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Over the past few years, I've been writing a book about workplace dating based on my own experiences. I'm now making it publicly available "as is" because I am no longer interested in finishing it. I'm beyond workplace dating now, and have other interests I want to pursue. Ultimately, the guide is written for men who are interested in workplace dating, and want some information about it from someone who's been there.

I want to mention that this guide is incomplete, maybe about 90% done. The spelling and grammar are okay, but the order and structure is not quite how I want it. I mostly just put the information down and did very little arranging. There are several things I wanted to add, reword or remove, and many of the ideas I did write about are not as perfectly worded as I would like, but I had to start with something. In short, it's incomplete.

If you're willing to read through the disorder and incompleteness, I promise you will find some gems that will allow you to successfully date women from your workplace without the drama. If you're familiar with the basic foundations of dating and you want to get started right away, then I suggest you read Chapters 4, 5, and 6 as they relate to Interest and Disinterest, Closing, and Pitfalls. You'll find several word-for-word examples I've used to close women at work. But even if you don't attempt to date at work, the guide will at least open your eyes to what's possible in the workplace.

If I had to sum up how to do workplace dating in one sentence it would be this: Target only those women who show an interest in you on a consistent basis, and of those women, date the ones who show the strongest interest.

You're free to use the information in the guide as a resource if you want to write your own book about workplace dating. Maybe someone would be open to completing it.

Whatever you choose to do with the guide, I grant you greater success than myself in the world of workplace dating.

-Terrence

Since uploading the guide, I've already begun receiving messages from those who are against workplace dating. They say things like, "don't shit where you eat", "there are more available women at the club", and "you could lose your job if you make a mistake."

These concerns are understandable and I address them in the guide, but I stand firm in saying that workplace dating is possible, easy, and you can do it successfully if you read the guide. I've been in contact with men who do workplace dating exclusively. They don't go to bars and clubs; they only date women from work. I was one of those men. I have dated, and had sex, with dozens of women from the places I've worked. If I ever went to the club, I never pulled because I already was seeing one or two co-workers at the time.

Take a moment to consider just a few of the things I've learned about workplace dating:

1. There are no time constraints. In the club, you only have a few hours to close the deal or you may never see your target again, but in the workplace she has to come back to the same place as you the next day, and the next day, and the next day. It's like the movie Groundhog's Day. Each day you get another chance to close the deal. So you have plenty of time and opportunity to plan your approach without feeling anxious about the 3-second rule. Women who I didn't close the first or second time around ended up closing me at a later time.

2. You are already in the comfort phase in many cases. Most men at work will notice that female co-workers will express an interest in them out of the blue, when they've worked together for so long. Actually, it's partially due to the fact that she's been around you all that time, getting used to your presence and behaviors, that you were building comfort with her without consciously doing so. Based on my experience, and those of several men I know, women tend to approach and close men at work more often than men. It's as if the roles between the workplace and the club are reversed. In the club, the men chase the women. In the workplace, the women chase the men. And because so many men are fearful of a harassment complaint, all that means is that there is virtually no competition at the workplace. It's sort of like being at a club with only women. You don't have to worry about anyone gaming your target, or pretty much any woman for that matter. And if that wasn't enough, you don't have to put as much effort into attracting women from work as you would do at the club. If you work at any given company for awhile, eventually you will find attractive women opening up to you when your were not consciously targeting them.

3. Women who are attracted to you will be attracted for a very long time. You know that one hot girl at work that you wanted to bang for the past several months? There are women who feel the same way about you for the same length of time. And if you're intuitive, you'll be able to pick up on their interest. Some women will flirt with you for many months in an effort to close you for a date. And because there are no time constraints, you have plenty of time and opportunity to close the deal when you want.

It's little things like these you will find if you can temporarily withhold judgement, read the guide once, and be optimistic about the possibilities. You might even recall instances where you could have been dating certain women at work, but you didn't realize the opportunity was there until after reading the guide. Either way, I believe you'll find that even if you still won't date at work, you will at least see that it's easier than what you thought possible.

In the year 2013, with all the dating products available, workplace dating is still a very new niche, primarily because of the risks involved. What this means is those who consciously attempt workplace dating will become the pioneers in this area, and can even start a profitable dating business. So I encourage you to choose success. No matter how many people voice all the risks involved, be optimistic and choose that you will be successful in workplace dating. If you do this, I promise you that not only will you experience the rewards that comes with dating in the workplace, but you will also be the first person that guys come to with questions about how to get the girl at work.