Hi Bruno,

Unfortunately today didnt go too well i had no time after work and didn't have too many opportunities on the way to work eyiher.However , i do accept that these are bad excuses , i need to be way more determined , suppose my gym work and body language is improving but I really need to go out there and start interacting with people more . Cheers for the advice, it would be amazing if i could ever go out with a fellow pua, but first I need to work on changing myself. How did you get yourself outside and meeting people ? Did you have anyone to help you ?


Regards.

R

Hey R,

I am glad to realize that you've got the right attitude based on being aware of the fact that you should be determined and go out to interact with people more. Anyway, I suggest that you don't get too harsh on yourself.

The best way for you to progress is by simply taking small steps towards your social confidence success by doing one small step at a time (every day). For example, what you could is as follows.

One day you could approach 2-3 people and ask them to tell you what the time is.

The second day, you could approach 2-3 strangers whether on the tube or at the supermarket or at the gym and simply strike a conversation by making a comment on something that you see around you. The topics of your conversation could be the weather, a busy traffic, the products that you are looking at or pets that you like.

For example, you could say to the person standing next to you something like: "What do you say about this beautiful weather today?"

On the third day, you could approach 2-3 women waiting for their underground train to come and ask them:
"How long have you been waiting for the train?"

And, then you could simply transition your conversation into talking about something else with the same woman based on what you can see or feel around you two or based on the woman's answer to your initial question.

To give you a clue on how you can quickly progress in improving your social confidence, let me tell you this tip. While practicing approaching random people, strangers and women, try to always find an excuse to approach them and ask them a question.

Now, please remember what I am now going to tell you because that can totally transform you into a super confident and fearless guy. When practicing your confidence by approaching strangers or women, DECIDE NOT TO CARE about the potential outcome or the result of your approach or conversation whether it be your desired outcome or your undesired outcome. Why?

You know why jerks and badass type of guys are good with women?

Because they mostly go out there to be themselves and to openly express what they REALLY feel about women they are attracted to whether these women like it or not. In other words, jerks are NEVER UNDER THE PRESSURE OF HAVING TO WIN a woman. Or, they never really care about winning or losing any woman they meet.

You know what happens as the result of them doing so. They get MORE and MORE CONFIDENT each time they do exactly what they want to do. You remember my adventures about getting free food and money from strangers? Well, man, this is absolutely the same thing.

And, you remember how I felt each time I got free food and money? I felt GREAT.

Now, what I perhaps didn't tell you in my last message is how exactly I feel every time I don't get what I want after I have taken action on something that I have initially been shit scared of.

So, you know how I feel? I feel almost AS GREAT AS I feel every time I get what I want.

Why do I feel GREAT and EXTREMELY PROUD of myself even in the situation where I do something I'm scared of and then don't get what I want?

Because I am EXTREMELY PROUD of myself for doing something that I'm scared of and for the fact that nothing bad happened to me as the result.

You can totally understand all this stuff by understanding two awesome quotes:

"That which does not kill us makes us stronger." by Friedrich Nietzsche

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony." by SPAM Ghandi

Having said that I would once again like to refer you to read my reply to King Bandit who's got the same goal as you which is all about improving your social confidence. To view my reply to him, please click on the following link: completely-new-to-the-pua-scene-vt161756.html
By the way, yesterday I sent you my private message here on the forum where I wrote that I believe that we could really be a winning team going out together to pick up some women because I know almost every corner in London since I lived and worked in London for 10 years. So, please check out my message.
Working in direct sales jobs in London for years helped me a lot in terms of getting myself outside and meeting people day in day out every single day.
Not really. What helped me transform from a socially shy guy into a socially confident guy is my will and my determination to find my own way in life by being open and communicative with people around me. This is exactly how I decided to move to London. Because I was happy to take the challenge of meeting new people and getting into new situations in my life.

Talk to you soon,
Bruno

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Sorry for the late reply, i have been extremely busy at work. Your advice is awesome, I will try the time and weather questions tomorrow when I get the chance. I just need to go out there and start training. I have been reading the game whenever I've had the chance to as I just need to fill my brain with all this know how and terminology so its a lot of work. I haven't thought about openers or sets yet as i just need to work on my body language, physique and general confidence before I can start moving with that training. I realised my mentality will have to change too , I will need a more positive outlook on life, so will need to shed my old self and perhaps change my user name from hopeless to something a bit more ambitious that flares confidence.

I will start a blog on my adventure into world of PUA as it will be nice to see my progress. The thing is, I don't want to just become an ok or good pua, i want to be great and make a name for myself and ultimately help others out. As i know the pain which many nice guys around London feel, and would love to help them out.

I hope this complete newbie beginning of a journey has been helpful for other newbies like me, but i guess its time we all moved forwards.

Good Luck to everyone

R

I guess it's time to get started XD


xCHANGEx

Hey Hopeless,
I've read a few of your posts in here and I gotta say, you remeind me of me. Styles interpitation of Wayne Gretzky's quote really helped me today. "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". I approached an HB 7-8 this morning while going to buy some cigs. I tried to remember everything I have learned since taking up The Game, but I mostly remembered that quote. And ya know what? I didn't get her number. But the whole time I opened on her, and when I neg'd her about her top and purse not matching,and gave her a little kino, she was smiling uncontrollably! I even passed on an opening she left for me after I bought my cigs and was walking out the door. But I'm also remembering 'Hook, line, reel and release'. Leave her wanting more. Just because i didn't get her number today, doesn't mean I won't get it tomorrow. In fact, I'm planning on going to the store again tomorrow to see if she shows up again. If she does, it's because she's looking for me. And I bet you she'll be wearing a top that matches her purse this time.
Anyway, long story short, it was Gretzky's quote that got me to approach her in the first place. Try saying it in your mind the next time your unsure of approching a HB. It worked for me, maybe it'll work for you.

Good sarging!

Bingy

Hey Bingy,

Your story is awesome and inspiring! Well done. I'm glad that you've mentioned Gretzky's quote because I also always get so amazed by successes with women that I reap as the result of approaching them in situations where at first I feel like I don't want to approach at all.

By the way, my yesterday's story is similar to yours. I was out and about and entered a nearby caffee bar to ask for a glass of water because I was thirsty. Then while I was talking to the waitress who by the way wasn't my target because she was an old woman, I saw a very hot girl walking outside the bar and passing by. At first I thought like "I'm going to let her go". Anyway, after 2-3 seconds I said to myself "What the f**k! I am now going to run after her and approach her before she jumps in her bus" (because she was walking towards the nearby bus stop).
Then when I walked up to her, she was chatting with somebody on her cell phone. So, I smoothly approached her by using the pacing her ongoing reality technique by saying to her: "Hey, I was just sitting down inside that caffee bar when you walked past, and you know, as soon as I saw you, you almost took my breath away because you look so great" She then immediately stopped talking on her phone and gave me such a naturally pleasing and kind of flirty smile. Then while she was feeling comfortable chatting with me, I was slowly kinoing her shoulders, arms, then her back and finally her ass. Man, I was doing all that and was enjoying it so much while she was giving me those sexually charged smiles. Anyway, despite the fact that she didn't give me her phone number on my request and she also rejected me at the end because I pushed her a bit beyond her comfort, I was feeling so great and extremely proud of myself because i did it. Furthermore, i am convinced that i could've easily gone for a kiss close with this HB9 because man, i was so close to kissing her while leaning in and touching her ass.
So, the point I want to make here is that we should never let any opportunity to approach hot women go and slip by, because otherwise we might be missing 100% of the shots that's even the opportunity to get laid.

Have fun in reaping most amazing successes with women!
Bruno

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Hey R,

Just take one small step at a time every day and you'll get there. By the way, I have also enjoyed reading the book "The Game" and think that what Style did there was awesome. Anyway, my advice to you is that you just try to understand the seduction system and the basics presented in "The Game" and then adapt it to who you are and what you want to get from each girl you approach instead of trying to memorize all the things from the book. Because this is going to be the fastest way for you to progress in the area of picking up women.

By the way, I am telling you this from my own experience where I wasted about 3 years on just studying many diffferent seduction books (including "The Game") and trying to memorize everything. As the result of it, I started to lose myself and my game turned into a nighmare.

Finally, your fasttrack to success and happiness in any aspect of your life all comes down to your focus on doing things that matters to ONLY TO YOU. This is exactly where the happiness quote of the legendary SPAM Ghandi is coming from:
"Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony"

This quote used in the context of you successfully picking up women would mean that you are going to achieve the highest level of your happiness and success at meeting and dating women when you focus on being yourself, the women you are attracted to and sharing what attracts you in that woman with herself.

Man, once I've undestood the above thing, everything changed for me. And, right now, I am finishing my free report on all my progress thanks to exactly what I've just shared with you in this and also my previous posts when I was talking about unleashing and being your best with women, you remember?

Enjoy your ride!

Bruno
P.S. Thanks for replying to my private message.

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Hi Bingy,

That's an awesome quote, i have changed my name now, as Hopeless wasn't a very good way to present myself online or even in real life, so my mentality is slowly changing to become a more confident man. and Wow, seems you have no fear in going out and testing your skills out. I'm still at the early stages , so i have been working on fitness, my appearance and understanding what PUA really is. I have heard online that for every hour of research you do , you should carry out at least 2 hours of outfield. So I have a lot of field work to do. I hope I can meet more friendly people online like you here, as it seems a lot of the big PUA are trying to compete with each other, when really we should be trying to work together since there isn't a simple right or wrong way to do things in this game,

Cheers for the reply

xCHANGEx

Hey Bruno,

Yeah I'm trying to take small steps everyday, so I do feel that I'm slowly getting there. However, I have still yet to go out and interact with any girls in the outside world haha I sound quite sad, but its the simple truth. However, my fitness is steadily improving and I am feeling much more confident about myself. The game is proving to be an extremely interesting read, and I'm learning new things everyday.

I suppose the tough ultimatum I have reached now is balancing my PUA lifestyle with my work and extra hobbies. Its not easy, given that I'm quite active with my other activities. How many hours would you recommend a day to be working on it ? So far I spend around 1-2 hours a day reading books and online material, and eventually I'm hoping to transfer that time to day game where I can practise the stuff I have learnt. What do you think ?


xCHANGEx

Hey R,

I like your new name xCHANGEx. That's a good and encouraging move to your brand new life full of confidence and your most amazing successes with women.

The best way for you to have as much free time for your PUA lifestyle as you want is by actually having your own online business and not by working in 9 to 5 jobs. I am very glad that you've pointed this out because my ultimate goal is to create and fully enjoy my dream luxury playboy or PUA lifestyle where I will have as much free time for meeting women as I want.

And, once again, the best way for you to do that is by having your own profitable online business. And, by the way, it is not as difficult and complicated to start your own profitable online business as it at first may seem.

To give you a sneak peek on what should be your first steps on starting your own business, I recommend that you read the following post of mine:
fasttrack-from-a-dead-broke-wuss-to-a-m ... 61341.html

By the way, I'm going to cover this topic in much more detail in my free report that I'm finishing now. I'll let you know when it's ready.


It's hard for me to tell you how many hours you should dedicate to meeting women. All I can say to you is that every time you go out, you try to have your eyes wide open to taking the opportunities to approach and meet women. And, these opportunities are everywhere.

As for learning from and reading the PUA books, all you have to focus on is just knowing the truth and the basics of how attraction works. And, the truth and the basics on how attraction works all come down to you fully understanding that most women and especially hot women ABSOLUTELY LOVE confiident men.

In other words, women love men who are both confident enough to boldly approach them at any situation and at any time and also confident enough to express their real sexual feelings with women. On top of it, you also have to bear in mind the truth that women are naturally very passive when it comes to dating and relationships. So, you're the one who has to make that first move.

So, all in all, the above truth and the basics are ALL you have to learn and understand when it comes to picking up women. And, the next thing you do is simply go out there and focus on being who you are and what really attracts you in your kind of women. Once you focus on these two things and implement my tips on unleashing your best with women that I've shared with you in my previous forum posts, you're soon going to be on the fasttrack to experiencing and enjoying your most amazing successes with women that you could've never dreamed of possible.

Hope this helps you.

Bruno

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Those quick steps to become a millionaire playboy are pretty awesome hahahaha, it's true , i have to become much more focused. I've decided to physically write on a piece of paper a list of objectives which I need to tick off as I do them. It really helps since when I wake up everyday, I'll have a constant reminder of the things I need to do, and I actually feel bad when I come home having nothing to tick off.

and yes the word CONFIDENCE , is definitely a word that is echoed a lot in these forums and I can't argue against it one bit. It''s the most powerful asset I hope to develop and the one which I currently lack the most.

I feel that we should start building a network within this community to help each other out. Not just in PUA techniques but to help each other live a successful life . But these are all just thoughts in my head. I should really first go and talk to some girls hahah. I did get a few looks when I got on the train today however, like my old self, I always fail to act on those chances .

I have set a goal tomorrow to actually talk to this very nice looking Asian girl who always passes by and smiles at me whenever I walk to work, hopefully it might lead to something.

I'll report back if it goes well or if it's another failed mission


xCHANGEx

Hey xCHANGEx,

I am glad that you've enjoyed my post about millionaire playboy and that you're aware of the importance of CONFIDENCE when meeting women.

As for helping each other to live a successful life, I am excited to tell you that I am currently working on that and will be sharing it with the PUA community soon.

I am glad that you got a few looks from women on the train. That means you've started creating an attractive personality. That's an awesome progress!

Good luck with the Asian girl tomorrow!

Bruno

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I like the name change as well. It inspired me to pick a more appropriate one for myself !

Okay where to begin,

Let's describe the scene. It was a typical rainy day in the crying city of London as a walked back from a long and tiring day at work. I had scripted the lines which I was planning to use on the cute asian girl and I had been thinking throughout the day of the different possible scenarios that could occur. I had even thought of an escape route scenario in case if the whole plan turned pear shape. I sort had the feeling of butterflies in my stomach, but it was more with excitement instead of fear as I finally felt like I was changing. I was going to actually approach and try interact with the opposite sex. This felt good and I much more at peace doing so.

But low and behold at the end of the dark grey street I saw this tall scruffy haired man holding hands with the very gem I had planned to speak too.

To be honest, I was pretty gutted but I suppose this is what I get for being timid and too scared to approach all those days before. However, like every other day so far, i'll take this as a learning experience to use the word "NOW" instead of "LATER" since if I had acted sooner it could have been me who was holding hands with her instead that other guy.

I think for the rest of this week I will continue to work on my confidence, since I definitely have enough information crammed into my head from reading all these PUA books. Tomorrow, il set off to ask at least 5 different people for directions and will make sure they are all women since I can't just keep walking a path of failure.

I hope my report didn't disappoint you too much =/

xCHANGEx

And hi re frame, pleasure to meet you , what's your story ? and how's the PUA training going for you ?