| Ever since I first came across you guys ages ago, you've always been vouching that a girl has to be banged within a certain time frame from meeting her in order to avoid the dreaded "friendzone," and that friendship is a no-man's land.
However, I have mixed feelings about this mentality.
For one, I've dated some of my chick friends, and I've heard of many cases where long-time friends, or childhood friends, end up dating. In fact, one could argue that it's a good way to build a strong bond if you know what you're doing (in other words, not being a needy, sappy loser). Also, it could be a decent way to keep some girls on hold who might not be available to you for one reason or another.
Also, I think it's important to note that "The Friendzone" isn't a real friendship in the least, a girl who's friendzoned a guy (or vise versa), isn't in the least bit interested in really spending time with that person, or getting to know them, let alone being friends. It's really more of an excuse to keep the guy tame, once she's become aware of that person's feelings. In fact, the friend zone doesn't really happen when she utters those words, it happens way eariler when the guy is being overly attached and she's not interested, it really has nothing to do with friendship.
So then, how do the success stories work? Well, in my case it's been the following. I was never overly flirty or sexual with the girls who were my friends, nor did I ever openly show any affection, and I was totally (purposefully) oblivious to any of their signals. Even though I might have sent mixed signals from time to time, it was never really on purpose. I think the key is really being mysterious, but also being honest, and truthfully seeking JUST a friendship.
I think that really, you must move quickly once you've established a romantic interest, but prior to, you can extend things for as long as you want. But once you start being more intimate, and more sexual, that's when you gotta start taking steps, because a girl's patience will not last forever.
Just a thought, I think this might open some doors for some of you who have been pushing through easy sluts day in and day out and want a slight change in their selection.
Of course, this is open to debate and discussion, I actually would like to hear (rational) counter-arguments as "friendship is bad" is an idea that has been well cemented in this community.
I repeat, I don't think friendship is a bad approach to things, not if you know what you are doing and keep manage to keep desire out of everything.
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