| What's up PUA,
First thing's first.
I'm not here to learn how to pick up girls, I have a girlfriend (who I'm happy with).
However, I am a much more introverted person than extroverted and I'm hoping to change that a bit. I find myself keeping very quiet in social situations and being more of an observer than a contributor, unless I thoroughly know the subject/topic/people involved in the conversation. I am TERRIBLE with making friends unless I know more than like 50% of the people there. I used to not really see the value in meeting/getting to know new people, because I was happy with the people that I already knew. As a result, I feel like I lack the social skills required to meet new people. It's probably worth mentioning that throughout middle school/high school/some of university, I have been a pretty hardcore gamer that sort of keeps to himself (I still game, but I'm beginning to acknowledge that video games are more of a waste of time than anything.) Slowly and surely, the people I knew began to deteriorate (Move away, go through personality changes etc) and so the need for social skills has become more noticeably important.
I think my situation gets more interesting because not only am I anti-social - but I work as a nightclub photographer (which is an amazingly fun job) and obviously, I need to approach women. A LOT of them. Which should be easy, because it's my job to take their photos (and much more often than not, the girls are happy to have me do so). I'm usually fine with it, as long as I'm enjoying the music/having a good time. But sometimes -- maybe it's just because I'm not really feeling the music/not confident at times (even though I'm the photographer?? lol) I have a hard time continuing to approach women after being "rejected" a couple of times (simply them not wanting their photo taken. Although it's not necessarily turning ME down, but rather not wanting their photo going online//think theyre too sweaty/drunk etc) it still discourages me from moving on and taking other girls' pictures at times. It's worth mentioning that I do not have any female friends. What-so-ever. Unlike a lot (if not all) of you, I kind of WANT to become "Friend-Zoned" haha.
Anyways, I guess that's my social anxiety in a nutshell.
TLDR; Has GF/anti-social gamer/club photographer/needs to learn how to make friends
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