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What is your typical approach? Do you go direct or indirect? And how to do you transition after your opener? And what are some of the exercises you do to incorporate humor into your "sarge"?
Situation: A girl, who seems to just be strolling by herself in a big city weekend evening.
PS: I could care less if you've had 800 women, or not. If you have something new and fresh that I can use, I'll be more than happy to try it.
If I were forced to pick between the two, I’d pick indirect as it leaves more room to maneuver. In my opinion there is a time and a place for both. However! It is much more important to know “when” to use either one.
My own personal style of approach is 100% situational. Sometimes I’ll go ultra direct sometimes I will be the complete opposite, it really does come down to the target and the environment as well as any possible reads I may have obtained prior to the approach.( more on this later)
I’ve noticed a lot of emphasis put on approach through out this forum and although the right opener or sly remark can peek a targets interest and get you in the door, it really isn’t an important as most would think.
The approach should only be the means to gain your targets attention in order to commence your seduction attempt. Nothing else! The real pick up attempt has everything to do with the sub-communication between you and your target, reading the signs, making her comfortable and creating interest and attraction.
WHEN do I use INDIRECT OR DIRECT?
The recipe for me is quite simple, the colder the approach the less direct I am. The warmer the approach, the more direct.
INDIRECT
For example, if I am walking right up to a stranger on the street and we have had no sub-communication or eye contact and I had no chance to read her what’s so ever.( cold) I’d definitely go very indirect. Maybe and opinion opener, friendly banter, looking for directions or whatever comes to mind in that moment, all with the intention to warm her up ( no routine, purely situational) Im looking to utilize the time spent talking with her to gauge her potential interest and attraction, then act accordingly. (In the case of a cold approach, generally the more friendly, the more time you get, but not always) If the right signs are there, I will then begin to become more direct and escalate.
The thing you must keep in mind when approaching cold is the state of mind your target may be in, she could be busy, socially unavailable, have a boyfriend, be a man hater or have a huge shield up. Your job is to figure this out. The problem with going direct in this instance is that if she does have a shield up you could get blown out instantly and have no chance to work your game.
DIRECT
If my target is warm, or even hot I will be ultra direct.
Here is an example of what I have done to a warm target recently.
I was at a club, noticed a girl checking me out, within the next hour, she had given me multiple approach invites ( heavy eye contact, looking back at me as she walked by, coming into my perimeter hanging out near me. (very strong body language). To me this was a no brainer ( very warm) she was into me, I approached keeping eye contact the entire time got in close to her and said
Me: Hi ( in close about 6 inches away)
Hb: Hi, are you gonna take me to dance
Me: No I don’t like this song.
Me: You smell nice( put my nose close to the base of her jaw line and neck to smell her, “mmmm” as I placed my hand on the small of her back(
Hb: Thank you, so do you!
Me: My name is SA…( still holding my hand on the small of her back)
Her: I’m xxxxx
Me: You have a very sensual and naughty look to you, is that just a look?( heavy eye contact)
Her: haha, that’s for me to know and you to find out.
Me: What color panties are you wearing?
Her: black laced
Me: Damn! My favorite.
Me: I bet you and I could have lots of fun
Me: I’ll be back for that dance, don’t go anywhere beautiful.
Every aspect of this approach was direct, I may not have used a direct comment, but all my actions and words were stating my attraction and interest. All the signs were already there so I had no reason to not be direct. Attraction had out weighed comfort.
My(generalized)Transition- 1. Interest stated.
2. Flirtatious/cocky/sexual
3. Comfort/connection( re-assurance they have chosen the right guy to take home)
4. Sexual
There is a lot of people on this site that will swear by “ direct” approach and have success but in my opinion that style is much more of a numbers game with a high rejection potential (especially in a cold approach) and better suited to warm targets.
As for your question about the girl in the big city, on a stroll? Situation dictates an indirect approach, with emphasis on creating comfort before any seduction attempt. ( you’re in a big city, she’s alone and you are a stranger)
Let me know if you have any more questions regarding this topic