Been messaging this girl on POF for a week or so. Started off with good banter and she was joining in. But the same banter gets boring after a while and there's no point faking it. So I made some joking comments on accents of where she's from, that was all fine but things are drying up. I used 1 interview question, but made it a bit more fun.

Really running out of things to say. She doesn't ask anything, I'm definitely leading the conversation but she sends lengthy messages with IOIs.

As I'm running out of things to say, is that a sign it's not meant to be? Any conversation suggestions?

If you had 1 million pounds, what would you spend it on?

What animal do you think best resembles your personality? [tiger = she's a sex addict]

Light and fun...

If you've been talking for a while and her responses are lengthy, presumably you mean lengthier than yours, then you should be asking yourself; why isn't she inputting much into the conversation? By that I mean of course, questions.

My advice would be to start killing the conversation a little bit, make your responses shorter. Give her a reason to want to probe more because from the sounds of it, at the minute she doesn't need o as you're doing all the work. Which does also come off a bit try hard, especially over the internet on dating sites.

You've been messaging her for one week, she's been giving you IOIs, and you still haven't asked her out... Why exactly?

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Ohh I didn't realise the length of time this conversation has gone on for.
Dude, I normally ask her on a date within the first 2 days...

Leave it too long and she'll think you're a nice guy, but a waste of her time..

Thanks for the help so far. Great point about the try hard thing, thinking about it like that makes a lot of sense. I always type a natural response but then spend ages thinking of a question or something funny to say. Definitely trying too hard.

Why haven't I asked her out?

I joined the dating site to meet people as I'm moving to that country in a couple of months. I set up the profile bored one night with no intention of messaging people until I moved to that country. But before I could hide my profile, she sent an interest thing so I just sent a funny message expecting nothing back. I'm currently over 2000 miles away from her....hence the reason I haven't asked her yet.

And I've also used dating sites in my country...in my experience every time I've asked a girl too soon, they never reply. Maybe that's just they weren't interested in the first time. But then again, maybe I was too quick. And that goes for asking for a date or just asking for a number/Facebook. Every time I do it within a few of days I never hear from them again.

Ideas how to play this? I'd rather not just cut my losses, as long as I keep the the conversation fun/flirty (which is what I need help with) and if we don't speak too much, I'll tell her when I move we will go out on a date. She is aware I'm not in her country for a couple of months. But until then....help keeping it fun and flirty.

It sounds like you're trying to keep the conversation alive rather than take it somewhere. You have no destination for the conversation, and thus no point for it. This runs the risk of the talk just petering out and her losing interest, like what's happening now. Always, always ALWAYS have a reason for messaging her (obviously this doesn't need to be as strict once you've met, kissed, fucked and maybe dated her). When on the website, it's usually to get her number (or set up a date, if it seems possible). When texting her, it's usually to get her to meet up.


Online game guide:
http://forum.casanovacrew.com/viewtopic ... de#p107370


Guide for text messaging (but many rules are applicable to online game too):
http://forum.casanovacrew.com/viewtopic ... 44&t=17951

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question: Have you tried http://www.interpals.net?

Same principle, but people are just on there to make friends. Although I'm English and I met my Canadian fuck buddy on there sooo yakno, many angles