Hey,

First of all this is my first post so, Greetings from holland!

so here is the thing. i've dating a girl for 2 months now. But she recently went on holidays with a friend(female) to ibiza. I don't like the fact that she's goes there, but she already bought the ticket before I got to know her so i couldn't really do anything about it.. Im quite insecure when it comes to my girlfriend, alcohol and parties, but i try to trust her. She texts me everyday to say what she has been doing over the day and what she will do tomorrow, but she always texts me in a way to try to make me jealous (it seems). The other day she texted. "Babe i will be going out tonight and i met some boys who will take us to the party. Love you" and the day before 'I already got 3 numbers and a hat. lol those boys are needy, but i removed the numbers right away'

I mean if you are going to the party okay fine, but you don't have to tell me you are going with some boys..
and the same with the 3 numbers you've got..

Am i overreacting? Do i have trust issues? what should i say to her when she says stuff like that. should i argue about what boys or should i just text her 'okay babe be carefull, love you' ??

Ty in advance

Be unreactive to her texts as if her going out with the guys is no big deal to you and you totally trust her. If you act like a jealous wuss you will loose her.

this seems like a shit test to me, i wouldn't reply to any text i thought was meant to get me jealous

The second you bite her mouth will be around another guys dick using the line 'well he doesn't trust me anyway' to justify it

Yeah well, just don't give a damn about this. No need to enter her stupid games. If she texts you something like this you can just text back: "Glad you're having a good time hun, don't be too harsh with those poor dudes xo"

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Lmao this is utterly despicable...typical of the women these days...I'd reply with someone along the lines of...."ok [no cute names].....try not to catch any STDs and have a great time" and ignore her until she came back...if she did, that is

won't that make things even worse?..

That's not a shit test. Everyone loves those two words: shit test. Guys love to throw those words around for any obstacle they encounter. In fact, shit tests are administered at the very early stage to test your frame.

Your girlfriend is not testing your frame. She is simply being an immature little cunt. You can counter by either a) ignoring what she says, b) retorting sarcastically as breezy86 suggested, or c) bragging about girls hitting on you (but only if it's believable).

And no, b) would not make things worse. How? You are demonstrating that you won't accept her immaturity.

I would just text her back sarcastically like I'm excited that she got numbers from guys and tell her to keep having a good time. Once she realizes that you don't care (even though you do), she'll give it up.

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so today she sent me a photo of her in Space (club in ibiza) with another boy. I Didn't know how to react but i eventually said that I liked the photo and the guy looks like a cool dude. I was like wtf why would you send me this but I didn't let her know I did not like it. After 5 minutes she called me but she heard in my voice that I still did not like the fact that she was in Ibiza partying with other guys. She said: "Why don't you trust me" I replied with I trust you, i'm just curious. While we were calling I heard her talking to a guy saying: "Thats much sand you've got in your shorts" i assume he has no short on or am tripping?

I wouldn't have picked up the phone. Ignore her every time she pulls that shit on you. She'll start getting it.

That said, I highly doubt she's cheating on you, or came close. If she'd be cheating, she'd feel too remorseful to even tell you about the guys. The whole sand in his shorts could have been anything... Probably had sand in his pockets or something. Relax bro.

I disagree. If he had had the correct frame from the start of the relationship her girl wouldn't even consider sending him pictures like this. Acting up on it at all only strengthens the feeling in the girl that his frame is weak.

EDIT: Agree with this last post of Betamax though. You need to relax.

EDIT2: I don't think bragging about other girls is a good idea. Ad 1, it's try hard. Ad 2, she won't believe, as it's clear he doesn't yet have the game for that.

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She sounds like a prime grade A bitch. If she's acting like this and trying to make you jealous, obviously she doesn't deserve your devotion. Find a way to make a joke of her texts (no drama), go out, find a hotter HB (or several), and sleep with her. You'll find yourself caring a lot less about what your gf is doing in Ibiza. Don't mention anything when she comes back.

OP, you're missing something obvious here: there are other girls out there, most likely better than her in every way. Why bother with a little attention whore? She set the frame already. You don't have the upper hand.
You think she's not getting some while in Ibiza? What is you gut telling you, mate?

Today she texted me if I had plans for tonight. I said i was going to a birthday party and after that we would go out. I asked her what her plans were and she said she was also going out. I told her "have fun! i'll text you tomorrow xx". She replied with "okay baby you have fun too, love you xxxxxxx". So in the evening I went out and while i was in the club she texted me "I got home soon. How is your party?" I replied with "the party is great!!". She got mad and texted me stuff like "what are you up to?" "Why don't you ask me how my evening was" "why won't you answer me". i read the messages later because my Phone was rebooting by itself ( HTC ONE X stupid custom roms) so i couldn't answer her. I told her that I was just partying and my Phone was acting weird. She did not believe me...

I'm just wondering why she's acting like that. when she's home she never acts like this.

This relationship is driving me crazy..

That's boss.
You've just made her insecure. Good job.