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Been a reader of the forums for awhile now but this is my first post, not sure if this should go into the newbie forum as that's how I'm currently feeling.
Some background: I'm 28, broke up with my gf a few months ago and been having a successful dating life since...however, nothing that stuck long term.
I finally meet a girl I like, which doesn't come easy for me and thought immediately I lost this one as my mentality switched from abundance to scarcity which brings all kinds of undesirable side effects:
I didn't kiss her until our third meeting (when I always do it on the first meeting), I have now shared a bed with her twice without confidently trying to go all the way with just some half-assed finger play to witch she was very responsive (again, once I have a girl in bed, I don't have a problem finding the confidence to make the move), she's a few years younger than me and religious, of witch both I'm probably making too big deal of.
All of this is making me feel like I'm 12 again. We are getting on well and she's great to hang out with but I feel something needs to happen.
All this over analyzing has gotten me thinking if I should send here a message saying I enjoyed hanging out with her and we should do it again soon, just to get a feel for how she's feeling first, or simply asking if she wants to go to a concert. I have always been initiating our meetings and she has never rejected, no traditional dating stuff as I only do that further into a relationship.
I know this sounds like a lot of ramblings from a confused kid, which it is. Any pointers would be highly appreciated.
I wanted to keep the post brief and haven't gone into much details but don't mind doing so, just ask away.
Thanks.
Don't do that. Keep the text messaging light and playful. Getting all serious on her like that will only creep her out.