Hey guys/ girls,

I would like an opinion on this, my ex who broke up with me the morning before just appeared drunk saying that she missed me. When i asked her again what she is doing here she said again cuz she missed me. Anyway we ended up having sex, but before that she said " I am sorry i came, it wont happen again". Anyway even though i felt like sex and so we did it. It was clearly a booty call.

I want to get back with her so this is really hard, I'm just going to push her out in the morning and tell her its nice that we can be friends, but not to just come over, she doesn't live with me anymore... at least those are my thoughts on it.

I want her back, but i think she trying to use me to relieve her feelings.

I would love peoples opinion, also i checked her mobile out and she called some guy whilst she was waiting for me to open she called him 4 times, she wasn't sure if I would open the door. I looked him up by relaying his number against some systems and found out who he is, he seems quite.. average.. not a treat i would have perceived.

Thanks!

Just as an update, she woke up collected her things and left. I told her its a beautiful day and hope she has a nice day, she said weird thing to say... i said no its beautiful going to be a great day whilst i was ironing my trousers.. shes knows I am about to go to lunch in the sun.

I think i overdid it she kissed me on my shoulder and left, but this is what i noticed, she asked for her shoes and she walked away, i said i think you had them in your hands.. with her shoes in her hands she came running back asking what I said.. i told her and she looked a little baffled and proceed to leave, didnt hug her or kiss her i just didn't feel up to it.. just wanted her out..

Now i doubt i want to get back with her.. lovely girl but 18 hours later your calling another guy geez.. I thought a week would be respectful before she started shagging around.

She is a 9
Character 9
Stability and knowing what she wants in life 0

This is all you need to know.

I know, and this goes against everything logical but i want her back

Think of it like this: your girl was on your team and she wanted out to become a free agent. Fair.

A little time goes by, and she's not getting the kind of offers she thought she would. Negotiations fall through with other teams, she's rethinking things. You're looking really good about now.

If you want to fuck her, fine. But don't give her gifts, assurance, or any priority over any other woman out there.

Remember: she's a free agent.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Stability and knowing what she wants in life 0 but yet her character is a 9? Come on, bro. Just because she's hot, don't put her on a pedestal. Find new girls NOW. Don't do it to get her back. Just do it for yourself. If she happens to notice, so what. If she doesn't, SO WHAT. Forget her and move on.

THIS its obvious OP has oneitis over this chick.

Yes I agree I do have one-itis for this girl unfortunately. Things were really going well until she became depressed that her life was not going anywhere or so she thought. She is 20 years old so quite young..

At this point I have no explanation as to why she really broke up, looking back she planned the breakup at least 5 days in advance. I would say she was thinking of it for a month... I was with her for a year.

When she broke up she said that she needs to find herself.

Since the day I have ignored her, been out with friend.. I am lucky to tons of friends that revolved their last few days around me. Looking back I know I neglected her quite a bit, but I'm in the process of opening 2 business which require most of my time... it's always been my dream and I will continue to pursue it.

So I try not to blame myself but their is a lot to blame on me hence why I am so lost on this.

Dude, she's depressed and you're opening two businesses. YOU'RE the boss. Forget this trash girl, brah.

I know it sounds ridiculous, but she was a sweet girl genuinely a good nice girl. and it hurts so much... i know i wronged her by side lining her so much. She came to my house 18 hours after the breakup... so yes she might have been using me because she missed me and had to get her feelings in check... but why did she try and hang out and only left after i was being cold... all I have in my head is what if's.

Perfectly put.

Clearly you have to set boundaries with this person. If the relationship has run its course then its best for a clean break until your feelings for her have subsided, at which point you guys can figure out if you want a friendship or not. But for now you need to start loving yourself by not allowing her to just come into your life like that and run amock.

What would you suggest in this situation? I've been in similar situations before and followed roughly that strategy line and it worked for me.

No I wasn't. By the time she came back she had banged one guy (a complete joke of a nerd) and I banged 4 girls. I was pretty much over her but still had a soft spot for her. She said she'd do anything to get back together, so I took her back, and she could never live down knowing that while she was with a nobody I slept with girls that put her to shame.

Just because you fucked 4 girls doesn't mean you were over her, its obvious you weren't when you got back together with her.