for crossing that bridge..I'll get some research on that see if that wpuld help..

Thanks,Honey.

omg... will people ever stop seeing one-itis as a disease?...

and just the word one-itis... normal people call it falling in love you know

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