So I joined a dating website just to try it out and see few days ago and right off the batch I got good match who I opened and been talking to for the past 4 nights. I sort of figured that talking have to be escalated to an actual meet up at some point so I decided to ask her out no matter what. Here is a convo let me know if I went wrong there somewhere, maybe I am just trying to hard

Me: How's my favorite little brat doing?
HB:Your favorite little brat is exhausted. She took a spin class yesterday and it kicked her ass. I ended up in bed by 930. Lame I know, but cardio is in no way my thing!
Me:930? jeez. I hope full body work outs dont exchaust you as much
HB: Like I said cardio just isn't. Even when I was in FANTASTIC shape and played soccer daily, cardio didn't like me. I think it might be biased against me...
Me:You probably just need more intimate personal trainig
HB: Now why didn't I think of that.
Me: Its ok I can do thinking for you.
Me:What are you listening to right now?
HB:...Nothing...?
Me:well here then
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLYJhOt0 ... Xy2xImkHGw
HB:How do you find stuff like that? Are you one of those people who lives on youtube? I think they might be coming out with a support group for youtube addicts.
Me: God I really hope that is true. I was actually listening to this beforehand http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMfQ-G2V ... Xy2xImkHGw
Me:except for silence do you listen to anything?
HB:Sometimes I listen to the whimpering of people after they are "accidentally" hit for getting a sarcastic tone with me... *cough, cough*
Me:I am sorry my English is not very good, what is sarcasm?
HB:Sarcasm is how people get hurt
Me:Hey I am frail as is, no need to make threats
HB:I'm just letting you know up front. I would hate if something happened and then you accused me of not warning. When you stop to think about it I'm really doing you a favor by letting you know.
Me:Oh yeah? Well how about I do you a favor and let you meet me in person?
HB:It doesn't really sound like you're doing me a favor. I think you'd be getting a better deal then me.
Me:Why? You planning to introduce me to your hot girlfriends?
HB:No, I don't think I would be cruel enough to subject anyone I like to that. Hell, I might not even put people I dislike through that.
Me:Oh so you like me now? Its ok no matter how bad your friends are we will try to get along.
HB:I never said I liked. I said I wouldn't subject the people I care to that kind of torture.
Me:You're like a kid in third grade. When you try to make fun of me, it just means you like me. I bet if we were little, you would throw rocks at me. And that just means that you LOVE me
Me:Seriously though HB. Lets meet tommorow or thursday for coffee or something
HB:Why don't we just give it a little more time. And with that being said, I am off to bed. I have to be up early in the morning.
Me:Its allright I understand, I am a bit worried that you might be a serial killer myself
Me:good night HB
HB:Night.
I sort of thinking I need to freeze her out now till she starts talking to me but at same time I enjoy our chats. Also any tips for dating websites in general? Good profile etc?

Let me Guess:

"Me:You're like a kid in third grade. When you try to make fun of me, it just means you like me. I bet if we were little, you would throw rocks at me. And that just means that you LOVE me"



HUGE LAPSE IN TIME



"Me:Seriously though HB. Lets meet tommorow or thursday for coffee or something "

You've become her texting/chatting buddy. Time to cut off from this girl and learn to escalate sexually *!Especially online!*

btw, it looks like you failed a minor shit test here: You just agreed to the fact that you are a beta male with nothing better to do than be on youtube all day. And if you've been talking to her for 4 days now, you probably failed all the INITIAL Shit test and have been friendzoned long before this.

Like I said, break contact and go find other women.

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That was horrible. She was threatening to hit you and you say your frail as it is. That wasn't a Man to Woman conversation that was just.... I don't even know what to say. Move on, throughout the whole interaction it seemed to me you were supplicating to her.

That post gave me cancer

lol

Appreciate all responses, but just to clarify few things There was no long waits in between and we had sexual conversation night before. Still I see what you guys saying and I would appreciate an advice on how to handle this conversations better, I would rather not make mistakes even though I am still gonna make plenty. I do agree youtube thing was retarded but cant take it back now.

Also I dont give a shit about saying things like I am frail mostly because I dont look like I am, so things like that dont bother me.

Why are you even having a sexual conversation through the computer? There is no point in having sexual banter in your conversation if you can't have sex. Unless there is some new technology that allows you to stick your dick into your keyboard....?

And there are no pauses because you are talking to a girl who is on the fucking internet. You are probably talking to some piece of trailer trash who hasn't had a single male interact with her since 4th grade when she accidentally dropped her pencil and he made fun of her for showing off her plumbers crack. Quality women don't go on dating sites. What kind of women do you expect to find on a website? If you are going to dig through the garbage can, expect to find garbage. (with a garbage personality)

OK,
FIRST MISTAKE: Don't talk to girls for four days online. You should have already gotten her number by now and moved to texting and phone conversations.


2nd MISTAKE: There were 4 times when you sent her 2 messages without getting a response back. Don't do that. I'm generally not the type of person to make HARD rules, like NEVER do xyz, but your case its in your best interest to NEVER send more than one message without getting a response. When you get better, then you can start to break the rules a little.

3rd MISTAKE: Don't ask a girl out online or through text. CALL HER and ask her out. And don't say "Maybe we should meet in person?" with a question mark! It should be a STATEMENT. When I ask a girl out its usually something like this "You're adorable and you seem pretty cool so far. What's your schedule like the next few days?" It ASSUMES that she is going to go on a date with me. Works much better. And again, ITS ON THE PHONE!

And LAST MISTAKE, if a girl turns you down for a date, don't ask her again a couple minutes later. That just makes you seem needy. If a girl turns you down for a date (or for a number, or an isolation or pretty much anything else) 9 out of 10 times it means that you didn't do enough attraction, comfort or qualification. So you have to STOP, REWIND a little and go back into either attraction, comfort or qualification or all 3. Knowing which of those 3 you have to go back to depends on the situation and just takes doing a lot of pick up until you get the feel for it.

One more thing:
When Syx wrote that the way you handled the youtube addict comment made you seem like a beta male, because you agreed with her, thats not 100% correct.
When a girl teases you or makes fun of you, you usually SHOULD agree with her. The part that you didn't do right is this: after you agree with her, you have to make it into a ridiculous joke. You have to greatly exaggerate it so she knows that you aren't taking her seriously. So you could have said something like "God I really hope there is a support group for addicts, I actually don't sleep or eat anymore. I only watch youtube day and night. I've lost all my friends and family due to my youtube addiction Hey, blah blah blah" And then you change the subject because you don't want to spend any more time than you have to focusing on something that doesn't help you.

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Thanks for a quality reply, I do agree on all points but just to make it clear, the times where I sent a message after message were not because she didnt reply, I just never bothered to wait for her reply since I didnt want to stay on that topic and tried changing a subject, maybe it wasn't a best way to handle it. I usually never send texts twice and this was really a bad example of my conversations. I agree on 4 days of messaging, but she stated in her profile that she is hesitant to meet with anyone from a website so I didnt want to rush into a date even though I probably should have since I had much better interaction going with her a day ago. Also I agree about calling girls to ask them out and that is generally what I do with the ones I meet in person and I really didnt know how to even interact with a person online without seeming like a total looser/creep but I guess I nailed being one anyway.

Well whatever, no big deal. Just need to read up more on better interactions and keep it shorter.

I didn't point out a lapse to make you feel bad, I was just pointing out something I used to do all the time and a lot of my other AFC friends would do before I learned how to escalate online (Since then, i've realized face to face is much more powerful). They would say something cocky and then two things would happen, usually both.
Either 1.the girl would never reply or 2. Real fast, they'd say something else like they were trying to hide their intentions.

Having a sense of humor and being able to joke about yourself is great and all but never forget, 'you are the prize'.
Actually what I said is correct, because I only pointed out the fact that he just fell over to the comment and implied he was a beta male with nothing better to do. Like I said, it was minor, something he could of teased her on but he just accepted it. Also I don't agree with..well agreeing with a teasing girl. Maybe there's a time for it, but it's more about keeping congruence with who you are and who you are projecting to people.

But hey, you live in you learn. Go get 'em

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die post, die

HOOOO-WHAAHAHAAAHAHAHAAAA!!!

I WANT TO GIVE YOU RESPECT POINTS MAN. HOW DO I DO IT AGAIN? IT USED TO BE POSSIBLE ON THIS SITE RIGHT?

Holy shit what a nooby comment. I played videogames and encountered women that I played with. After some sessions I got their messenger or ps3 accounts on my friendlist. I bought a microphone then after a while I cammed them and it was revealed they were actually super beautiful women. I spent nights chatting to these women, driving them completely crazy with all my erotic stories until the point they let me do everything . . . Everything! And that includes a lot of naughty, very naughty stuff. I worded everything so beautifully, so powerfully, that the whole presentation of it became planted as a firm seed in their minds, a fantasy that they started to love and cherish as if it was taken from a literary novelle. My fantasies took root into their minds, through this ever-escalating chat correspondence, as dreams which they had themselves nourished. My writing made them explore sexual dimensions of themselves they had not known before . . . I actually got a MARRIED WOMAN to feign a psychology seminar for four days to get away from her husband just so I could bang her non-stop in the hotel. He called her while we were doing it, as well as the school (because her child had not shown up on time because daddy was working and mommy was attending "lectures").

I have, in fact, written a book about all these adventures (it was the idea of the married woman to write it down and sell it anonymously to make money) but never managed to get it published because I don't live in an English speaking nation. When the writing was complete she decided not to continue the project because she feared a rumour might spread that she was a character in the story.

More like you gave her... some lick-tures. Do you have a pdf pf said story? Would be interesting I think. Women love hearing all that emotional, romantic, sexual stuff. It doesn't even half to make sense, if there is romanticism and/or emotion in a story or fantasy, they eat it up.

I agree that you came off a little beta for most of the interaction (started seeking/forcing the convo forward).

This gave you a perfect opportunity to work in some funny sexual innuindo tho!

HB:How do you find stuff like that? Are you one of those people who lives on youtube? I think they might be coming out with a support group for youtube addicts.


Your Response: Hell yeah, I put the "tube" in "you"!


Peace...

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