Hello, guys!

I need some help with what I'd call a sticking point. But it's a sticking point with myself!

Well, first off, I'm going to talk a little about myself and say what my image of myself is. Based on some of my own parameters, and on what other say about me. Being true or not, I have to trust what is said to me.

Well, I'm 26, I've got a good job, that takes most of my time. I live with my parents and my older brother. I love making people happy. I'm very playful, love music, chatting. I do my best to be a good friend, and to be gentle to everybody.

This said, I must also say I've got a strange sense of humor. I already knew this, but an ex confirmed this fact. I don't really know how to explain that.

I think I'm a cool guy. I know I'm not the most handsome man on earth, but I also know I'm not ugly. I'd say I'm quite good looking, and a couple of girls have already told me that.

I've had a recent episode with depression. Have been working on it with Therapy for the last 2 years, which has been of great help, but I have my ups and downs.

I also tend to be very picky, and get tired of routine real easily.

Now, to my problem...

Even being talkative, and liking to be around people, I have some trouble making friends, and socializing.

People usually say they like me. But I feel like I don't make a difference. So I can't get different people to go out, do something different... I have the very same group of friends I had in School... And we're very very different. I'd like to know people that are a little bit more like me. And realize that I actually matter.

I've had some healthy relationships with nice and good looking girls. I really love the friends I have. So, I'm not a loner with absolutely no life...

But I just can't get to know new people. going to new places, getting to call new girls out... And this is destroying my self confidence, bringing me down, making me want to call my ex...

So, looking at myself, I know the problem lies within myself. But I just don't know what it is... or how to improve!

I have this impression that when I know someone new, or this person doesn't give a sh*t and ignores me, or it's like "Well.. he is nice..." but that's it, and it doesn't go any further.

So, I'm kind of lost.

If you could give me ANY advice, I'd much appreciate.

Thanks and peace!

I have been there too, I often have found myself ostracized, or not making new friends very easily, but I have never let it affect my self esteem. Some of the greatest minds in history were loners and had difficulties making friends.

It could be something as simple as your posture that is making it difficult for you to bring new people into your life. You should always be approachable, loosen up your face, smile a bit, and walk slower. This makes a difference after a while. You will get a lot more smiles from women if you walk slower and more confidently.

What I have been doing lately is saying "hi" to as many people as I can. Also following up with a simple, "how are you doing today?" while looking the person in the eyes can go a long way toward starting a good conversation, especially if it is someone you see regularly.

Some good advice for you.... STOP trying to make everyone happy and make everyone like you.

Truth is... MOST PEOPLE WILL NOT LIKE YOU! Be cool with that. Who gives a fuck if everyone likes you?

I like to go by TD's rule of 1/3, 1/3, 1/3...

A third of the girls you talk to will FUCKING HATE YOU. They will think you are a dick head.

A third of the girls you talk to will think you are cool but won't have any chemistry with you.

And the last third of the girls that you talk to will want to fuck your brains out and think you are awesome.

The more people you talk to, the better your chances are. Just get out and be social. Talk about whatever you want to talk about.