been seeing this girl for 5 months now. absolutely stunning by still v insecure.

She regularly ask me to write her a message before she goes to sleep detailing how I feel about her/our future/kids/where we will live etc. I do love her and feel that it is stuff that i want too but am well aware that relationships end so dont neccesarily believe all that I am saying

I never ask for anything back as i dont need that affirmation.

Is me providing her with these messages a beta move? am i exposing my feelings too much without her having to expose any? Should I be fobbing them off so she craves me more? Don't want too mushy and loose her.


thanks

She is batshit insane. I thought I had it bad with having to remind my gf that I still want to be with her every day. Draw the line at "I'm with you, I love you, and that should be enough from me." Don't cave to her insane demands. A normal woman will not demand that you tell her about your future kids every day after 5 months of dating.

Amen brother. Her need for validation is extreme. 10-1 says if you tell her this, her response will be to break down in tears about how badly you hurt her, etc. My advice, tell her straight that you will not do this anymore because it makes you uncomfortable. Tell her you can't give her this, it's just not something you can do forever. Tell her it's her choice to accept that or not. Be ready for her to pack her shit and leave because you can't build her up completely. Be ready to remind yourself that nobody should have to do that forever and you're better off without her.

In the event that she takes this with maturity, which I think is unlikely, then you can feel good that being straight with her made your life better.

"write letters of how you feel about her at night "

Your a fucking man, men don't do that shit.