You're getting closer to the reason you have a problem with it. That's where you'll find your answer. Not from someone telling you "Just do X, even though it's contradictory to your personality and you won't be able to maintain it for long..."

You're spot on - you thinking that she's thinking about another guy, makes you insecure. But no, the answer is not to magically make her forget. Unless you have special penis powers, no, you can't fuck her in a special way that makes her forget about every guy she ever slept with. Have you forgotten about every girl you've ever been involved with? No. But it doesn't matter obviously.

Think about it - 99% of the women you meet are going to already have had sex or had boyfriends by the time you meet them. And they're probably going to come up in conversation.

I already posted volumes about "it's how you respond to it that matters" in the first post, and I didn't really get a response, so until I know more about how you feel about that, how you do react in front of her, I can't help you any more just yet.

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I didn't say your whole post was shit, I selected two points I disagreed with. The rest of your first post was legit.

However, I accept that I was critical of your points without offering a constructive alternative so:

1) Instead of getting mad about this girl calling a guy "hot", just get into the habit of doing the same to her. Remember that hot girl you saw in the club last week who started talking to you? Mention it next time she talks about a hot guy, she will get the message that she needs to STFU about other guys, because she will feel the same jealousy you felt and realise it's not a nice feeling.

2) If she talks about an ex boyfriend excessively, there are several ways you can deal with it without calling him a moron. First you need to establish if she dumped him or if she got dumped by him. a) If she dumped him, subtly ask her to remember why she dumped him. Make her go back and visualise the day she broke up with him in her head, so she can remind herself why she did it (eg. He was needy, controlling, going nowhere etc.). This will have a therapeutic effect on her and the idea is for her to remember how far she has moved on in life since leaving him behind. b) if she got dumped and still has feelings for him, try Strawman technique and treat the situation as if she still has a boyfriend, because the feelings are still there. She will find faults with him herself (eg. Unreliable, flaky, didn't love me etc.) and do the hard work for you. And c) if you are unable or unwilling to find out more information about her ex, get her ex's number off her phone with a big smile on your face and say you're calling him up to tell him your girl can't stop talking about him. She will get really embarrassed and she will then realise she needs to STFU about him.

As a side note, I never listen to advice from other women. Girls like their boyfriends to get jealous because it puts them in the position of power, it means they have control over their guy's emotions. Many girls deliberately try to make their boyfriends jealous to "test" his commitment, its just another BS way of pussy whipping and by getting jealous you are playing right into her hands and giving her control over you. Go on Google and search for "How to make my boyfriend jealous" you will find proof that manipulative girls do this all the time to get a rise out of their boyfriends.

When you understand people's different personality types, you not only have better success, you can give better advice.

To flat out say "I don't take advice from women" is probably one of the most closed minded things you can say.

Sure, in the context you put it, there is concern that the advice is biased, but that's why I said the examples came from female friends, talking about their own issues, relationships, etc. etc. not anyone I'm personally involved with. This is not "advice", this is evidence, further supported by my witnessing the outcomes of the male's behaviour in these relationships.

But the OP has moved on so there's little point in continuing this thread.

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These two things are linked. You're Friendzoned, that's the main problem. The girl sees you in a non-sexual frame and not as a potential partner or hook up.

Because you are in the friendzone she is doing what she does with everyone, talk about herself and her problems. These past relationships are important to her (as they are to everyone). Relationships ending are a huge source of emotional trauma and it takes years to work through the impact, especially long relationships.

Don't worry, she's telling you and every other friend the same stories over and over, getting your feedback, a plutonic male opinion, which she'll incorporate into her integration of those events in her life.

If you weren't in the friendzone you wouldn't hear these stories until you were her BF, then you'd hear them.

Focus on avoiding the friendzone and the only concern you should have with ex talk is you are getting too friendly.

If you are fun, unpredictable, sexy, and interesting the last thing she'll want to talk about is her exes.

You know what guys, there are atleast 5 different solutions/answers...

What if they talk about other guys the have recentliy flirted with? Is it the same as, they arent over them or am i zoned?

I don't know why girls talk about their ex's all the time either. They seem do it a lot.

what about this one. I was seeing this girl and she would talk about all her ex's all the time. She even used to talk about the sex she had with them and how they were no good or did this or that. Took 100's of photo's of her pussy etc

I did end up hooking up with her and was sleeping with her casually for a couple of months. But when I think back about it I cant understand it.

I don't know about most guys. But when a chick I'm interested in starts talking about sex with other guys, it turns me right off. I know she's had sex before obviously. But I don't want to hear about the last guy she was fucking. I don't know if its their way of dropping hints about sex in general or if that's whats on her mind. If its a general comment like "oh I like getting bent over from behind" or something like that I'm fine with it. But when they tell stories and I'm visualizing another guy fucking her in my head, it totally kills the mood lol.

You're only looking for the answer you want to hear, so I can't help you. I spent ages giving you exactly the answer you need based on years of experience (as opposed to spouting standard "pickup artist" rubbish) and yet you haven't replied. Good luck though StinkyApple, I'll be around in other threads helping people who listen.

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Mate, dont be like that. I really appreciate your help, I just lost the track. There so many replies and im confused. Dont know where to start.

Interesting. I recently had a similar situation while text messaging a girl. After she had sent me a few messages concerning something or other, I can't remember exactly what, the last message was her saying that her ex boyfriend was trying to talk to her; it was late, she was getting drunk and about to go out. I had absolutely nothing to say to that so I just didn't say anything. An hour later I started the conversation over again. Seemed to work pretty well and I didn't have to bother touching the ex boyfriend subject. Sufficed to say, her and I have been text messaging occasionally throughout the month; once or twice a week, and it's looking like a promising relationship. We're hanging out next weekend.

Why you so butthurt lol

All the OP said was there were lots of different answers, he was open to all of them. Why get annoyed with him for not favouring your response over all the others? You gave an immature response to an open minded guy just asking for advice.