Long post, but you need to get the whole picture to understand
So there is this girl at work. She is a HB8, HB9. Amazing body, really good looking, smart, loves exactly the same things that I do. We share the same humor, TV-shows, music, experiences in the past, etc. Every time we talk there is this moment we both realize how much we have in common. It's amazing and I'm really starting to fall in love with this girl.
'Special situation'
We work on a boat, so we are around each other during the whole week except for the weekends. We also sleep on the boat, so there is a lot of interaction between us. Now the situation is as followed: She had a 10 year relationship and she broke up with this guy October last year. She just bought a new house and here comes the kicker. He lives with her! Keep this one in mind...
She calls him her 'special situation' and not in a nice way. I don't talk to her about this 'special situation', because I don't want to be to be 'the nice friend and shoulder to cry on'. I let my other colleagues talk to her about this situation and they tell her it is weird and crazy. She surely does not want to talk to me about this guy. Which is a good sign.
We just finished a 2 week trip with a weekend in port in another country. During the weekend she held on to me. Where I was, she was. I waited to pull the trigger for that weekend. We went to a club with a couple of our colleagues. At some point all of them left but she wanted to stay with me. We did some intimate dancing. Her leg between mine and grinding each other, heads against each other and some kissing in her neck. Resistance? None.... It was great and this was the moment to pull the trigger. So I did and then she stopped me: "we can't do this here, because we will get a lot of trouble from this". She told me this, because there were still a lot of sailors from our ship around us. I accepted it and suggested to move to the other disco room in the club.
We went there and continued our dancing. Ofc I tried it again, because there was nobody around. Again she stopped me. FUCK! We walked back to the ship and unfortunately there was a sailor that walked with us. He doesn't understand the bro-code, so I got chaperoned the whole way back. The rest of the weekend wasn't awkward at all. We both acted like nothing happened and she kept following me. When I went for grocery she came without me asking her, in the restaurant she sat next to me, followed me to the bars and pubs while other colleagues went to different places.
Party #2
Now this week we had a party on board. At some point one of my guys came up to me and told me that she must be really into me. He told me that she was constantly checking me out and looking at me in some way. He reassured me that she must like me too. We went outside smoking and had some fun. I play the PUA games with her all the time, throw in sex talk, constant kino and compliance testing. I even told her at some point that I am not her brother when she started about some crap in the past. Just to tell her that I am a potential boyfriend and not a shoulder to cry on -> LJBF. So we went up to our own crew quarter with our colleagues and had our own afterparty. We started dancing again and everybody around us saw that there was chemistry. At some point it was a pajama's party
We went for another smoke and had great fun. When we came down she wanted to go to bed, but I told her that we were going to listen to our own song for one last time. I went in and turned it on and she came in. There was nobody to interrupt us and we started dancing very intimate again. I started plowing through and grabbed her ass and scratched her back. We held each other tightly and I started kissing and biting her neck again. I told her to bite mine and she did. Very nicely! I started to bite her ears and she completely froze. I was 100 percent sure this was gonna be the moment. Resistance? None..... So I pulled the trigger and again... she stopped me. She told me that she stopped me for 2 reasons. Firstly she has her situation at home and secondly, she doesn't want to screw around with colleagues. So that was it.. I hugged her and we kissed each other's cheek and went to bed.
What next?
Again, next morning it wasn't awkward. That cushioned the pain a little bit.
I really don't understand what the hell is happening! She is clinging to me. She is constantly looking at me and looking for my 'approval'. She dances with me in a way you wouldn't do with 'just a friend'. She accepts my advances like biting, kissing and licking her, but she doesn't take the next step. She knows I am into her.. Everybody knows! What is holding her back? I am out of ideas. The only thing I can think of is turning it completely off. Stop being there for her and just ignore her. Don't call her when we are going to eat (like I normally do) and don't ask her to join us on any activities when we are going to. Just freeze her out. Do you guys have any tips what I can do?!?!
CHAT
They will be in a group so I will choreograph them next to our group and show that I am the alpha male. Expecting that she wants a part of all the fun, I hope she will engage me. From then on I will escalate kino to a max and don't let her go for the rest of the evening. Any tips on that maybe? Isolating during that party is gonna be difficult, since it is a party/reunion with maybe 5000 (old) colleagues.