so basically f closed a girl twice,

shes told me that she likes me,and it feels like we've known each other for ages. but apparently we are just "hanging out" im cool with that. shes leaving in 4 months overseas. and at the time she had told me that shes ok with me kissing other girls but pulling ONS is not ok. she replies to every one of my texts almost immediately. i try not to reply too soon or let it turn into some convo.

so whats happened lately is we'll arrange meetings, and she would give me maybes, then end-up hanging out with her girlfriend - a girl. fuck knows. part of the reason is im insanely busy with things and barely have time to meetup so when i arrange a meeting i expect her to stick to it. she knows im busy and i know she is too so i expect her to respect that. shes never flaked, just never arranged anything solid.

i played it cool and not act like i was affected when she gave me a maybe but im sensing shes distancing herself a bit. and on last Friday, we were supposed to meetup sent a decent 10 odd texts back and fourth trying to work the logistics, where shes got too thrashed and ended up crashing. i was a bit frustrated so texted this:


me: "have a goodie. f you wanted to meet, you would have"

her: im sorry babe. i was too wasties.

me: meh. hu cares.

i left it there....

same night she asks : Planz?

i dint respond

and just my fuckin luck, i bumped into her in town where she hit me up about not texting her back.

i dint say anything and moved in for a kiss close. she didn't respond and her idiot mate dragged her away. i just went onto dace with other girls.

i haven't texted her back since. should i bother or let this one slide?
what are your gut feelings on this guys?

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Honestly u havnt set the ground rules with her from the start... thus she feels she can get away with flaking and being "distant". I let my girl kno right away (when we planned something and she was 5 mins late) that that was unacceptable, bc I am busy. Dont waste my time... I wont put up with it. She hasnt been a min late ever since. (6 months since)

So its not totally over... give it some time and then stick to your guns. This chick seems like shes hot, has a lot of options, and can get away with anything bc she has all of this. Dont take that shit. Your better than that. And if she doesnt respect it, NEXT the girl. But im telling you 9 times out of 10 she will respect you A LOT more and ull be more productive/efficient in meeting/communicating.

GL
Duke

thanks for the advise man, what the plan of attack be here? i was thinking of waiting till she contacts me again. which has a high chance of not happening. this is to establish the frame that i can walk away from this all. tbh ive had many ups and downs with girls this year, ive forced myself not to care anymore. if i loose a girl then cool, there's the door opened for 100 more to come and get banged. but i think i maybe doing this outta the bitterness of all my disappointments this year.

almost tempted to put a picture of her up since you thought she seemed hot. tbh i don't like bragging but shes ok compared to my recent efforts. shes deff super cute, maybe a 7.

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Your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny.

Id wait a few days (3-4ish?) and see what she does. If she doesnt hit you up u can contact her... shows u were doing other things and that your not needy. If shes only a 7 and u dont see yourself dating her then id just NEXT her ass right now... why waste your time?? unless u just want the experience of sex, hooking up, ect.. not sure if u need that or what that tho.

When i look for a GF i look for a "good girl" who is also sexy and puts out. if you got one of those... keep her. this 1 seems way to inconsistent and has a few red flags allrdy -- flaking, 2 drunk to text back?? just an excuse... flaky again.

Its all up to you tho... depends on what you want, but id not keep this girl in my starting 5.... shes a bench player at best!

GL
Duke