What happened here? I got into PUA to get the girls and I was doing so well for so many years. I got to the point like so many do where I wanted to try a relationship again. I picked the girl, a girl that would have been unattainable so many years before, and I easily got her. It was so easy.

So fast forward to now. I got the girl I wanted. We dated for a while and now live together. Well I guess along the way I forgot everything I knew and slid into a beta role. Not to the extent that I stopped fighting to be alpha, but I just wasnt doing things right. She became really controlling and throwing tantrums for attention. Rather than just freeze her out (which is much harder to do when living together btw) I would take the bait and engage in argument. I guess in my mind I figured I was holding my ground and that was better than giving in to her drama. Well I wanted to say I came back to this site and remembered that I was still giving her what she wanted, attention.

I am happy to say that I went back to the basics. I make fun of her little remarks, I dont engage in drama, I let her walk out if she doesnt like what she hears (without trying to make it better), and I dont text her back as often (and I have really put my foot down on too much texting). Well guess what happened; things are much better. We had even had some intimacy issues before. Obviously living together and sharing EVERY aspect of your home life has its affect on intimacy, but especially when there is a constant power struggle, tension, and drama. Well now I feel as though sex can be the reward for good behavior and a form of soft next can be used otherwise. Its just basic alpha principles and I forgot them.

So why I am posting this? I dont really know exactly. Maybe just to let you know that the abundance mindset can still be in play when in a LTR. I know that if she went away I would be fine. I dont feel like I used to with women in the past and worry if we fight she will leave and I will be alone and upset boohoo. I have told her to leave before if she is that upset and I walk out and she changes her tune by the next time I see her. She knows I care and love her, but she knows I wont succumb to bullshit either.

Good read. It's easy to become complacent in a LTR. I found this helpful. Always be the man who guides the relationship in the direction it needs to go.