Sup,

I found myself encountering with this problem more than a few times, and still can't find an answer to it, therefore raising this sticking point. This is where girls bring up conversations 'about men' and their freaking sore brake-ups. Yeahh, I know, right...

I don't know whether to build rapport on such a negative thing, cut thread or just to be an asshole.

If I build a rapport and find something common as, "Yeah, I know how you feel. I had a gf once... blah blah." If I do so, I feel that she will poop the words 'LJBF'. This also ring a bell that maybe every average dude tries to do that, which obviously we, here in this community, are not!!! haha

If I come over as an asshole, I'll be just an asshole. She probably will not give a shit, and just leave, as in some situations they have a stronger emotional ties with the 'ex' which automatically renders me a '2nd choice'.... Fuck being a 2nd choice, man. (I am letting go of my EGO, but common.. Maybe I would get laid once, if I would accept myself as a beta, but I am looking for more than one-time-fun.) If we accept that this female likes this guy more than ourselves, then, obviously, she will be running back to him at a first chance for some finger-banging.

Sometimes, it is freaking next to impossible to cut thread, as I had once this crazy woman in tears.. OMFG, serioussss??! There was good attraction, it was goin' well - push and pull, eyes, smiles, pokes and so on.. but then, her ex bf turned up and she fucking started shedding tears and I am confused dot F..com. So I started to build rapport about my ex gf and then, out of no where, I became a bit of an asshole by saying, "Forget him, it is not gonna happen; stop acting like a baby and move on." So then, I left and starting having fun like 'I don't give a fk'. I see her then dancing with some other dudes.. Afterwards, she 'passes' by me, like 10 times, with an indirect notion 'come dance with me'. Well, I thought, "Screw, you, hoe. I will not be 2nd option and I will not certainly be like these other guys that will just dance with you just to make you feel better, as this is another one way train ticket to 'LJBF'."

Any ideas, as to what to do? Please shed a light in the dark...

Thanks,
Seven

u know what man, ive had a very similar dilemma. in these situaltions, its better never to badmouth the ex's or any other guys. thats beta and shows you're insecure. instead BE alpha and move the interaction to where you want it to go. this is your frame and they should follow

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This kind of happened with a girl I'm trying to game right now actually

She's physiotherapist and we started talking about her last boyfriend and how they always argued, was really creepy with her and stalked and even got some fucked up iPhone app with which she could read the conversations she had with other people. I wasn't even planning on building some rapport all I cared at that moment was to get my back better. Anywho I was sort of mirroring all her statements, and added some sexuality when we talked about other topics.

The next session we were working and I saw in her face some excitement and felt like she was enjoying the session, she was sort of turned on.

Maybe you could give it a try next time this happens and tell me if it actually worked.

Greetings

Don't react to the ex issue. Sometimes you can even get away with saying nothing. Just completely glaze over and pretend she didn't say it, before pausing and changing the subject. Do not criticise her ex or she will get defensive.

Use Strawman Technique if she forces you to respond. That way she will remind herself why it didn't work out with her ex. Let her mourn the loss, it takes time.