Hello everyone, im new to this whole site so let me just give you guys a brief background and deal of my situation, and forgive me if there is something already written out there like this but i read the LJBF links and they arent in the same boat as me.

Im half way through my last year of high school right now and have a slight case of one-itis. Now being my age, i still believe that im too young to understand what love really is and that i have not experienced it truely with another person. However i am hung up this girl and do have strong feelings for her. Shes the quieter type, can be very shy, and is very undecisive on many topics. it wasn't till this year that she started coming out on the weekends with us and what not. as for me? i was the chubby kid in my first few years of high school and never got any girls and was always in LJBF zone. recently i have finally been comfortable with myself (looks wise) and feel so much more confident and charming. I have read up on the game but have never gone out there and put it into full use. but anywho thats enough of that.

So my situation:
The girl knows I like her and she liked me for a while too, we had a solid straight up talk about it all. however just as I was about to finally ask her out to start a more serious relationship, she heads off to her cabin at the last minute with her family for a week along with her friend. she gets back and shes sick and what not and always seems to be busy. So finally i hang out with her and everything is going good, but a few days later i find out from a mutual good friend who tells me everything that shes gonna give me the LJBF talk this friday night. my heart just dropped. apparantly it was her way of giving the message she doesnt want to take things seriosuly anymore instead of telling me straight up instead, cause she didnt want to hurt my feelings. well that backfired didnt it?
but it was strange, lately ive been getting these weird mood swings about the situation where sometimes im disappointed, and other times im really happy. maybe because i feel free and can move on to other girls? but i also really want to be with this one too. I dont want to simply just drop her though, I mean yes it could be too late to change things but maybe theres something I could do to flip it around in my favor. by the way, she doesnt know that i know she is gonna give me the LJBF speech on friday so ive been trying to come up with things to say and how to approach the situation in the best manner. any suggestions on how to do it? and also is there anything i can do to attract her again? to revive it? i was always kinda flirty with her but never did any kino or anything which is why i think it ended up in this situation. any help would greatly be appreciated, thanks a lot for your time!

This is exactly what I'm talkin bout Woooooooo

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Welcome to the forum. Truthfully, at the moment, hard to tell if you can get out of it or not. One way to find out would be to put kino in there, and a lot of it.

There are 4 basic attraction switches you have to flip, if you haven't already.
1. Leader of men
2. Preselected by women
3. Willing to emote (show emotion, but not be dramatic about it)
4. Protector of loved ones
Then you need to be willing to take risks, as in speaking up. Put yourself out there, regardless of the risk of losing her. You have to be WILLING to lose her.

thanks for you input guys. i know its not healthy to get into in some situations, and i try my best to avoid it but this one caught me. so we had the talk on friday which went pretty well. we discussed our whole situation, what we thought, looked back on memories, etc. and we agreed to be friends at the moment. however, i did manage to kinda keep the door open so i wasnt in lock down forever.

but after the talk i kinda realized things probably wouldnt have worked out anyways. mainly cause she was so indecisive and i had to take the lead 100% of the time. i was waiting around at the beginning of the night waiting for her to take me to another room to talk but i got so fed up i told her friend that i would be waiting for her in her room to talk. and apparantly she pussied out and was planning on doing it on another night instead. so her friend pretty much had to force her into the room with me. and once again, i had to initiate the conversation cause she couldnt do it herself.

anywho, it got me thinking that for a girl who is too pussy to follow through with her own plans, and can literally never make her decisions for herself ever, would have been a mess to deal with. I still like her and talk to her, but now everything is out in the open so we know whats going on. i lost a ton of interest (thankfully), and i cant picture anything serious happening anytime soon.

In conclusion: Shes a cool girl, i like hanging around her, sure i like her a bit more than a friend, but i know nothing is going to happen at the moment. so id rather just keep her as a friend than just forgeting her completely and have nothing at all. luckily things arent awkward when we talk either, which is pretty cool. overall it was a good learning experience and i already kicked start my game back into play. thanks again for all your guys's notes and what not on the site, really helped out.

-Mosphere

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Thats bad on her part to tell her friend what she was going to do. then she got scared.

Here's what you should do don't return her calls or messages distance yourself from her till you have her begging to hang out with you. and if you happen to run into her person be polite but end the convesations quickly tell her you busy. This will drive her crazy. I've done this to a girl i know she skipped her class one day just to find out what i was doing came over to my dorm room unannounced i didnt talk to her for a about 3 weeks and didn't return her calls....The day ended real nice

That might be the only possible reversal to the situation

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Hey man. Sounds like you've come to the right decision for the moment with this girl. What I would personally add to this situation is to make the girl a pivot for you. If you go out to clubs, take her with you for the social proof. Let her know she can meet some cool guys there too.

wahahahhahw nice going there man :D

hahwhawha

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

hello again everyone
heres whats new. quite frankly, i dont really care what happens anymore if something does come up between us, but ill still keep an eye out for it. recently i have met a ton of new people that seem like they have potential. as for her meeting new people? well we are still in the last year of highschool so we cant really go clubbing. but she is kind of socially retarded and barely even opens up to anyone. im really suprized i even managed to get into her social life. she would never in a million years introduce herself to someone randomly on her own, and for people who do approach her, she hermits up and barely says a word.

so heres the plan... or what i was thinking about doing, just tell me if this sounds good and throw in your own input: so, ive got a handful of targets at the moment like i said, that seem could have potential.

Although i feel over her, i dont really want to have to deal with any of the shit between us cause i was kinda wrong and things sorta do seem different/slightly awkward now. i feel really distant from her in sucha short period of time. i stopped calling her, and dont acknowledge her as much as i used to. and since everything totally flipped around on me in such a short period of time, i dont want to see her this weekend and deal with all this shit right now. i need a break basically.

So on some other weekend i wanna get one of the potential targets out along with her. do you think using both girls as pivots can spark something up? i mean bringing up jealousy in both of them, by flirting with both and just messing around and throwing in some kino, and a bit of dancing and what not? like i said, i just wanna have fun with it all right? good idea? yes or no? and what ever you think of it all jus give me the heads up on why. also if you have any other ideas on how to play it give me a shout out. thanks guys

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If you take her out with another girl, with the plan of using them as PIVOTS, then do just that, use them as PIVOTS. In other words, I wouldn't flirt with one to make the other jealous. In fact, I would use the social proof that THEY give YOU to open OTHER sets and game other girls. You can even tell the two girls you bring that they can talk to other guys or whatever. Or, just tell them you'll be back in a bit or something. But use the social proof you gain from having both of them to game other girls, and other sets will almost fly open for you, because you've got that social proof already. And THAT, my friend, will make your two pivots jealous more than you flirting with one to make the other jealous.

LA Tripp are you serious??? telling this guy to use her as a pivot??? He's a beginner He just had a case of oneitis. Thats not much different than a nicotine/drug addiction. As soon as he starts being around her again especially in such a short time he'll start back with his infatuation yet again. He'll hardly want to be picking up other women in her presence. Any thing she does right now that can be taken as flirting will knock him off his game.


onemosphere right now you need to distance yourself from her greatly(like you seem to be doing at this point)thats the only way to get over it. Use your other girlfriends as pivots NOT your oneitis.
The oneitis has missed out on you the PRIZE she needs to realize it. Distance yourself and she'll wonder what your doing and why your having so much fun without her.

Now You can not take my advice and learn it the hard way.

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hey guys, once again, id just like to give a shout out and say thanks for the input and i really appreciate it. i see where you are both coming from. i told our mutual friend to not bring her to this massive party this saturday cause i dont wanna deal with any of that shit right now and i feel its also a good way to distance myself from her.

however, although i have been distancing myself from her, my one-itis has really died down. we go for lunch with a group of people everyday at school and me and her always sit next to one another. but i barely even acknowledge her at all, and it doesnt feel like its coming back, or anything when im around her. sure i feel a little weird inside, but it hasnt gotten any stronger from the small amount of time ive been hanging around her. i know i probably shouldnt be hanging around her at all, but its kinda hard not to since ive been hanging around with the rest of the group for so long and we're all so close.

but she most likely knows somethings up for sure. i used to be really talkative with her all the time, and now, like i said, i barely even acknowledge her.

it also seems like she playing the game right back in my face. i know shes not trying tobe a bitch or anything. but when im walking in her proximity she kinda turns away and acts like shes busy doing something.

any other words of advice, or ideas that could help out a bit?

-Mosphere

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hey just joined this chat, my strong advice to you would be to get together with someone new, and don't tell her about it, let her find out through your circle of friends. by you being with someone else she will be jealous and want you because someone else has what she originally wanted. If you don't want her back than she is just good for the ego. don't be discouraged by any of her actions it seems she is just as messed with the one-its as you are. what you are feeling inside is just residual loss of something you wanted. ignore it. this hand has played itself and if you stay as her friend but keep the kino going, as you date others, she could easily become a fuck buddy in the future. man if you get a heads up of a ljbf talk again (not likely) from any girl make sure you open her first give her the talk, in its own it is like a neg. you tell a girl whom assumes you are in to her the ljbf talk she is a little takin back because she thought you were in to her and it makes her reassess the situation

sandwich, welcome to the forum.

one . . . this is the premise behind my advice. You treat her as a pivot, you have your inner game solid so that SHE doesn't affect YOU. Whatever she throws your way, DOESN'T BOTHER YOU. That's the key. So, you let it all roll of your back like it makes no difference, treat her as a pivot, get a friend of hers with you two, and treat her friend as another pivot. Then, you game OTHER girls, because you are OVER your one-itis with THIS girl. This is good for your own confidence, and will most likely make her jealous too. Thus, flipping attraction switches. Then, if you do want her back, she'll likely be coming back. If you don't want her back, you'll have other options anyway. Win win.

Something told me I would just be typing for my health.
Well its friday night I'm off to find the baddest chick at the club.
Wooooooooooo

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Thug, you shouldn't get disappointed because I or someone else disagrees with you man. We're expressing our own experience and suggestions and opinions. Each one of us comes from a different point, so each one of us can help others in different ways. I was merely explaining my viewpoint.