There's a girl I met a few days ago at a party, talked to her friends, they were smiling, laughing asking me questions, etc. See the girl couple days later. She smiled, laughed at jokes, I say lets hang out, get some yogurt. She's excited, I set up a day ww, walk from the school, Shes down e then thinks about it and seems unsure then says, "I usually hang out by my school at this coffee shop, with my friends. lets hang out." i said, "oh its fine, we can just walk down to get yogurt. it'll be fine.". idk, if shes attracted to me cause it seemed like she was, but was she smiling2 b polite.?I'm considering hanging out with her there, but it feels supplicating. hanging out w/ her friends probably. I 've been told I can be a bit pushy, so I am considering something different this time,

I often suggest plans before they're comfortable, and in trying to be "persistant" I continue bringing it up at different times, after I assume there may be enough trust, but I must not have been reading it right. they tend to get more uncomfortable ( I guess?)

You've gotta qualify her bro. You've got to act as if your time is valuable and you don't want to waste it on someone who isn't worthy of it. You assumed she is attracted to you and made a desperate move by asking her out right away.

I agree with Majik, you made assumptions too early.

"lets hang out, get some yogurt." is not the same thing as "I'm gonna get some yogurt, you should come."

If she says no to "lets hang out", she has rejected YOU and no matter how hard you try, you have been rejected.

If she says no to "I'm gonna get some yogurt, you should come", then she has rejected the yogurt because you are not invested in her, you're invested in the yogurt.

You're living your life and she is welcome to join you, rather than you stopped your life to join in her's.


Peace...

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Thanks guys.

As an update, I told her to meet me by the yogurt place that's 2 blocks from her school (I didn't know if it made her uncomfortable to keep insisting on the other yogurt spot after telling me she wanted to hang out at coffee shop) and we could go and hang w her friends later (still felt like supplicating but a compromise at least. damage control?).

She texts me back "Hey! I just got out of a crazy relationship and yesterday things got weird and I'm not even sure I'm out of it yet. Lets meet up some other time when my life has calmed down a little bit".

I guess this is good? I did qualify her on a couple things ("what do you do for fun": kind of soft qualifier bordering connection question), but if she says weird it sounds like shes not sure how to process a dude wanting to hang out with her with sexual undertones. I honestly don't know how being excited about talking about photography and other things and being invited to yogurt is weird.