So i've posted on here before about this girl. A lot of people suggested she could be BPD, and while she may fit some of the criteria, i'm just not certain on this. Basically we had NC for a good 3 weeks, then out of my stupidity i decide to text her about a football game. Her team lost so i just sent a simple text saying "Unlucky tonight (name), Bloody saints!" anyway she responded saying "So humiliating". I just replied to this with "I'm in the same boat trust me" referring to my own team. I didn't receive a reply to this which was probably expected anyway.

A week passed by and i continued to miss her, I just can't get over her and i know it's against all principles, but I do want her back if theres a chance. I had a friend of hers just talk to her to see how she's doing and let me know, she seemed pretty happy but since they aren't close friends it could have just been the standard response. Anyway 2 nights ago i decide to text her again. This time I wanted more out of it, I need closure and answers and i haven't been getting any. I'm willing to accept it's over if it truly is, but i don't want to act like we're strangers and for us to be awkward since it didn't end on bad terms. I send her a text saying the following.

"I dunno about you (name) but this uncivilisation between us is not how i wanted it. I've had a lot of time to move on and reflect and I'm happy its all over, except for the fact you've basically become a stranger when it was never meant to be like that when it was over."

She didn't reply to this which i thought was pretty gutless, but then what happened next was much more bizzare. I noticed that no more than a couple of hours after she posted an instagram post saying...

"I just want you to be happy. And naked."

What does that even mean? Do you think it's about me or just a general statement. I have run over the possibilities of what it meant in my head a million times, but if it's about me she's treating this like a game. The fact that she ended it with me and hurt me, makes it so hard to understand that she would do this. Is she just trying to keep me there on the side until she wants me and is not ready to concede a friendship?

Anyway she never ended up replying to my text, and i thought i'm not just gonna let her sit back and play the games so i posted an instagram of my own saying "What i don't understand is how a person can tell you so many lies and never feel bad about it."

I want you people to keep in mind, I do still have significant feelings for this girl. I've tried to let go, but I'm struggling too and I'm willing to take more pain to have her back for whatever amount of time it may be. I was the happiest i've ever been when i was with her.

I almost said quit acting like a girl, but I don't know of any girls that would be this needy.

CLEARLY she is over YOU!
This wasn't intended for you. it was for anyone else BUT you.

Your needy behavior is NOT going to win her back, and why the fuck would you want to?

It's no wonder why so many men are becoming gay and shunning the risk of new relationships with women. A man always loses this kind of dispute with a woman. Things aren't likely to change until men stop letting a woman's looks deceive them into believing she's worth the risks. Gotta learn to look past the image and see the real person inside. And even then, be wary! Women consider lying to be acceptable if a lie gets the job done.

In order to get past her, and that is what you need to do, you must be prepared or willing to accept the responsibilities and risks.

Now quit whining and go get a new one!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

EXACTLY......quit being a girl and be a man and move on.

Unless you can turn back time,she is gone.
The worst part is that she maybe already dating someone else and you are just stuck there !
Life is too short,man up and go get another girl

Let's assume she is bipolar: does that filter help you justify her actions? You just learned a valuable lesson: women aren't consistent with their feelings, but it is their only true compass. It doesn't matter what she felt yesterday. All that matters is what she feels today and Goose...she's lost that lovin feeling.

What you need to realize is you're a young man. You will only have this youth once. Your value matures and hers depreciates. Be grateful you're rid of her now instead of five years and two kids down the line. People weigh their life down like that.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

So you did your own thing after members told you to move on and it back fired, never heard this story before

I feel your pain - i have been there, but you DON'T need closure/answers - anything she did say wouldn't be the truth anyway, at some point you have to realise this and move on, you have closure = women are by nature emotional creatures, from what you say this one is even worse than most, what exactly are you losing other than your self respect right now? You want her to give you logical rational answers - she couldn't if she wanted to thats male thought process not female.

If its causing you this much pain, delete her number, delete her FB, delete this girl from your life, remove every reminder - no contact move the hell on and think about the more serious problem; fixing your own emotional state.

NC only works when its genuine, when you actually try to move on - because when you do you will either

A: Find she comes back if NC works on her emotional state which is unlikely as it seems she's banging someone who isn't being a little girl

B: You'll actually move on!

I was here a few years ago with my girl - i tried to move on and i mean really tried, it was enlightening, it made me think about MY life in a way i hadn't for far too long, i found my life and myself massively improved/so much happier at the end of it and that my friend is far more important than she is.

Letting go will be your best shot at closure.

I'm the first to admit that I'm doing this the wrong way and that i need to move on. It's a lot harder, there's so many fine details that are continuously clouding my mind. I lost my virginity to this girl, we also took our time in having sex, like it wasn't necceserily a priority from the start. Then we did and it happened a few times, it was also her first in almost 2 years. Then that's when it started to go downhill.

She told me how she hadn't had a guy in her life for the same amount of time as her drought, and also that she wasn't great in relationships. I know all these things mean i should be moving on, and i'm doing so slowly, but yeah these finer details of knowing her history that the odds are she isn't seeing someone else at the moment.

One of her reasons for ending it and obviously there are factors that it could be a lie and the fact it was a month ago, are that she "didn't want a guy in her life at the moment". All these things add up to the fact that I am probably, and obviously its not definite by any means, but i doubt that she would of had sex more recently than me, and adding to that, i doubt she would have even got with another guy.

Anyway the last few days i've actually found things a lot easier. I'm starting to occupy my time more with a lot of other things and i don't think about her nearly as much. A lot of things have been going wrong, which has just added to the hurt and frustration, but it seems things might be starting to turn around. I'm just gonna keep going about moving on day by day, because you can call me a girl, as that's what it sounds like, but i'm not stupid, I know there's other girls out there for me and i will continue to pursue, but this girl and everything i know has just been doing my head in, and its tough to escape it despite how easy it may seem for some of you.

When a girl tells you she isn't looking for a relationship, she's telling you straight to your face in Womanese that she's not interested in a relationship with YOU.

But the male ego, being the devil that it is, makes you believe that somehow, through persistence, you can change a woman’s mind, which goes against the Reality.

All the posters here are not telling you it's easy, they are telling you to face reality.
Additionally when she tells you that, she is not saying she doesn't want to have sex, she is saying she wants to sleep around!

Of course you could stick around and wait till after she gets it out of her system, yet I hope you have enough self-respect to not develop an emotional attachment to a woman you know is going to fuck lots of other dudes, in the hopes that one day she will return to have a physical/emotional attachment to you.

Then again, even if you did stick around that long most women couldn't turn that kind of relationship into a sexual one, no matter how hard either one of you tried.

At best you would be LJBF's. Very counter productive to any futher pussy in your lifetime.

In the end, when a woman tells you she needs out of a relationship walk away because there is nothing left for either one of you to do.

Focus on yourself, your interests, your pleasures. That is what she is doing.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.