Incahoots! "I don't do that!" 1.16.08:
Hey everybody! Tonight was another great night. Fun times to be had, no matter the outcome.
Casanova Crew in Attendance:
-Jack
-Yenwen
-Mantis
-Ferret
-Dreopergone
-Impure(took off after weekly meeting)
-Jackett
-Status66
-Niceguy
-Showcase
Goals:
- Keep a strong frame
- Open more sets than last time I went to Incahoots where I froze (no FR from that night to look up, I was a lazy ass and didn’t write one.)
- Stay in set for as long as I can.
- Up the initial kino
Kicking off the night, the CCOC guys and I had our weekly meeting at Fullerton College in a private library room. Ok, a bit of a change up from Yenwen’s place, but I’m liking it nonetheless. We had a great meeting and talked about a ton of different stuff. The Library decides it’s time to close, so we head out to a quick dinner at In N Out, then hop over to Incahoots where our action for the night begins.
I walk in the club handing in my trusty green ticket to the man at the entrance, when a strangely comfortable feeling comes over me. I realized I’m not nervous here anymore, it’s familiar to me now. But that good feeling didn’t keep me from choding around for a few minutes pretending I had reasons not to approach.
During my chode phase, Mantis, Dreopergone, Ferret, and I watch a guy blowing into something small and black. We figured it was a breathalyzer, which would have been bad ass, but turns out it’s his cell phone. Odd . . . Nonetheless, this turned into a good opener for me throughout the night.
Out to the smoker’s patio to check the scene there, where I catch Yenwen and Ferret in what I thought was a mixed 4-set. Two chicks two dudes. I decided I would go in and work the guys of the group so Yenwen and Ferret could have the girls’ full attention. I just opened the guys up when two more dudes walk over. Somehow all of them know Jack! Cool, made some new friends and had them around for a little social proof later on. The girls take off to who knows where, and soon the guys do too.
The CCOC guys and I are left standing there talking to eachother, when suddenly a big, meaty bastard in a pretty white cowboy hat calls over to us. We give him our attention and start being friendly, but this guy has only one response: Middle finger. With a very “Fuck You” attitude and a deadly stare.
We figured he was joking around, and he points to us with four fingers saying he’s calling out all four of us! Just to let you know, there were five of us standing there . . . hehe. Mantis decides he’s going to befriend the big man. Walking over, he greets the guy and his buddies, giving the surly guy a power handshake, when they both lock into an intense staring contest. Mantis compliments the burly dude’s cowboy hat giving it a little pat. Fat boy didn’t like this at ALL. He grabs Mantis’s scarf and TEARS it off, tossing it to the ground! He’s giving the death stare to Mantis full throttle, but Mantis doesn’t back down. This tool’s friends see what could be about to go down and defused the situation by taking their friend inside.
Whew! That seemed like a very close call. Pretty tense feeling, but by then Jack had joined us making our group six. If anything had happened, we had Mantis’s back. I was really proud that he held his ground the way he did, not flinching or giving the guy anything. This turned into a good story for the night’s sets also, haha.
As it turns out, one of the fat bastard’s friends comes out and apologizes to all of us. He tells us how his friend turns into a total dick when he’s drunk. This guy turns out to be kinda cool and shoots the shit with us for a minute. Awesome.
I passed through the club opening two and three sets throughout the night, using an opener like “Has anything crazy ever happened to you here before?” followed by either the breathalyzer story or the near fight with the drunken cowboy. Surprisingly, I’ve started to notice I’m getting better at staying in a set and carrying the conversation past the opener.
Something strange happened to me tonight that’s never happened before. I would get into a set, have a fun, flirty conversation and eventually eject, but I couldn’t for the life of me get into state! I’d hit a little AA, open a set, feel great, and AA would come back almost immediately no matter how the conversation went. I can’t figure this out, so if anyone has had this happen, or has advice on it, let me know. I’d really appreciate it.
I opened a two set with Niceguy as my wing. I’m glad he helped out because, whether he knows it or not, I learned a lot from that set. Not only did I get a lesson on coming in with higher energy, but he also taught me a thing or two on immediate kino, and keeping the girls in suspense with stories and compliments. That was probably my most valuable set of the night considering all that I learned.
It was a weird night because not only did I have a couple girls that recognized me come up and reopen me, but I also ran into a couple of girls I know from back in my AFC days. One of which was my ex-gf’s best friend, who told me I’m looking hot, and something is different about me. Ha. The other is a girl I’ve known since the second grade, but lost touch with when we went to different high schools. We’ll call her HBTits(I give her a 9), because she seemed so proud of them. I had quite a few interactions with her throughout the night. I’ll give you the pieces of them which I remember.
HBTits: OMG! You’re back! How are you?
Muse: I’m just amazing.
*Some random banter while we get caught up*
HBTits(to Dreopergone and this guy we met that night): I knew him back in gradeschool! He used to be
*this* tall! (showing him with her hands). And he knew me back when my chest was completely flat.
*turns around showing us her back* I used to be like this, as flat as my back. Remember?
Muse: Haha, you’re such a dork!
*Pulling her in to put an arm around her, which she does in return*
HBT: So my 21st birthday is in February, you
have to be there!
M: Really? You’ll have to let me know when, so I can try and keep it free. I’m a busy guy, so you’ve got to let me know in advance.
HBT: Ok! You
HAVE to be there though!
M: Alright.
*Pulls out cell phone* Here, you know what to do.
*We exchange phone numbers. I thought of a trade, I would come to her birthday party if she comes to my band’s first show. But I decided I’d rather call her about this over the weekend, because it’ll be a good way to keep her thinking about me*
HBT:
*Random chick talk dropping her open hand onto mine, which I grab and we start holding hands*
M: WHOA! What’s THIS? You’re just assuming you can hold my hand now?!
HBT: Haha, yeah, but I have a boyfriend!
M: And you’re still holding my hand? Interesting.
HBT: Haha I know, right?
*The guys decide to go open sets leaving me there with her*
HBT: So what’s new with you?
M: Too much to even tell you about in a place like this. We’d have to get caught up somewhere else. How about you?(not expecting anything but a ‘not much’)
HBT: So much! Blah blah social circle drama, blah blah. Oh and I’m dating my best friend from back in highschool now!
M: Uh huh
*I do a takeaway while she’s still talking by just starting to look around the club for a new set that I can get into after this one is done*
HBT: Yeah! He’s here tonight, and we’ve been dating for blah blah –
M: *Cuts her off* Hey so I saw you talking to that bouncer earlier, do you know EVERYBODY here?!
HBT: Oh totally! I know all the bouncers and the promoter, he’s a super cool guy!
*At this point I’m interested, maybe she can introduce me to Mr. Promoter sometime…*
M: So you can totally get me in for free then! High five!
*We do the high five and interlock our fingers in midair*
HBT: I could. I do get in for free, but I can only bring one person for free each time. So I bring my best friend ‘random girl’s name’
*Interesting that it’s not her boyfriend*
M: Cool, so you’re going to bring me next time, and introduce me to your promoter buddy!
HBT: *giggles*
By now, I realized there has to be attraction beyond getting to know an old friend or it would have stayed at that ‘getting to know you again’ conversation and no kino. I tell her I have to get back to my friends, but to find me later on because I might be around. As soon as I walked away, I went into a set because for some reason, that conversation with HBTits got me into state. FINALLY!
Later on in the night, I’m hanging out on the smoker’s patio with Yenwen and Jack while we all have a coffin nail, when HBTits spots me again.
HBTits: There you are!
*comes up from behind and gives me a big hug, shoving her pelvis into me with a vengeance*
M: Heyyy
*Put my arm around her, she puts her arm around my waist.*
HBT: Who are your friends?
M: These guys are two of my best friends! This is Matt and Jack(Haha, sorry about that Nick, I’m pretty sure I accidentally introduced you to her as your handle!)
HBT:Blah blah,
*Doing the how she knows me thing again.* Yeah, so now that I’m grown up I finally have tits! I grew like three cup sizes over the last couple years, and I think they’re still growing!
*Making EC with me and smiling*
Jack: Wow, so you’re pretty proud of those then, aren’t you?
Muse: Haha, you really are.
HBT: Yeah, Nate knows. He knew me back when I was sooo flat! (She’s not lying, she really WAS that flat, to the point where the other girls made fun of her.)
HBT: But you had better be careful, Nate. My boyfriend called me, and he just got here. . .
M: Uh huh . . .
*Turn my attention to Jack and Yenwen giving her my shoulder to talk to about that*
HBT: *grabs me from behind and pulls herself in really close, just standing there with her body pressed against mine, and after a few seconds starts trying to grind against me to the beat of the music. We dance a little bit, but this felt kind of awkward for me being in front like that.*
M: *Turn towards her and ask her about something, I don’t remember what. She starts to answer, when she spots her boyfriend*
HBT: OMG, it’s my boyfriend!
*runs over to him, grabs his hand and leads him over to me* You have to meet Nate! Blah, blah, explaining again how she knows me . . Damn she likes to tell that story.
The boyfriend puts out his hand, and I give him an authoritative handshake, a lot like the one Mantis gave our big drunken buddy earlier. The three of us talk for another minute or so, and the boyfriend takes her away somewhere. I was disappointed he came out to find her because I was feeling a kclose coming on. Oh well, I’ll see her again soon. Hehe.
Moving on . . . The girl I had number closed a few weeks ago was at the club that night, and had been approaching me every Hour/45 minutes or so. A little background on this girl: After I number closed her, she turned out to be a texting machine. All during the next week she was texting me, and I just went with it, in one conversation I dubbed her 'Sprinkles'. I kept a strong frame the whole time, and it turned sexual in no time. I invited her to my place for a kickback I was having with some friends awhile back, but she flaked. Doesn’t make any sense, but whatever. Even after she flaked, she STILL texts me every week asking where I am when she realizes I’m not at Incahoots. I don’t know what’s going on in this chick's head, but it doesn’t really bother me.
Mantis and I had a great interaction with Sprinkles and her friend, who we were both able to win over without much trouble at all. That conversation isn’t super important, but as the night wore on, I was getting vibes from Sprinkles like I should go for the makeout. I let Mantis know, and decided I would do Style’s three pictures/camera routine, because it’s worked for me before. Mantis takes the camera, and we’re trying to figure out how to approach her while she’s surrounded by a bunch of random guys. Turned out that didn’t matter, because she approached me again within a minute of spotting us.
Mantis and I were pretty smooth with the whole routine. I tell them we’re going to take three pictures. We take the serious one, no problem. We take the goofy one and her arm is around me, cheek pressed against mine. I tell her we’re taking one more, this time it’s a romantic one, and she starts to giggle, giving me a funny look.
Mantis tries to take the picture, but I’m not feeling the makeout just yet, so I tell her to give me a kiss on the cheek for the camera. Then it happened. . . She turned her face away and said she doesn’t do that! What the hell? This has NEVER happened before. Mantis and I try to keep solid frame, but she still won’t do it. I got my camera back, and told her I had to get back to my friends. Epic fail.
I just don’t get it. I’m left wondering where I went wrong. I’ve always gotten good results with the camera routine. I’ve used it for a number of makeouts at parties, and kisses on the cheek are handed out by girls like candy if you just tell her to give them to you. I’ve never been rejected for a makeout when I use the camera routine, and I’ve never been rejected for just a kiss on the cheek. This is strange, because I’ve gotten kisses on the cheek from girls I don’t even know, with zero effort on my part. I had decent rapport with this girl, but got rejected, which left me feeling down about the whole night.
When I got back home I started going over the night’s events in my mind, trying to figure out where I went wrong, when I came to a realization about everything in general. All of the sudden I felt like my night was way better than I thought, and decided I was feeling down about the evening because I was focusing on the one bad event of the outing.
Looking back on the night, I realized that it’s funny how I’m worried about why I didn’t get the makeout at the club . . . When just a month ago approaching a set of girls in a club seemed like an impossible task! It really put things in perspective for me. I’ve made so much progress in the month that I’ve been a part of Casanova Crew! I had one of my best nights at a party just last Friday, where I was a total Alpha Male, and was THE guy to know. Not only that, but I approached a ton of sets without much trouble at all this Wednesday, have an opportunity to game an old friend, and just 30 days ago I wouldn’t have ever thought I’d be in a position to makeout with a girl I met in a club.
What was I THINKING being so down on myself at the end of the night? Of course, I’m not the only one who’s made HUGE progress! I look at Jack, Yenwen, Status, Mantis, Jackett, and all the rest of CCOC, and it’s amazing how for they’ve all come. It’s a good feeling when you can put things into perspective and see just how much progress you and your friends are making in field in such a short amount of time.
A summary of the night is a good idea:
- I stayed in sets a lot longer than I have been normally, which is my favorite accomplishment of the night.
- I started with what I thought was high kino at the beginning, but learned a lot from winging and being winged by Niceguy.
- I #closed the girl I haven’t seen in almost seven years, and I think I have a good opportunity to make things happen with her. She talks a lot, but she’s a great example of my type, and yeah, she’s got nice tits. Haha!
- I went for my first kclose in a club, got rejected, felt awful about it, and turned it into a reflective experience.
- I tried my best at keeping a strong frame, and overall I think I’m making progress. Keeping my frame has been a big sticking point for me, so I need to keep working at it.
- I’m now completely comfortable at Incahoots, opening two and three sets is easy for me.
Goals to work on next time:
- Frame control
- Intense, Immediate kino
- Suspenseful story/joke telling.
- Moving the target to a couch (brand new to Incahoots!) to build comfort.
- Get over my fear of approaching a mixed set without a wing. For some reason I have a huge block about opening a mixed three set one guy, two girls.
Overall, I had a GREAT time. The night was really fun, and it was good to finally meet Ferret and Dreopergone, you guys are gonna be rockstars.
Take it easy (and if it’s easy take it twice
),
~Muse
CHAT