| This is a bit harder than normal game, but there is a solution to this.
We need to treat this girl as a "Hired Gun."
In this situation, there is no time to DHV, Qualify, Escalate Kino, or have any meaningful conversations.
You have to passively demonstrate higher value and that you're a fun person.
Ideally, this is how it should be done:
if she's working:
Next time you go, walk in confidently, slightly peacocked (not too much; it is a coffee shop) with 2 or 3 friends (preferably all women; the more the better) and go order your coffee regularly with discreet flirting.
Sit down with your friends where she can see you being very social and laid back with kino - take pictures, tell funny stories, make some noise (laughter; not too much).
Hang out long enough until the place quiets down. When you're ready, make some eye contact, and immediately use an opener on her.
Done.
if she's NOT working:
It's exactly the same procedure as above, but this time you game another coworker; male or female (doesn't matter), and throughout the conversation find out if they know the target.
If they don't - forget 'em and come back when the target is working.
If they do - make friends.
How nice would it be to already know her coworker and for them to greet you as you walk in. Then they can introduce you to her. BIG DHV.
Done.
Now, this ideal situation may not be possible for you for many reasons, but learn what you can from it.
Good Luck.
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