Setting:
U.S.A. Miami, FL
We’re both in college,
I’m 19, I've been to 3rd Base before so I know how to escalate,
I've been practicing PUA so I’d say I’m more or less intermediate.
She’s 21 & knows I’m a virgin, she’s not.
She’s a HB8 and her profile is the Nice Girl.
We've only brushed 2nd Base and that’s as far as it goes.
(This is my second official relationship)

Situation:
My Girlfriend and I have been talking for a month, and have been together officially for 3 weeks now. She is completely holding out on me!
I don’t know what to do and I can’t take it, I’m about to just give up and try again in 3 months… (worst case scenario)

I’ve heard of Micro-Escalation, Stealth Seduction, & Freeze Outs

But this is different she is –purposely- holding out. The night we made it official after the second time we've “Grinded” (f*cking with clothes on) I started to rub her over the pants, and she stopped me after 10 seconds of enjoying it. And now 3 weeks in and she still doesn't like to make-out, or do PDA… (FML)

A friend told me that this was because her last relationship was sexually based and that’s why she’s holding out to prevent a mishap.

But this is some BS! I've never dealt with this situation before; I thought older women were supposed to be sexually mature especially since she’s not a virgin. She is stuck on Pop-Kisses, Holding Hands, and loves to Cuddle and supposedly she hasn't had any in six months. Honestly I knew something was up when she didn't know how to kiss on the first night.

This is what I do, I start slow with some kisses, I feel her up a bit, start on some light making-out, and go into the next step.
Problem is I get shut down at the doorstep of making-out...

How can I go any further when I’m getting stuck at make-outs… wtf
And if I try any harder I’ll come off as 100% sexually needy

Conclusion:
I don’t need to bang her at this immediate moment, I just need to figure out how to get to 3rd Base
(Oral Sex, I need some Bj’s Etc.) Can someone please help me and tell me what to do before my nuts explode.

Thank You

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I don't have legitimate advice, but I can relate because this occurred in my relationship, as well.

It was about 5-6 weeks before we f-d. I first got her to massage me in her bed as part of a game, which eventually led to kissing. Then we progressed to heavy make outs and body rubbing and heavy dry-humping (as part of what she called a preview or practice run) but she was adamant about holding out because she didn't want to rush into things until we had established more understanding and wanted more from the relationship. I probably did some AFC things at this stage, but I still made sure to escalate my banter and jokes with sexual innuendo (at some points, I went too far or became obscene and she called me out on it). However, the door had been opened, I think. I then just played it cool and said I would wait too because I didn't want to rush anything either. However, I flip-flopped and said that sex would bring us a much deeper connection, almost like our spirits connecting and shining brighter. She bj'd me in the interim, and we ended up f-ing a few weeks before "schedule."

Anyway, that's how it went. I think a lot of it couldve been smoother and more savvy had I brushed up on PUA from these boards and other materials.

It'll be harder to do now that you've been seeing her for so long, but this is what I'd do. Reinvent yourself in how she sees you outside the bedroom. Act more aggressive. I don't mean go find fights to get in, just start behaving like an aggressive man. When you get into the bedroom that aggression will seem congruent with your normal personality. You're not being "sexually needy", you're being a man. Just start taking your clothes off for example. I'm not joking. Women respond well to a man that takes charge. P.S. Don't commit rape