Hey all.

Many people say they get into the game because they enter one-itis.

I knew this girl when I was in High School, I thought she was beautiful, sweet, kind, innocent, and absolutely gorgeous as all my friends thought. Anyways, I graduated. She was 2 years below me. I never spoke to her, I just went to College and knew about her. 2 years later, I go back and I start talking to her. She never had a boyfriend, is a virgin, and although im in college miles away, we hit it off straight away. We talk everyday on SPAM, and I came back and visited as much as I could. It was amazing and the best christmas of my life. On christmas day I took her virginity, I told her I loved her, we were amazing together and the things she said to me melted my heart. The fact that she is super hot and a model made me feel amazing too. I was in the US and her France, but it meant nothing because I came back so often. Until February, where she told me she wanted me "forever", and I said it back. 2 days later, she realizes everythng she is saying is too serious and she freaks out, goes distant. I didn't know how to handle it, i came closer, she didnt. I distanced, distanced, until she came A BIT closer, then she realied she "outplayed me" which she says.

I had her Facebook password (she logged onto my computer and forgot to sign out, i didnt let her know). But I saw her saying to her friends her feelings have changed. I freaked out and decided it was best to go on a break. Until she then messaged other guys, "oh we can fool around now" the guy would say, and "if he finds out we dont care", she would reply "haha i dont care, sneaky sneaky ". The most innocent girl who was just a virgin not to long ago, i couldnt believe it until I saw it with my own eyes on her account, I threw up and am now literally depressed. Two days later after that i send her a message saying we are done, we were done the day of the break, i told her i saw everything on her facebook where there was a lot more said. She even hooked up with another guy 2 days later and is talking to him, and even tried to go for my friend who has a girlfriend. She has senior trip as well in 2 weeks. Fuck, I just want her back. Surely me being her first, it means something?

I am back here in France, and I haven't texted her, she lives 5 minutes away. Everyday I pick up my phone and want to text her, its been a month now. No contact. She didnt even reply to my last text which was "how could you do this" along with a paragraph explaining how I knew everything.



I want her back, more than anything. More than anything in the world. She knows im back for sure, hasn't said anything, I blocked her on everything. But i cant move on, i dont think i will find better, not someone as good looking for sure. I was in heaven, now I am in hell. We dated for around 5 - 6 months. She said everything to me, I just dont understand how it changed so quickly.

I feel like everyone would say, don't text her, at all, ever. But I feel like I have a chance still? Maybe I need to get completely rejected to move on. Even though she probably thinks im creepy stalkerish cuz I had her facebook.

I know you guys may be like fuck this guy, but im doing terrible now, on pills and everything and seeing doctors.

Stop for a second, think about it this way,

What if you were still in a relationship with this dirty tramp, then she would be cheating on you and you wouldn't know.

Remember how shitty and gut wrenching it was when you found out?

Do you really want to go through that with her AGAIN?

You are already past all that, you now have the freedom to move on, and bang anyone you like, guilt free!
Isn't that something to be glad about?
YOU DON'T! You don't want one!

It's time Bro, it's time to pull up the big boy pants and MOVE THE FUCK ON!

FUCK HER! You can get 10 other girls way hotter than her!

While she's lying on her back in some rancid rent-a-room, with some random dudes future offspring drying on her belly, you will have a brand new Queen! Even BETTER!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

You're just hurt now man.

You are so hurt you can't even focus on the fact that you will survive, and that it's entirely possible and dare I say likely that your life will be pretty damn good going forward.

Nobody else is going to pick your sorry ass up. It's up to you. Do you want to spend the rest of your life moping around all depressed and shit, or do you want to prove to yourself that there are better women out there and the more of them you game the better your odds are of finding a better one.

Read some similar posts here. EVERYBODY has been where you are right now at some point. And they are all still here and are all doing pretty damn well. Reading those stories and tips will help you realize you're not the only one who's been where you've been and give you a sense that you're gonna be ok.

Good luck man.

I need her, honestly. I've always liked her, and now I love her. I must text her?

No you don't! You just want what you can't have!

First of all, the crybaby shit you have going through your clouded head, that you want to text her, WON'T FUCKING WORK!

At least text her like a MAN "Some hot rough sex ...no thinking would be nice right now!"

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Should I text her saying, lets meet up? Maybe I could game her again

My friend was once in a similar situation. What he did was he bought a ring took the girl to a special place and then kneeled before her and ask her to marry him. I suggest u do that too

Did she say Yes to your friend?
Anyway, I was numerous times in the situations like this and not proud of it. I was going after chicks no matter what and at that time considered it to be "refuse to loose" attitude. Needless to say I lost almost every single one of them. And the ones I didn't, in a couple of months I wished I did. If she wants to be with you, she will find time and ways to see you, she will not give you shit tests that you can't handle.
In this situation, for consistency sake, I'd contact her to see if she's alive. If nothing becomes clear, just forget and the sooner the better.
Cheers!

so you think i should actually contact her, and say what

Re read your posts man, notice how needy you sound. Your life is about her now, it should be about YOU.

She is young, and so are you. Its too early for either of you to have a person "forever". She was a virgin, then discovered sex, ofcourse she wants to see what else is there. Notice how light and flirty she talks to the other guys. She doesnt want one serious relationship right now.

You messed up when you replied that you want her forever. You should have realized she was full of emotion at that point and you should have just brushed it off jokingly. Lesson learned! Dont get drawn into a girls emotional fantasies!

Its pretty low to check her facebook. However, your biggest mistake here was telling her about it. Now she knows that while she was having fun, you were being obsessed with her, instead of having fun yourself. This tells her that you think she is worth more than you. She should be the one obsessed about you and your life!

It seems like you text her way too much. Remember the 70%-30% communication rule, and never send her two messages in a row without her replying. If she goes no contact, thats too bad for her, and you move on. Keep the frame that you are the Great Prize.

It is hard, but like someone said, everyone has been through it. Look at it positively, this hardship will only add to your experience, and make you into a fucking rock instead of a softie that you seem to be with this girl.

Now, do the following:

1) To break through the hardship, start lifting weights to release the endorphins. This will take the edge off the depression.
2) Next, go out socializing, even if youre in bad mood and even if you must go alone. This will shift your attention from the girl over to other people.
3) Do something really fun, pick up a cool hobby like for example skydiving or martial arts. This will shift your attention to you. This is your life man! You might meet some cool people through your new hobby.
4) Learn more inner game, watch RSD Blueprint again, read books like Power of Now. Make yourself a better person.