I wanna share what i've learnt from an experience, i think its useful information, read it if you find it interesting
Im 25, average looking guy, i've always been like a nerd inside caring even about little things, so for that reason i was sexually in-existent when talking to girls, but i still had some nice sex because i met a lot of girls, so chances were those. I always knew all the theory because i read the game, 4 elements of game, 60 years of challenge, pandoras system, mystery method and so on, but when i went to the field there was something about me that simply didn't work when it came to attraction, something that had to be sorted before all the theory, i just didn't feel like the predator. Generating attraction is quite more rewarding than simply have sex with a girl that likes you.
But how can you remember all these rules you read around? just remember one!
basically to summarize, you have to feel the same way you felt that moment when you were a kid running somewhere and everyone was following you, because you were wild and free
My personal example (i didn't get laid but i learned a lot on that occasion), 2 weeks ago
I see a cute girl with her 3 friends in a smoking area, ( talked to her a few seconds on another occasion). didn't walk to her like a creep, but instead just turned at her when i was close to her and said Hi, she said hi, asked her 2-3 routine questions just for her to see i am not dangerous or crazy, i told her i think she's cute and after her "thanks" tried to kiss her with total conviction, (with her friends there), she rejected it, I didn't look disappointed at all, instead i said to her lets talk somewhere else (I wanted to grab her hand but calculated it'd be wrong in that exact moment so i didn't do), she followed me, i stand on the wall in a relaxed pose and she is in front of me, her friends come to her and ask her if its everything all right, she is like "yeah im fine i'll come inside later", i tell her do you think i'm attractive? she says yes sure, so i tell her "so whats your excuse not to kiss me right now" and i try to kiss her again with the same conviction, she rejects it and says i'm crazy, then she asks me questions about my course and what i wanna do when i finish university and stuff, i keep talking to her for a few minutes, i realize she didn't kiss me because i've gone too far using this crazy attitude. But it was there, i felt the pure attraction was there, i felt like in cast away when tom hanks makes fire for the first time, a beautiful sensation, a new beginning! I felt in control of myself in front of a girl! i felt i was the predator! I felt wild and free in all the ways she was not, thats why she kept talking to this crazy guy!
aniway we happened to be in the same bus heading home and i heard her friends were suggesting her to invite me at home, at that moment i was quite drunk so i didn't do any move, i know if i said that to someone he would slap me and call me any names that resembles homosexuality, hahahah, at that moment i just thought for today is enough and i was so happy to secretly hear her friends said that and to know that my new style had a good feedback!
i replicated that attitude yesterday night in another club in a different occasion and the fire was on, it was not a coincidence, i didn't get laid again, thats because i need to find the balance between wild and completely crazy, have to adapt more to her needs
aniway, if you reached this point of the reading, hope you enjoyed and excuse me for my english, still improving it
Van Pelt
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