Hello everyone,

if today I'm writting this it's because I clearly identify when I mess up things everytime, and I have been aware of this since a girl I dated (i'm not going to date her again, that was the third date together, she talks about the end of the 2nd one) texted me this :

"When we hang out in the street till 2AM, I thought that you would wanted to kiss me but you did not, and I was hoping you would kiss me ..."


And thanks to her that things pops up in my head, because when I thought about this I realize that with all my exes, date without KC, even if I the signals are green and say : hey kiss me ! I just not kissing her...

And I don't know really WHY !


So here's my question : Why do I have trouble to kiss-close girls when the date goes well, when she seems to be into me, why I'm not going for it ?
It's just like I'm enjoying seeing the girl I'm dating craving for my kiss and just not giving her, or at least not before a long time of procrastination and dates after dates
Is this due to my lack of self-esteem ? (according to some test I do have a severe low self-esteem)
Or my lack of experience ? (Before my 20 [I'm 23] I never date and do anything with a girl)
Or something else ?


Thanks you for reading me and for your help.


PS : English is not my mother language, I hope I did not made too much mistakes

My friend from what your saying heres what im getting. Your seeing the signals of attraction. You know they want you to kiss them. But your not and cant figure out why. Sound right? I used to have the same problem when I was younger. Id see that look in a girls eyes and id know i should kiss her but id get nervous. Id start wondering what she'd think. What if she rejected? My best advise from someone who has overcome this is to simply go for it. Realize that her state, emotional as well as physical, is based off of yours. So what you have to realize is it doesnt matter what she thinks about it or if she rejects you initially. Ignore it if she rejects you and eventually she'll come around. Simply wash rinse and repeat. Now realize im not saying treat your whole interaction that way. I feel some guys might confuse that. Im saying simply treat the kiss that way. Good luck bro. I hope it helps

Ok, now I will just go for it !

I don't know, may be I'm having trouble with this because somehow if I am picturing me kissing a girl that would mean in my mind that we are a couple ...

Hum... I should go back on the field work on those aspects


Thx for the help