I have been studying evolutionary psychology, body language and alpha male films and my discovery is all the protagonists exhibit that menacing yet steadfast frame which is typical of alpha's. My issue is impulse control - ADHD appears not to be congruent with an alpha frame. I constantly find myself blurting things out at pubs for attention which works against my efforts to attract women. Rather than fight my genes, I was wondering if anyone had knowledge of some strategies to help ameliorate my problem.

Much thanks and respect.

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"Quit while you're ahead. All the best gamblers do." - Baltasar Gracián

I don't consider this a problem. UNLESS, you truly are only doing it for attention.

Never be afraid to say what you want, when you want to, IF you believe in what you are saying.

Never be afraid to be loud, be afraid to have no voice. Never be afraid of the thoughts of others, be afraid of not being true to who you are. Your own style makes you who you are; don't adopt someone's you’re not.

I have many time been introduced as; "Our friend with no filter." Or "please excuse Heywood, he has Tourette syndrome."

But then I leave with a girl, and those same people are dumbfounded by how I did that.

Fuck Them!

Why be afraid of what a woman will say? Those who attracted to you will react positively! And those who don’t aren't worth listening to anyway.

Remember though, you don't always have to DHV yourself with your words. Sometimes your silence and body language gives people a clue that you have better thoughts in mind.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks man. I really appreciate it.

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"Quit while you're ahead. All the best gamblers do." - Baltasar Gracián

Meditation and Order will help you.

Attention deficit hyperactivity is not a problem. Disorder is the problem. Fix the disorder with order.

Create a schedule so when you DO go out you have less conflict in your life to stress about. Meditate to learn how to clear your thoughts from your mind, or move the mind out of the way.

Fill up more of your time with activity and eat healthy. Possibly journal what you eat and your daily activities and see how your mood and productivity fluctuates. Keep an eye out for certain things you ate, psychoactive drugs you take such as caffeine and nicotine, as well has sugar content etc.

Attention seeking behavior is fun sometimes but it can get you in trouble in the long run if you don't learn to deal with it.

Order fixes disorder. Find someone to make you accountable for what you do, like a close friend looking to self improve, or through a support group or even just a journal.

I have found that the longer I book my schedule out the more aware I am of my behavior. The more aware I am the more potential I have to control it. I control it through meditation; focusing on breathing and letting the body do whatever else it needs to do to get tasks done.

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Attraction is a choice.
ITS YOUR CHOICE!
Spread Love
-Ders


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What makes you think a pub is a suitable place to pick up a girl?

You are there, and the target is there as well.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Appriciate it _Lothario_. Thanks man I'll look into meditation.

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"Quit while you're ahead. All the best gamblers do." - Baltasar Gracián

I started through yoga, which helps in pickup as well because it has a female prominence. When I meet women I bring up yoga because I want a similar spirituality with whoever ends up being my partner, but it is much more rare for a man to do yoga, so it quickly brings scarcity into their reality and abundance in mine.

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Attraction is a choice.
ITS YOUR CHOICE!
Spread Love
-Ders


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