Hey guys first post. Been reading this forum for a long time though. Love it.

Anyway, decided to sign up for this thread.

The last 4 women I've dated all had ex-boyfriend issues. The first was living with her ex, I got out, 2 others I was a rebound, which was fine, but couldn't take it farther than FBs, and the last went back to her ex and I cut contact.

So in the past year & a half I've had some experiences with dealing with girl's and their ex's.

Met this girl about 2 months ago. After 2 weeks she came over one day and told me that her ex (they had broken up a few months prior) and her were going to have a talk and she wanted to hear what he had to say. I am pretty sure he broke up with her, though I am not positive. I told her thats fine & I respected her honesty, but I don't want to be involved with drama (On the outside that was cool, but deep down I wanted to scream because of what happened previously). Few days later she told me she was ready to be mine fully. I was hesitant, but I decided to go with the flow & try to not let myself get attached.

She has been a great girl with me since then. I know for a fact she's extremely attracted to me & likes me a ton. However I can sometimes sense that her ex is still on her mind. For example she makes a lot of facebook status's about moving on etc, shit like that. There was another small incident that had something to do with her ex, but it wasn't a big deal. Anyway...

Am I overthinking things? Should I get out? I'm a more emotional guy than others. I want to fall in love with this woman, but I don't want to get sucked in and get shat on lol...Thoughts?

I have a feeling you get caught up too quickly and fall in love easily. This attracts the type of woman who does the same.
So,
you met 2 months ago
2 weeks into that, she met her ex and a few days later says she's ready to be yours
so 3 weeks in she's telling you she's yours.

This sounds way too fast in my opinion. A girl saying that 3 weeks in???? 3 weeks in for me means sex and things are casual still. When you move this fast, you'll get girls who get caught up and then come crashing down to reality in a few months.

Not good for you its obvious her ex still holds the cards and she's not willing to change that. To be honest if her ex wants to get back in the picture your screwed. I wouldn't be in a relationship with this chick until/if she can get past this and would keep things sexual until then.

The girls you dated before this one have nothing to do with her. Did you learn things from them and did those things inform your future? Yes. However, let's not go off the handle because you realized the fourth girl you liked has ex issues. You have to wonder the kind of woman you're attracting.

Regarding this one, have as much fun with her as you can. If it's not enough for her, and more importantly, it's not fun enough for you, you know what to do.

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