hey everyone just need some quick advice here.

Saturday night I met up with this one girl I'm talking to at the club and just happen to run into another girl that I'm talking to at the same club as well. long story short the 1 girl talk to me briefly she was going out and said that I was in the dog house. she said this rather jokingly did not seem that upset. I texted her the next day and last night I haven't heard back from her. I know that jealousy is a powerful motivator but I'm a bit un sure right now as of how to handle this. I didn't do anything wrong don't feel I need to apologizeunless I was rude or somehow.

any help you can provide would be appreciated please excuse any typos as I'm chatting for my phone

HAH! This is a classic scenario, and quite the counter-intuitive one. This is basically a social game of chicken, sort of. The first one to exhibit signs of weakness (jealousy/insecurity) loses.

She saw you talking to another girl. That gives you social proof. It also encourages competition. She even acknowledged the circumstances with her comment about the "dog house".

Now, if you're overly sensitive about how she feels about this or try too hard to reach her, you've lost. Instead, you should let this sit for a little while and incubate.

Think about it this way for a second. If you spend the next few days calling/texting or generally trying to get a hold of her, what does that say about you? You didn't get anywhere with the other girl. And therefore, there's no reason for her to pay attention to you either.

However, if you spend the next few days in silence, you'll make her wonder. You'll ignite her curiosity about that girl and what you guys might be doing right now. This will eventually get her to start thinking about you in a romantic frameand she'll practically daydream herself into your bed.

Long story short, you need balls of steel for this. Also, depending on when you read this, it might already be too late. Hope this helps

thanks for the info at some good advice.

I don't think I've been overly sensitive are insecure. this all happened Saturday night. I wrote her one time on sunday sayinn that was good to see her last night. then texted her last night just asking her how she was. about two hours later I just asked can we talk? that's it

Wow! And how has she been responding to you thus far?

Nothing. No response at all.

Yea, I figured.

Being the first one to write to her on Sunday was your first sign of weakness. You've already lost the game of chicken, so to speak, by breaking the tension. No response to this should have been a deal-breaker to you.

Texting her again within such close proximity shows insecurity or just plain impatience. Both are unattractive qualities to possess. It shows her that either you've been waiting to hear from her or that you're desperate for her attention.

And then, asking her to talk to you JUST two (2) hours later was going overboard in my opinion. This comes off as just plain needy in my opinion.

My advice to you at this point is straightforward. Forget her. Not forever, but for at least for a few days to a week. Go about your daily life and enjoy any new interactions that you can generate. Stop thinking about this as soon as possible because otherwise it will interfere with any new interactions with women.

Hmm, I'm not sure I agree. Not that you are wrong, but it just seems a bit of an over reaction. Nothing I did was really out of the ordinary for us - if we went out I would write her a quick blurb just to say hi and I do check up from time to time. Nowhere did I apologize or really even mention it. Very rarely would three innocuous texts kill interest, especially if i just raised it witg a social proof!

Another possibility is just that attraction wasn't that high to begin with.

I'd love another opinion or some follow up reading. I do appreciate the point of view though.

I'd say you're probably gone with this girl. Move on, don't message her again.

Sometimes you just need to leave it man. There are tinned of hot girls around. If this one likes you she will contact you. If not you will hopefully be tuning other girls soon anyway.

A lot of these guys just giving "by the book" advice about being needy etc.

I don't think it was a bad idea for you to contact her. In fact, it’s showing her that you are thinking specifically about her. If she’s at all interested in you, this would be a great opportunity for her to act on it.

So it looks like there are 2 possible reasons:

1. Like you said, the attraction wasn’t as high as you originally though.
2. She’s trying to run game on YOU. Make you sweat it (mission accomplished?) a little bit.

Either way, there isn’t much you can do accept stop giving a shit. The ball is in her court at the moment.

For future reference, when I’m not exactly confident about getting with a girl (but I need a IOI), I’ll write them a statement:

“Hey it was great seeing you last night, I definitely want to catch up sometime this week so I’ll hit you up later. Talk to you soon.”

This basically gives them the option of being a bitch or a human being. Most take human being.

The error wasn’t in contacting her, it was doing it in a way that left you without decision power.

Part of me thinks that she’s gonna sit on it a few days and then contact you again though.

Get the conversation lighter before anymore damage is done.
Say "you seem sore at me ever since you seen me with my sister/cousin/mother the other night"
If she replies salty then just keep it light cause like you said you didnt do anything wrong so kissing her ass is out.

So what are YOUR motives then? Looking to see how many girls you can get and fuck? If she hadn't walked in and you and the other girl were getting on great you would've tried to get her number and then go out with both I bet and if that's the case enjoy the dog house. She spotted the loser in you and is now ignoring you. Move on. There's plenty more decent dudes out there for her.