OK to start of, I'm no AFC I have been gaming for a while, I know how most of this works, and that's why I fucked up.

I have been on and off girls for a while, but this one was special, I completely fell in love, like deep, really deep without lube. Now You have to know the whole story to be able to to help me out here.

She got put in my group for film, I instantly was interested in her, so from the beginning I didn't talk to her much, and when I did, I wasn't the nicest person in the world...I didn't do any kino...well because I really liked her and didn't want to play games, a year went by I dated other girls and had sex...yet near the end of the year I got really close to her, talking more, calling, going out, at this point I was completely in love. At some-point we went out to the club(before this I was going to tell her at another time, but the words didn't come-out) so she kept nagging me to tell her what I wanted to say the other day, so I thought she liked me as-well, she also kept asking if I would miss her over the holidays, and I always replied no in a nice way. So in the club I told her, and she was so confused, she kept saying to me I thought you didn't like me, I thought I was just someone you spoke to when you're friends weren't around.

She hugged me, bit my shoulder gently and so I got my hopes up high, very high. So I told her, lets go outside and talk, she got up and said let me go to the toilet first, she was in there for one-hour, most likely talking to her best friend about it, she came out and started giving me the col-shoulder. We went home, oh BTW the biggest thing here is, there is my guy friend Jake who was always with us, all the time, trying to help me, giving me opportunities to talk to her alone( I know, big mistake) so we came to my place, and it was awkward as fuck, she talked to me normally, no difference, I felt friend zone, but my hopes were to high to give a shit. I thought fuck it im going to tell her again properly tomorrow in uni, and so I grabbes her hand and took her outside sat her down, looked in her eyes told her everything, went to kiss her. She pushed me away gently and said, but I only like you as a friend.....WHA DA FUCK! ok I completely deduced how this happened, but whatever the case, I really do love this girl and can't even think of anyone else right now, all those girls who I was talking to before are getting ignored, I cba, I really cba with anyone else right now, I just want her.

I need help on this, we start the second year of uni in 4 months, long time I know, she wont be in the same class any-more either so that's good, I can ignore her easier. HOW DA FUCK DO I GET OUT OF THIS FRIEND ZONE AND GET HER TO SEE ME AS A SEXUAL ENTITY! seriously guys, I depended on you before and you helped allot, and this right here is my last request, so please....help me out. I deleted her of face-book, her number, threw her shit out of my room, talked to other chicks, but I can't forget her atall. I really do want her, so please don't come-out with shit like, oh just go date other girls she'll come to you. I know she liked me, I know this, there is no fucking way she thinks of me as a friend, she's just scared of a relation ship and her "advice giving friends" are fucking it up for me. So what do I do? between now and next year of uni and/or when uni starts.

So you really liked this chick, so you didn't game her what so ever. And now you're her friend and nothing more. Then you go direct and tell her what?

You fucked up by not going sexual. She sat in a bathroom and texted a friend who told her you're full of shit and just want to fuck her and are just saying nice shit to woo her into bed.

At this point I would cut the bullshit. I'd tell her listen, I can have a lot of women, but what I really want is one that complements me well. Good sex is not that hard to replace, but good friendship and connection is hard to find and replace once lost. Tell her you think she's hot as hell, and if you're as compatible sexually as you are intellectually, you think you'd make a great couple. And if you're not a great couple, then you can just continue to be good friends because you know you're not a great couple. Then tell her if she doesn't feel anything the same as you, you need to hear it loud and clear so you can accept it and move on and find someone else who might fit the bill.

Be prepared for her response to be that of rejection. Just be cool, and realize that rejection today does not necessarily mean rejection forever. It just means not today. If it goes that way, start focusing on other women, and get fucking them ASAP.

JESUS CHRIST! ok well, I went out with her 2 days ago, she told my friend that she's still confused, because I treated her badly....called her work bad? but I always did it in a joking way.. as far as physical goes she treats my guy friend completely differently than me....shes more serious with me always has been, even before all this shit happened. so we cam back to mine and we were just sat down and she told me to do hypnosis on her, so I did, she was surprised as to my ability to tell her about herself...

I think there is a middle man, her best friend who she is constantly texting and reporting every little shit thats going on....and this friend of hers apparently has allot of experience...and from what I can accumulate "He says this to every girl" "he's just bullshitting you to try and fuck you"

She found out today about a fling I had with this other chick a week after what happened, her reaction was...plain as daylight. I'm friend-zoned, but Im not in that deep hole that is unclimable, I can tell this simply by how she treats me and the other guy friend (who has a girlfriend, not that it matters but she set him up with her) and me.

I now have 2 choices:
1, befriend her, act like nothing ever happened, when she comes to mine and its just the 2 of us, I can make something happen, If there is one thing I do know....most of my friends long term relationships sprouted from "friends" who were confused about their feelings and just a bit more physical.

2, Never speak to her again, which is painful as fuck but surely manageable I guess.

I also am sure she has only been in one relationship and the guy fucked her over and she is scared of another relationship unless she knows the person for a long time.