Long story short, i just got into a relationship and i really like this girl, I've never connected to anyone as quick as i did her, most girls i sleep with kinda get on my nerves a little with their oh so predictable shit tests and silly behaviour etc.. its not oneitis, I'm not obsessed or whipped but i do like her especially on an intellectual level. I had lots of options before i met her and chose her over them all.

Problem is, I'm just starting to crack pickup. My confidence feels invincible and i feel I'm literally around the corner from being a pua, and like i have so much potential.. A relationship is gunna stop my progress but i definately don't wanna miss this opportunity with this girl... Stuck between a rock and a hard place

Anyone gone through anything similar? Got any opinions to share? I'm not easily offended so be honest, fire away lol..

She already fucked it up.

That's why your asking the question.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

The question you should be asking, is not one for us to answer. It's "What do I want?"

Do you want to have a relationship?
If so, it will most likely cripple your game to some extent as you won't be able to practice it as much. Don't get me wrong, you'll still be able to flirt with girls to some extent when you're out, but you get my point.

On the other hand, if you're like me, and love game not just becuase it gets you laid and improves your life, but also because of the different aspects of it, a relationship takes it to a whole new level. For me, it was almost like "You've made it through the hardships, now, here's your reward. Enjoy harvesting your fruits.". Then again, this depends on what you want.


If you don't want a relationship, the answer is simple. Try to make her a FWB, if it doesn't work, move on.

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

Non-monogamy, FTW. Just don't agree to be monogamous/exclusive if you're going to practice pick-up. Problem solved.

-Wolf

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if you really do like her, the decision is obvious - either go the monogamous route or do poly-honesty like Wolfwoodd is saying. I think that having confidence in your pick-up skills can lead to a healthier relationship due to a lack of some typical male insecurities - it's important for a woman to know her man can go out there and get some strange without too much trouble.

However (!) you don't learn relationship skills by not being in one - I think these things are much more challenging and take a much longer time to learn than pickup. There is a very subjective element to consider as well - at what point does picking up a girl constitute 'cheating'? When you look at her? When you open? When you DHV? After you qualify her? When you number close? All of those things easily fall under the umbrella of 'making a new friend' from my perspective - so perhaps you needn't completely stop working on your game, as long as you know if your girl saw you doing it she wouldn't get *too* jealous - most (sane) women will respond positively to you being able to have friendly and fun interactions with other females as long as you are only as piggy as you know she is comfortable with. On one extreme you have women that can't even handle you talking to other women, and on the other extreme there is the girl that would quite like it if you bring some fresh meat home for the both of you to enjoy, so it's important to do your homework and know what you're dealing with

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I'm not an afc
I'm not a pua
I'm just a dude, like you

I have been in several LTR and I want to make you aware that it never gets any better. You think, "Oh we're in love and you hang out for 6 years and then the seventh year rolls around and she gets the itch and decides to cheat on you.

Just do yourself a favor and be only polyamorous. The woman will be loyal to you to try and change you and meantime you can play around and she will not be left hating you, because she knew you were like that. I'm just being honest,.

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That's my $0.02

-Bluesy

bro! im in this exact situation now. i would say i've been doing good until this point but i have loads to learn. except this bird is cool and ive been burnt by a few girls this year and for once i want a chic that actually gives a shit about me for a change. i have a few kickers tho. shes moving overseas in 6 months, i have a kid she doesnt kno about and she doesnt know that im 7 years older. i wasnt being dishonest, just didnt think it was necessary to tell seeing i was gunna do FWB with her. i realise that this is looserville. but be interesting what anyone has to say on the matter

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Thanks for the replies guys! I've decided monogomy os not what i want.. I love game because it improves your life. My sticking point before was i couldnt connect, now i've got over that hurdle I think i got a little dumbstruck by the results. and tbh Sarging is just too much fun to give up