Hey guys,

I am stoned and the first post I had submitted ended up not working because I was being stupid. So I am going to try and say what I said initially in this post. Here it goes...

So I met this girl about a week ago and I kino escalated with her to the point that we're basically gonna bang (hopefully) next time we meet. The escalation happened at a party that I hosted and she was basically getting real hot and making sexual jokes etc. holding my hand, flirting, etc. So get this, she does this at the party where people are present, but when we have class and we're on campus grounds, she wont get physical with me (not too much at least, she does do some things; she did cuddle with me once in class). The thing is though, she just got out of a 4 yr r/s and she is not completely over him yet. Today she tells me that they still talk and that she spent the weekend with him. I tried to not let it phase me when she told me that.

She told me she didnt want to lead me on, and I was like 'what are you talking about? im not looking for anything serious." She then said, "well, I dont want you to lead me on". Then we talked about something else, and basically, I was able to do some kino on her in class today but not much. She wouldnt let me cuddle her like last time and she didnt want to hold hands. She's 18 so they were together since they were 14, so this is tough. I've done everything perfectly with the game (I think) and I even did the 5 lies game routine and the rat race routine and she owes me a kiss because I won the 5 lies game.

So my birthday is coming up and we're leaving class together to come back to my place to hangout for my birthday. I was thinking, should I try and f-close, or should I wait since she just got out of a 4 yr r/s?

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Well its a good thing that you made it clear from the beginning that you don't want a relation ship. This girl will give you shit tests and all, so you have to be on your a-game for sure. your innergame sounds good so far, however you must not become to emotionally attached to this girl or else you will suffer one-itis. You can try but I guess it won't work cause its a little to fast and she'll be like omg wtf i didn't expect that. So start with being really sexual, maybe send a few sexual texts, there are many on this forum and 50shades posts alot of good in examples in others threads. Good luck

Hey, thanks for the reply. She actually texted me around midnight saying, "if i'm a really nice girl, do you think I can hang out with you on Saturday?" She's referring to a party we're having this weekend for my birthday, and she also said she would be willing to drive the distance to get to the location (I'll be out of town, so she'll have to come to the cities.) It's been settled, though, and she says she wants to 'celebrate and stuff and get drunk.'

Should I still not go for the f-close, or should I?

Well I think she is showing a little interest here, which is a good thing. However ive learned one thing on these forums and that is MINDSET. See right now youre thinking of going to your own party and fclosing this girl. what your mindset should be is. Im having a fun party, im gonna have fun all night, and when I see this girl have fun with her too, if you fclose here , you do, if not, no worries, you had fun. So enjoy that night, and whatever happens happens, don't think to much about it and be your usual self, don't try to force it, however keep being persistent, there is a difference!

Go for it if you don't want anything serious!

This girl is giving you subtle hints that she will fuck you, if you don't she will fuck somebody else. But like the guy above stated worry about your birthday and you having a good time first. Have a blast and she will be drawn to you forsure. If it comes down to it tho you need to go for the f-close. Otherwise somebody else will.

She came over yesterday after class and while I was expecting us to have a fun time before I had to leave for the cities, she was in a upsetting mood because she is still not over her ex. She stayed over for about a half an hour and then she left because she knew that I didn't really want to deal with this on my birthday. I did my best to keep my composure and listen to her while providing little feedback because I didn't want to talk about her ex bf too much with her without appearing like a friend. She said, "I'm sorry that I am so confused. Maybe we should just be friends." I told her, "You don't have to apologize for being confused. It's bound to happen if you're in a r/s for that long. However, I already have plenty of friends (said with a smile/grin on my face).

She then talked about her ex some more and how she wants things to work out with him, but I only tolerated it for about a couple of minutes until I let my nonverbal cues take over and let her know that I wasn't going to listen to this all day. So she ended up apologizing to me and told me she was going to go. I said okay and I walked out my room first and went to talk to a buddy of mine because he called me over. She was waiting at the door for me to give her a hug good bye and I did. She's supposed to come over today to celebrate my birthday with her, but I dont want to force her to come over if she's going to be in a bad mood so I just texted her my address (because she never has been to my house before) and said: "[insert my address here] We're celebrating a little differently with both friends and family, but it's all good" and I sent that and only that. I dont plan on sending anything else.

Thoughts on how to proceed tonight if/when she does come?

edit: when she came over yesterday after class, I did try some kino but she resisted. However, we did hold hands... She's usually very receptive and flirty, sexy, trying to come on to me when she's in a good mood.

she didnt end up coming over to my party this saturday and bringing me my Chai tea she said she was going to bring >:( lol. I think it's cool though because I never invited her to my party originally, she invited herself over. I texted her saying, "Was totally looking forward to that Chai haha" she said, "I'm sorry." I said, "It's okay... We wouldve had way too much fun if you came over." No response to that.

She probably went back with her ex bf for the weekend probably. But what should I do next besides see other girls? Do i freeze her out, do I not sit next to her in class and try and go game someone else in class?

In this kind of situation, I really try to be tough, and I go to the extreme! As they say, you have to be willing to lose her, REALLY WANT to lose her for her to come back. So Indeed , freeze her out, ignore her first attempt to contact you, and not sit next to her in class, have fun with someone else and totally ignore her, only unless she comes to you then you can talk normally but try to be distant and don't let her think everything is alright. She might back off more, or she will think i miss him and come back closer. But you have to keep it up and don't give up, and it will be hard so if you think you can't do it, dont do it.

Wizzay,

I think you're right. I'm going to do what you said to do. I don't think it will be that hard to do because I'm starting to see the flaws in her and I'm starting to lose interest.

No offense amigo but she's an 18 year old that just got out of a relationship. I don't exactly understand why you have anything else in mind besides f-close?

ahahaha. ^ this guy. You're definitely right, bro. I did LSD for the first time tonight and I completely 100% agree with you. I apologize for my betaness, forgive me as I evolve into my alphaness hahah