Hey you PickupArtists out there!

I kinda fell in love with a lady friend of mine. we´ve known each other for 9 month through my lady roommate which kinda forbid any physical relationship.

I´m going out with her like once a week and see her in my social circle from time to time. I think she´s considered a 9+, everyone´s hitting on her. I don´t really care about that, of course I always found her hot, but lately we started doing things just the two of us and I found that I can really be myself arround her.

I told her how I felt about her but she didnt really gave me her view. So I broke all contact. She then txted me like 2 in the morning I should come over and we´ll have a talk. We did talk, but we also slept together

It wasn´t my intention at all, of course I wanted to, but it kinda just happened..

we slept in and cuddled the whole afternoon, when we finally made it out of bed she was kinda confused with what happened and wanted to know where we were standing now. I wanted to get on my knee and propose but I just said, we don´t have to label things and just see what happens.

She said she needs time to figure things out and was afraid that my roommate would find out, but doesn´t regret anything and actually liked it..

So what´s next? Do I wait for her to contact me again? how can I make her mine ?

any thoughts and comments are appreciated

If you fucked her good enough she'll come back to you. Don't act like an AFC and be clingy trying to get with her again.

Only thing I can think of now is when she is with you and your roomie together. Will it be awkward? If it is, talk to her about it. If not then let her talk to you when she sorts things out in her head. She is going to tell you her thought process of what will happen between you two sooner or later. And the more you pressure her for that information, the longer she'll be thinking about it. Act like it didn't happen, but don't seem like you fucked her already and you aren't interested.

You already have your answer... and she responded well to it.
So just figure out what "see what happens/figure things out" means. You already know you're not going to 'label' anything and you probably know that you can't see what happens unless something is happening and you can't figure anything out in a vacuum. Pretty simple...

I kinda knew that already, but it´s good to hear it by someone else.

It wont be too much of a problem with my roommate, the secrecy might even add some weird sexual tension

The only problem I can think of, when we´re going out she´s usually hooking up with some guy.. I defenetely can´t just sit there and watch. what would you suggest?

Do you mean that ^this is what your new girlfriend "used to do"? OK, maybe I wasn't direct enough. I don't mean you just sit there and let her do whatever she used to do. You don't have to "verbally label" your situation but you should treat her just like a new girlfriend. No reason to be incredibly high or incredibly low. Suggest fun events. Go out. Do things together. Heck, hold hands. . . and this will lead to more intimate moments. Let her chat other guys all you want. . . my money is on that she will stick to you like glue. . .

She's already your girlfriend. . . she's just announcing to you that she's not some bimbo who falls in love just because she sucked some dude's cock. Just let her go with it.

I pretty much agree with kasabi...My only concern is the timing of her "call to talk". We don't have the context of your conversation, but typically when a girl calls a guy at the wee hours of the night it means "I'm horny and I need a fix" which in this case sex happened so it could fall into this category. That being said, girls are emotional beings, and it is entirely possible that she could not sleep thinking about moving to the next level with you so made an emotionally based call at that time of the night.

What was the nature of y'alls relationship prior to this night? Anything physical at all (Kissing, hugging, hand holding, cuddling, etc.)?

Peace...

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thx for your reply.

Hugging all the time for saying hello and goodbye, but also when we go out, holding hands when moving through the club, deep embracing, she mussing up my hair, putting her arm arround me, close dancing, you get the idea..

One time we were really drunk and just went into a police station and she said "my boyfriend is too drunk to drive" they should give us a ride. then we slept together in my bed, but only cuddled a bit.

I was like I don´t wanna fuck my friendship up with her, so I behaved myself.

but then one night one of her guys showed up as we were sitting in a pub with my roommate and started amogging me. She wouldn´t take sides, but my roommate made him leave. She apologized and txted me later, that she really likes me.
That was the moment when I was like, yeah why not give it a shot, I´m such a loving good person and she´s always surrounded with total jerks..

I really made kind of a big drama when I noted my feelings towards her changing. the next time she asked me out I was like, "´m really drawn to you, also physically lately, I`m scared, that´s not good, we can´t see each other anymore".
she persuaded me to come see her again and I just left and told her it´s not working for me. I told her about some of my past rejections and I can´t take it right now, she never said no, but I kinda felt like she didn´t want me in that way.
I just wanted it to be over and told her finally we couldn´t see each other in a while. that was when she txted me to come over to talk. And I believe she really wanted to talk, I was really surprised about what happened then.
especially after my acting so weird and insecure. And I know if she needed a fix she could have called like 15 other guys. I just can´t believe that she was just horny, she wouldn´t do that to me, our whole social circle is like interlinked, that wouldn´t have been worth the risk..

thank you guys so much for helping

If you already have the answer, then why ask the question?

You have a long life ahead of you if you think "She wouldn't do that to you"!

After 17.5 years of marriage (3 kids), and a live in girlfriend (for us both) for many years, she cheated on me. FYI, She wouldn't do that to me either!

I hope everything works out


Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood