Hi everyone,
i'm having a situation with a girl i like (not just for sex lol) that i can't seem to understand because of too many mixed signals and myself.

*SORRY FOR THE LENGTH BUT I REALL NEED HELP lol, so i'm giving all the details

Since 2 years after school i go study with some friend at a coffee shop where there's a lot of students ou there. This past year, i started university and when i came in with me friend, there was a new girl working there. At first, i was like she's pretty and that's it (i'm too focused on myself and too shy around girls i find pretty and i ovethink a lot and i never really wanted a girlfriend, i have a lot of girl friends tho that i talk normally and i tease easily without stress and i'm in général an outgoing person when you know me always was the center of attention without wanting to).

So after few weeks going to study there, i went to order something and that pretty girl was the one to prepare it to me, and it took like 2-3 minutes. She breathed out (kinda like tired) so i asked what's wrong (because i found it kinda akward to leave a silence out there). She said she was tired and i said did you work a lot today and she said from 8 to 5 (it was 4h30) i said oh don't worry you're almost done and my thing was ready so i said thanks and left.

Saturday morning, i went to the coffee shop all by myself to study i sit down to a random table and when i raise my head she's in the far table right in my face staring and look down at her computer. So i started studying and after some few hours i feel like someone's staring at me i raise my head she's staring then looks at her nails and she's biting them. At night, she was leaving and she took all her time to leave while walking toward me (where's the exit) and she constantly looked at her down right. I started getting feelings for a girl for the first time of my life at that moment (i'm 21 lol).

After some few weeks, i went to order a hot chocolaté and she was there working with another girl. They asked me if the coffee was to take away (plastic cup) or for stay. I said to stay and the pretty girl said something and the other girl said oh that's mean but i didn't hear so i said what? And she didn't want to repeat it so i said to the other girl tell me i wanna know so she repeated (the pretty girl turned red laughing), and it was 'we only got cups to take away but it's fine because we don't want you to stay'. Then i was hurt inside but didn't show it so i just smiled saying wow that's mean, really mean. And a third girl working down walked down the stair saying ohhh don't tell me you're mean with clients. Then while the pretty girl was preparing the hot chocolate she said 'i'm gonna put you extra cream to apologize' and believe me she putted hell of a lot of it, so i said it doesn't change anything, i'm still gonna cry but with more cream. She laughed and i left. I then crossed her after like 2 weeks at the gym' hall (we were alone walking toward each other) at university and she just was looking at the wall so i didn't say hi i was like she doesn't recognize me. ( like i said i'm shy even tho i don't look bad and i dress pretty well and i'm pretty fit i look alpha and i don't lack confidence with men just girls i have a thing for)

After some few weeks came the end of semester so i didn't see her for a month. After the vacation, i went to the coffee shop and it's like she knew my days i went there. One time, she was cleaning the floor and she did so right next to my table for like 2 minutes lol. And everytime i see her she gives me glances and she fast look away (she's quick as fuck never seen a girl look away like that). Her co-workers (which are only girls) always flirt with me too (not like they like me but they always extra nice with me maybe as a friend and they always glacing at me and they touching hair, sitting table next to me, etc, and smile a lot when they see me but i just say hi politely and ignore them. So at that point, even tho i lack confidence inside and i overthink everything in my life (while i take school exams i'm thinking negativity), when i see someone in the street look at me i'm just gonna be wtf you looking that in my head (even tho i'm not ugly lol i know i look alpha but inside i'm not).

Then one time, i saw her at the gym with one my 'friend' (more like a girl i know from past school than a friend but we have many common friends so i see her often when we go out and we're friends on facebook lol). So while i was lifting with a friend she randomly came and said hi to me and i saw the pretty girl with her and in my head was thinking shit they know each other lol and i just said hey how are you, she said good thanks and they left. The week after, the pretty girl was working at the coffee shop and i when she gave me my coffee i was about to go upstairs and study on a table when she said hey, you know 'and she named the mutual friend from the gym' but she said it in a kinda shy way she was lightly nervous and became red. I was like yeah i was surprised we used to go to the same school. She's like in what field i study so i said actuary and she was like oh my brother used to study that but stopped because it was too hard and she cracked a laugh (she lives alone here she,s from france and her whole family is in france she goes once in a while per year). Then i laughed and asked what she was studying and asked her for her name. She gave it to me but she never asked for mine (but i'm almost sure she knows it because i got a lot of friends at the coffee shop that i didn't see for long time and they yell my name lol sometimes girls too i'm good friend with). I then said cya later and she said good luck for your exams and i said the same thing (it was final exams before summer time). At that point i was like ok she does like me cuz she initiated me after looking at me all those months, and everytime i order something or i talk to her, it's always akward between us 2 (she doesn't act like that with others) without me wanting too, i'm normal but she acts like shy or i cannot explain why.

So the day right after, classes stopped so her and i use to go to see at the coffee shop pretty much everyday cuz a lot of students study there. She was sitting dressed pretty well (kinda intimidated me lol) at a table far from me but facing me (she came after me). While i was studyin, she constantly was staring at me over her computer, and my heartbeats was fast as hell. Then after few hours, i was like ok this cannot go further next time i see her looking at me i'm gonna ask her out (i never did this before in my whole life but i told myself if i don,t do it then nothing will happen lol). So i just climbed those stairs went from my table and she looked down to her papers knowing i was going toward her and acted like nothing. Then i said excuse me, can i talk to you for 2 minutes at the terrace (cuz it was really hot inside and i wanted to talk without all the people around). She then said i gotta check out for my girl friend' computer is it important? I couldn,t say no lol so i said yea kinda. Then she cracked a smile of nervouness and said what tell me?? I said can't you come just for 2 minutes, she then said repeated i cannot i'm checking for her computer just tell me and we'll go at the terrace after if you want. In my head i was like ok w/e so i just sat down and asked how is she doing for her exam preparation. She then said pretty good. Then i said when are you done exams, she then said tuesday, and i said do you want to go out for dinner to relieve stress right after that? She said an instant yes then said, oh but i have to move out (she had a fight with the other girl she was sharing appartement) and then said but after that it's fine. I then said can you call my cellphone (left it on my table) she said sure called it and had her number. THen i said gl with the exams (because i didn't to bother her anymore) and she said the same. Faster than you know, she had like all her co workers up there at her table talking so i started overthinking in my head while studying i was like oh wow there it goes she said everything and i kinda felt bad they'll see me different now when i'll order. They became nicer with me giving me smiles tho the days after. Then the following 2 days i saw her at the coffee shop, she would study there with friends, her girls will take glances at me from time to time but her she didn't look at me ONCE, not even once but i know she saw me... She was laughing out loud all the time and talking loud so i acted like i didn't see her too and i studied (because i had exams no time to lose). The day after same thing happened. And at the end of day, before she left, she said to her friend in a loud voice (with a frenchy accent she's french) : 'love is an art that is learned'. And her friend looked at her kinda mad.


So the day after i decided to call her at the end of the day (just to see how she's toward me) and i called at like 8 pm and she didn't answer. I was like ok.. Then i was mad all night long and in the morning i receive a text from her saying 'hey sorry i just saw your call'. Then i waited like 5 minutes and said 'hey i just wanted to know if you had sometime this weekend to grab a coffee and talk (cuz i wanted to take the akwardness away by knowing her and we study at a fking coffee shop it ain't hard to grab one lol) which to she replied 1 minute later 'i still have an exam tuesday so i gotta study ' . To which i answered 'alright tell me how it goes, good luck!' to what she replied 'thanks '. So in my head i was like ok she isn't mad.. Then 20 minutes after that (lol) she came to the coffee shop and took a seat that was facing me but i was giving my back so only she can see me. I still continued study (i was with a friend who kinda knows her because they study in the same field but he's 1 year higher) i didn't bother, and at the end of the day before i left, i told myself i cannot leave without saying hi knowing we texted this morning. So i went up to her and my friend (cockblock) followed me and i asked her 'hows the studying' she replied with a shy smile i'm tired then i asked her about the rest, then my friend came to the convo and started talking about their school and their initiations they've had (which pissed me off cuz i couldn,t relate) but she was mostly looking at me the whole time while she was talking and touching her ring on her hand. She talked a lot, and she started talking about her life (her co-worker asked me if i wanted to sit down) with details lol (i didn,t even ask questions at that point she just kept talking) then she mentionned she was leaving to New york for the weekend friday (so in my head i was like ok she said we would date after her exams now she's going to new york but i said nothing). Then i said goodbye and once again i had a confirmation that between us 2 it was fine and she wasn't mad or anything even if she acted like she didn,t see me. The day after i came to study all by myself and she was there with some friends and at one point a girl came to a table next to me with a gay dude lol and started flirting with me but i didn't pay no attention at all, didn't even glance at her once, i focused on my studying. After an hour, the girl i like just went down the stair grabbed a coffee then went up and i looked at her and she said a big hi with a huge smile, i said hey sup but she passed me fast as thunder to go sit down with her friends at the table behind me (idk if she didn't answer or she just didn't hear me saying it).

So came tuesday, she's done school. I told her before i was finishing thursday. So i gave her some loose and texted her wednesday and asked her 'hey when are you leaving to Ny' which too she replied after 2 minutes a simple 'Friday'. I then said do you want to go out tomorrow or until you come back which too she directly replied a 'im moving out tomorow' i then said can you text me when you come back (so i stop bothering her) to which she answered after a minute 'yupp' then i said alright enjoy your trip to which she answered 'thankssss'. So at that point i was confused cuz her answers seemed cold to me but i waited. After 2 weeks, she still didn,t text me but i know she was back (stalked her twitter). So i texted her 'hey are you back from Ny?' she took 30 minutes to answer 'yupp' so i asked her 'how was it' she replied 'niiiiiiice' then i waited a little and said (cuz convo were getting boring) 'you didn't become stunned by all those yellow cabs i hope' to which she directly replied 'haha no i'm fine' . She started to piss me off because the convo was dry but not because of me, she was only answering with small words but it didn't seem cold answers to me. So i asked 'and your vacation?' to what she answered 3 hours later (at mignight..) 'very good! you?' so then i was like ok she's making effort but i'm gonna answer tomorrow fuck it. In the morning, i answered ' pretty good too! hang out with friends and gotta study for first actuarial exam '' to what she answered 5 hours laters with 'ohh good luck! i got so many things to do that i don't even have the impression of being in vacation', i waited 30 minutes and i said 'how come ;o' to what she replied 3 hours later 'work, many things for the appart., and everything (she said some weeks before she's working all summer long at the coffee shop and she just moved out). At that point i felt the convo was going no where so i just said an hour later 'i gotta do study and go out, try to relieve the stress so you can feel yourself in vacation well text again!' To what she didn,t answer but i assume i ended the convo so she had nothing to say, anyways.
The same day on instagram, she posts (i saw the picture because i'm following that mutual friend on instagram and she liked it and saw it on my newsfeed) a picture of herself the same night going out for drinks while she said she has so many things to do. And the day after when i stalked her on twitter (she doesn't know i got one) she tweeted 'gosh so many things to do doesn't feel like vacation #stressed.'

Now today i went to the gym after a haircut and saw her on a cardio machine far away, but i acted like i didn't see her cuz i didn't want to go to her after like 1 minute of going in the gym and act needy and always going to her. I start an exercice and 2 minutes later i go to drink water and she wasn,t there anymore, she left lol. Except that i saw her from the mirror looking at me and she knew i just came there. So i found it EXTREMLY weird that she just left like that (usaully she does abs etc but now she just sneaked out, and she must of left fast cuz she has all the way down to walk)


SO NOW i'm mixed and i really need you guys help for this cuz i don't understand a shit and i even asked many friends about this and many GIRL friends and they all tried to give me advice but they all confused too.

Here's the key tips:

me: i'm good looking, i look alpha with an alpha body but i overthink a lot cuz of many failures in my life, even tho i was always the center of attention at school because i was captain at sports, i was kinda popular and i'm always nice to everyone never had someone who came to me saying he/she doesn't like me when i tease people i do it nicely. But i don,t have much experience with girls but i just try to not act interested and look focused on my things to not act needy and not creepy.

I'm someone who girls tend to flirt a lot with (in the bus, school, you can read it in body language, not all of them tho) but i always act like i don't see them or give a long eye contact and let em stare down so they be too shy to stare back at me.

her: Usually i'm the hard one saying a girl is pretty when i'm with some friends, but this time they don,t find her 'that' attractive and i find her pretty good looking. My friend told me honestly that she's not out of my league at all. Her friends are mostly girls, she has a young attitude (yolo, etc and shit like that lol), she 99% of the time wear leggings, she talks with guys at second cup normally but with me she's just strange and weird.

Now i got 2 situations in my head:
1: She's not interested, but i don,t get how with all what happened and how i acted, because she answered texts kinda fast
2: She's very very shy (possibly) and avoid me for that

Can you guys please please help?