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| Aligieri | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 3:04 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2011 7:43 pm Posts: 27 Location: London | | To be bold like hell. I had a massive argument with my go when we were on holiday. During argument I said that I will move out(not for the first time however somehow it always work out between us) and obviously we had a lot of drama on that night. The same night I slept in one room she in another. Next day she came and ask me for a talk about night before so we had chat twice where she apologise. It seams that everything went back to normal howerver it's not. Since that night till the moment I wrote this she almost completely withdraw from physical contac which she always initiated.
Since we got back we are sleeping in the same bed but without any sort of physical contac at all from her side and my side, we switch of the lights and she turns back to me and I do the same. During the day we have normal conversation and laughing (a bit less than usual but there is no drama and anything like that) I left home for two days and none of us texted each other where usually we were on the ball with it( just call her to inform that I left in the morning and will be back next day evening) when I arrived back there was no hello kiss or anything from her side.
What I wanted to ask now is if I should be the person who will make a move to initiate contact( leading the relationship) or wait for her, usually when we had fights she was the one who did it first, or maybe there is something deeper going on and she wants to see if I care or smth?
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It came to my head right now that on Sunday morning when I woke up she was in the living room doing her work so I decided that I will stay few more minutes in bed and start watching "everybody loves Raymond" after 15min she came to bedroom, jump on the bed, kiss me on the cheek, lay down next to me and start hugging, then I said that we have to get up and we did.
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| krular | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 3:45 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Mon Jan 28, 2013 4:39 pm Posts: 231 | | Since you said she apologised to you, i would initiate first. After that i would pay attention and see if she goes back to initiating. Also you have the choice to ask her if there is anything deeper going on, after sex..
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| Aligieri | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 3:56 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2011 7:43 pm Posts: 27 Location: London | | Thanks for insight @krular and my apologies for editing post after your reply.
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| krular | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 5:35 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Mon Jan 28, 2013 4:39 pm Posts: 231 | | sounds like you should have skipped whatever you were getting up for sunday morning and went with what she was giving you......cause she initiated sunday morning, and if she apologised to you, then you have no reason to be holding a grudge.
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| Aligieri | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 6:48 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2011 7:43 pm Posts: 27 Location: London | | I should have done it. After I'm back from work I will jump in to bed and hug her and see what the response will be.
Do you think that her not texting/calling and no physical contact which is going on now after Sunday may be that she is afraid of me rejecting her?
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| krular | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 8:08 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Mon Jan 28, 2013 4:39 pm Posts: 231 | | its possible, just because she initiated sunday and you rejected her with "we have to get up". Sounds like yall will be fine once you get to the intimate part of your relationship again. you have to be willing to intiate this time, and do something to get her thinking sweet thoughts. But again, after sex, be watchful just to make sure she goes back to initiating.....if she doesnt then there is probably something deeper bother her.
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| Aligieri | PostPosted: Wed Jun 12, 2013 8:20 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2011 7:43 pm Posts: 27 Location: London | | On my way back home now. We will see what will happened.
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| Aligieri | PostPosted: Thu Jun 13, 2013 2:11 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2011 7:43 pm Posts: 27 Location: London | | So, I got back home and she was there. We started to talk and etc, on some point somehow I grab her bend and she didn't take her bend straig away only slipped slowly. I was conciliatory of that but thought that I will give another try in bed. When I wanted to fuck her I grab her ass and pull towards my dick. She said oh no, that she has to get up on the morning etc. I grab her harder, almost rip of her underpants and basically fuck the shit out of her the way you can see on porn. After we both finished she asked me why I didn't do it like that before( which I took as a mini shit test). I didn't answer that question by totally ignoring it, just said that it was awesome and drop half dead on the bed. She after coming back from bathroom lay down next to me and after few minutes fell asleep.
Today she has an observation while becoming a teacher so I just drop her text in the morning : good luck today you silly donkey.
Now I will behave normally but will wait for her to make a move.
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| krular | PostPosted: Thu Jun 13, 2013 5:40 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict | Joined: Mon Jan 28, 2013 4:39 pm Posts: 231 | | Sounds like a great evening. And with her reaction, she should be thinking bout it all day. Should be turned on by it and initiate something within the next few days. If not something else is wrong. But maybe she really just wanted you to take charge.
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| Aligieri | PostPosted: Thu Jun 13, 2013 10:53 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Fri Nov 04, 2011 7:43 pm Posts: 27 Location: London | | Now only time will show. I will leave it like it is now and wait thought the weekend and see what she's gonna do, if she will start kissing me again and etc. if nothing will happened till Monday I'm thinking about coming up with a question: "are you ok or there something bothering you regarding to our situation", or maybe I shouldn't ask anything and just make a statement some sort of....?
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| Wolfwoodd | PostPosted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 3:11 pm | |
| Offline | | Dedicated Member |  | Joined: Thu Jul 14, 2011 3:38 pm Posts: 752 Location: Sarasota, FL | | Honestly, I'd just continue with the aggressive sex. She seemed to enjoy that. Great sex can fix a lot of relationship problems. Second, your dating a very dramatic girl.. you shouldn't be in a monogamous relationship where you fight so much. On the whole, you'll probably be happier if you start dating other, less dramatic, girls.
Skip the whole "let's have a talk" thing. She's losing interest.. having a talk isn't going to help. You need to go out and have fun, work out, work on your social life, and fuck your girlfriend as if you're paying her.
-Wolf
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