I need help guys.

So there is this girl that I met 2 years ago in Japanese class. We never really talked during that time, not much chemistry. Turns out she had a crush on me this whole time and so me started dating at the beginning of last month. We went to a date and the next day she came over and came to my house, we made out and I tried to escalate, however, she is very conservative and sex is very important to her (she has only slept with one guy). She is square and plays games, pokemon, Japanese stuff, Star Trek, she's just really nerdy.

Moving on....I had a trip planned to Japan for a month but needed to cancel for funds, I joked that she should come with me and she thought it was a great idea (she pays her own way, I just show her around cause I lived in Tokyo while in the AF).

We have gotten really close over the past 5-6 weeks. No sex, she lives with her mom and is traditional (for now). We make out whenever we meet. Due to both our busy schedules, we can't devote enough time to each other. 2 days ago on Friday she came to my house to talk.

Before we talked about how this relationship feels like a long distance relationship. So, she decided to breakup with me that day. I still made out with her after and told her lets just work through it like couples do. I eventually got her to say we're dating again.

However, she stopped responding to my text and so I told her "Lets meet in a couple months. You get your shit together and I'll do the same. Dealio?"

She responded with 3 text. She said deal and also "And please keep in mind that you never did anything wrong."
She said that because I asked her earlier, "tell me what I did wrong so I don't ruin future relationships."

Should I ignore her until both of us are ready to meet? Or should I approach this differently? Like send a random text or....?

She's a great girl that is very shy. She told me that she still likes me and I'm the only one she likes. We already met the parents, good experience. We moved too quick. I do like her but maybe I should just look at other women, she has an inverted personality and it is difficult for us to find time together.

Any tips please?
I'm new at dating American women, much different from Japanese women.

So confused....

Thanks in advance!

Yeah she didn't reply to your txts cuz she was sucking some big black cock! And for sure that is not your fault it is hers.

Anyway next time you will meet her, escalate to sex, if she still do not want to do it take your dick out and put her hand on your cock. She will get the hint. If she doesn't do anything for you, do it yourself and leave, cut all the contact. If she says anything, say that she is too hot and you can't be around her as a friend. If still doesn't agree to have sex/please you, NEXT.

I can understand the logic behind this. It just becomes a coin flip, only the guy should be able to calibrate what the likelihood is that she will reciprocate versus fly off the handle. It's not a traditional 50/50 coin flip. It's probably more like 75/25. Depending on whether there is a full moon if el nino is in effect etcetera, etcetera.

I can't totally endorse this behavior, but I can't totally deny that it is an awesome recommendation at the same time.

Oh well...I can't solve every guy's problems. I won't even offer any other advice. I just wanted to chime in.

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-Bluesy

I was in a very similar situation when I was in college which was ten years ago but the lessons learned still apply. After she broke up with you, you should not have asked what you did wrong, made out with her, or said lets work this out. I did all the same things, I even asked what she wanted from me, to which she literally laughed at(not surprisingly I never got her back). My advice is to cut contact, if you haven't responded to the lets meet up and a couple of months I would do so very nonchalantly if i responded at all. Next time you get broken up with just be calm and don't grovel or beg, just act like you saw it coming, and keep the conversation short.

Clearly you are into this girl but you have to let it go and maybe down the line your paths will cross again but for now I would say its over. I know its cliche to say go meet more women but go meet more women. Hang out with your friends, work out, play ball, sleep till noon, do whatever you have to do to keep your mind off of her so you can move on. Good luck

Well I texted her and told her to tell me if it's over or not so I can move on. She said that she's not sure about commitment right now and that she likes me but she just needs to fix something with her. Her mom tracks her iPhone, she's mostly at home with her mom (her dad passed away over a year ago and her mom gets lonely). She ain't fucking anyone, and yeah I did try escalating it. I was in the AF living in Japan, I know how to escalate shit.

Her mom would call her and text her. She has a curfew, and honestly, I don't want sex at my place because of no a/c in the summer.

Back to the text, i'm a broke college student and so is she. I told her lets get our shit together and meet up at this water park in a couple months. This way we can both get a job. We already have plans for next year to go to Japan, but I wont go as friends. I usually just go there to pick up Japanese women, didn't this year.

We hooked up during finals, if that matters. It was hectic.

EDIT: odyn, you're right. I told her when we meet and it's meant to be, then it will happen. In the mean time I'm working on making money and talking to other girls. I do like her, she's witty and different than the typical women. She crochets, actually really good. Not sure if I mentioned, but she's 19. I'm used to dating cougars.

Give her her space, if it was meant to be she'll come back when she's ready.