i met a 20 year old au pair from panama who barely speaks english...shes only been here for 3 months

i usually play a really aggresive game and this is the first time it hasnt worked...

last night was the first time we hung out, we went out and got frozen yogurt and came back to my place...im rebuilding my whole house myself so its pretty much a half finished construction site with nowhere to get comfortable. so i pull a chair up to my fireplace and listen to her yap on with broken english for about an hour...she just loved to talk so i just asked her questions to keep her going.

it was getting boring so i invited her to come outside to see something scary...she was like "no no i dont like scary"...so i grabbed her hand and led her outside...put my hand around her waist a for a few seconds to guide her around...she was cool with all of it...i walked her out to these 12 foot tall knight and shinning armor statues tucked in the corner of my yard. "omg thats so creepy" i give her a pat on the ass and brought her back inside.

then i tell her i have a torture chamber in my basement and convince her to come down there haha....its just weight lifting equipment but i wanted to fuck with her head

we continue a tour of my house and she starts talking shit about how nothing is finished "how can you live in a half built house?" blah blah blah...i playfully tell her to be quiet and stop talking shit...but she keeps going


so this is my move and it usually works for me......now she wont behave so i have to shut her up...so i grab her by the hair and drag her back into my bedroom and i hear a little giggle from her so i think im in...i turn her around and pin her against the wall and kiss her...she then says "no no i cant i need to get home soon" and shakes her head so i back off of her right away and say "ok" and play aloof... then she just keeps talking but everything is very uncomfortable for obvious reasons. i walk her to the door and she just stands there so i act like i dont care and go pick up my cell phone to reply to a text...shes still standing there waiting to be walked to her car,, so i queity walk her down the driveway and she give me my shirt she was wearing back and says "wow you smell really good" and then gives me a hug and points her cheek at me... i did not kiss her cheek...i played very aloof and said "bye."

she texted me about 15 minutes later "thank you for the yogurt i had a lot of fun "

i replied 10 minutes after and shes keeping a convo going...but im wondering if i should just go cold after i make her giggle a few times via text... force her to reach out to me again

...most girls comply to my sexual aggression but i generally date chicks in their mid twenties...this girl may have been too young so it could have been a comfort thing.... im just wondering how to play it now....up to this point ive shown no insecurity about the situation so there may be a chance still

wondering if the aloof act will work with a much younger girl

update:

being a dick isnt working so well
shes was texting and i was waiting a couple hours between replies...

our last bit of convo:

her: "so what did you get done on your house today?"
me: "just did some painting and planted a couple small trees" (i purposely did not ask her about her day)
her:"ahhh i see -__-"
me: " nice face, youre such a nerd"
her: "but you still like me lol"
me: "nope o:)"

have not heard from her since haha

Good thing you didn't kiss her cheek or you would've been done. What you did was smart by not giving her the validation she was craving by saying you like her. Go cold approach for awhile and show yourself in higher value. If she contacts you again set something up for 1 on 1 and go for it again.

thats how the situation is sitting

ill update if she makes contact

Read up on calibrating. Aggressive game, like other techniques is just that, a technique. The real skill once you master the techniques is knowing when to use which.

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she texted me tonight...so going cold worked out...kind of


her: "whats up, why havnt i heard from you?"
me: "hey been busy with my house, you?"
her: "you need help with it!"
me: "didnt i tell you to shut up about that!"
her: "ok bye.. i dont like being told to shut up"
me "im joking dont be so sensitive"
her: "bye"



this chick is a super sensitive type, cant handle an ounce of sarcasm...maybe it a cultural thing or shes just one of those super sensitive types with no sex drive

She just wasn't comfortable enough with you yet to let you kiss her. You didn't "climb the ladder" the right way and she knocked you down.

Lol... You went a bit too hardcore there, even if she is sensitive. Go cold turkey again and next time be friendly and receptive to her texts.

Did you even read the responses to this thread? You already said YOURSELF being a dick didn't work. Why would you try that type of game, AGAIN??

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telling a girl to shut up with an exclamation point is barely harsh hahah

Calibration my friend. What is not harsh to one could be harsh to another, especially one who CLEARLY from your own experience does not respond well to any type of teasing.

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mate, you trying to game her or push her away?

you should have called her to your place to help you, got some vodka, get her drunk and make a move.
always works like a charm!

Jeez,

Read between the lines... "you need help with it"------ Invitation.

To which, instead of setting up something, you told to shut the fuck up.

well played.

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There is a fine line between cocky/funny and just being a dick head...... You definitely stepped over the line on this one.

Idiot,

you should have let her paint your house first then told her to shut up.

I did the same thing you did a couple of months ago. Don't worry it's a funny story anyhow.

And if they are insulted by that, then they are boring as hell! As soon as I'm going on second dates and stuff I always end up wrestling or kung'fuing em. Some really hate it ( => dump ) others are turned on like crazy ( => keep ). some have declared me insane trading in 9's for 7's The way you game em should reflect the type of girl you are looking for, this one is not for you.

make up your rules and stick by them!