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DO NOT use FB to game. DO use it to keep in touch with close friends and DHV.
We're pretty similar in someway so let me tell you my story and let it be your inspiration.
I came to US from Vietnam where I was 15 with no English skill. Spent 2 years of high school as nobody with only a few friends. I went to college and it took me 5 years to finish with about 30 close friends in my circle. My GPA isn't great enough to apply to med school. I'm still trying. And I'm living with my parents at the moment. Why am I telling you all this? Yea sure, I can use all those as my excuses, but I chose not to.
In high school, I couldn't even have the guts to talk to a white girl, let alone hitting on them. I was invisible in high school. To college, at my first year, I made some Asian friends and all I did was hanging out with them. Then one day I realized I was trapped in my own comfort zone and culture. It felt safe but I was like a frog sitting at the bottle of the well and thought the world is only that small. I decided that is not something I want for the rest of my life. It won't be an overnight transformation, so take small steps and stick with them. You can follow the cold approach challenges people have on this forum. Reading thousands books won't help, no one can teach you the actual experiences. It's your journey to take on.
So I made some changes. I started forcing myself to talk to people in classes and asked them to let me hang out with them. Some parties later and I had my first kiss at the age of 20. I have always been quite a friendly guy with great sense of humor and I know how to keep girls interested. But I couldn't go any further and scored because I was too afraid to make a move. I was still a virgin so I decided to gather all my money and paid for a hooker. I lasted 3 seconds. And foolishly enough, I thought in order to get girls I need to be good at sex and it would take practices. So I paid for hooker the second time. I lasted 15 seconds this time. Only after that, I realized that was a stupid idea and decided to put all that time, money and effort into improving myself instead. But I always made excuses along the way and was stuck again inside the endless circle of WOW and unrealistic internet long distance relationship.
In 2011, I discovered PUA as I was googling why some of my dates would never called me back. I was 24 at this point, I've had kissed about 8 girls, fingered 6 and had sex with 3 (2 were hookers) my whole entire life. I decided I need to change. I found the tools that helps, but if I don't push myself, nothing would ever happen. I started doing cold approaches, I had to give myself a pep talk for like 30 minutes every single time prior before my first set of the day. I basically had to curse at myself inside my head to make myself gather the guts to hold the girl hand on my first dates or going in for the kisses. It was hard, it was tough, it was uncomfortable. But I pushed forward and learned from all my mistakes.
At first, I could only land 6s and 7s. But now, 2 years later, I'm 26. I became quite good with online dating and f-closed most of them on first dates. However, daygame is more of my focus because it's the best way to improve your skills significantly. I still have approach anxiety where I do day game but I have no problem with talking and creating attraction with 9s or 10s. I'm racking up my laid numbers, I sleep with about 1-2 new girls every month in the midst of all the fuck buddies, working, school, day gaming and online gaming. And I've never slept with an Asian girl my whole life. I refused to do it the easy way. All the girls I've been with were either Caucasian or mixed. I have attractive women as fuck buddies, I've become great at sex. But I am, by no mean, at the top of the food chain, so even now, I'm still reading, researching and experimenting with different stuffs to become better not only with women but in every other aspect of my life. At its core, your inner game and personality is everything.
In all, if an average Asian guy like me (I also balding) with heavy accent and no exceptional talent for anything except for my sense of humor, can make such a changes, then you sure as hell can do better than me. All you have to do is put your foot out of the door and keep pushing on forward no matter how uncomfortable things are. Giving up is easy, everyone can do it without any effort. But if you endure just a minute longer, you're already better than hundred or thousands other people. It's not an overnight transformation so take small steps and stick with them. Reading thousands books won't help, no one can teach you the actual experiences. It's your journey.
Nice novel, but I strongly doubt that your experience is real. You have great imagination my friend.
CHAT