So if I just Ignore her and don't call her is she likely to contact me?

Most likely yes but I would suggest not to get back together with her because she will be likely to brake up again.

So she messaged me tonight. She was trying to be all cute and flirtsy but I was in a cranky mood so I was kind of rude. When she was like I'll see you next Tuesday I was like you will and she was like yeah i thought we were going to go out and discuss things. and i said discuss what. everything. i said look i dont feel like going to a dear john dinner. she's like ok bye. And i said ill pick her up at 5 and i checked out.

Is it bad that I was an ass to her? She told my friend that she likes me but I bug her and she's losing interest. She's very on the fence about whether to continue the relationship or not. How can I rebuild the attraction when I see her? What causes a girl to lose interest? Always agreeing with them? Too available? Not enough teasing?
Did standing up to her do me any favors?

when i was like so you're not gonna talk to me now? she was like i'm babysitting. i was like okay... look i'll pick you up at 5. i g2g i love you i'll see you then.

And that's how I left it. I'm trying to rebuild attraction. I don't know if getting cranky and angry is the right thing to do.

Reading it over maybe I wasn't totally alpha in the argument. I told her I don't want a dear John dinner and she's like sorry to bother you hope everything turns out ok bye
I said so you don't wanna go to dinner and she didnt reply so I said I was sorry for being rude and that I just didnt know if I had time or not. I told her to call me. She didnt respond so I said oh you're not gonna talk to me now? And she said she was babysitting. So I said fine have fun babysitting. I'll pick you up at 5 on Tuesday

I was definitely being an ass where she was trying to be civil :/

Dude, no wonder you bug your girlfriend, your messages are way too annoying. Send one message at a time and wait for a response. Don't just spam her when you don't get an instant reply.

Don't spam this thread either

So what should I do?

Is it beta or insecure to ask her why she said she doesn't see a future with me anymore?

Ohh man....the question should not be this "does she see a future with you" the question should be "do you see a future with this girl?" She's bi polar she will always get these doubts and try to break up with you. Its better if you end this with her as soon as possible! Do you want all these drama in your life?

What if she was misdiagnosed? She mentioned it only in passing that she's supposedly bipolar but from your own experience does she sound like it?

She also told my friend that her mom told her she would never be able to settle down until she sewed her wild oats to use an old expression and she said she's starting to think she was right. How can I convince her she doesn't need to screw a bunch of random guys to be happy settling down? Blame her feeling that way on her bipolar disorder?

Dude, I read the other threads on this girl. You have been told repeatedly to RUN. Why are you set on making it work with a girl who dumps you and finds reasons to not be with you? Do you have 2 inch cock, a bad scar or no legs or something?

50 Shades gave some solid advice above! That is how to take control of the situation like a boss. Now if there is a break-up you are in control of it, not her. Drives girls crazy!

But since you don't see it that way, it may be time for a little "Tough Love"!

Listen and Listen GOOD!
She has met someone else and wants time to explore the option of being with him. She tried to let you go so she would not be doing you wrong, but you talked her into changing her mind. She will continue to see this guy for the time she has left and then make her decision of if she stays with him, which will be easy for her because she knows she has you to fall back on if he doesn't work out. 50Shades didn't say what I'm saying here, but the post 50Shades wrote is for the "exact" reason I am telling you here. You have already lost this girl and the only way to possibly turn it around is to do what 50 says above. The harder you fight to save it, the more you will push her away!

It sucks Bro, but the reality is the reality...Take control of your future!


Peace...

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You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

The Trap of Emotional Denial

If you take action to end this relationship you are going to go through an uncomfortable process of detaching from someone one you care about and giving up all the aspects of comfort in the relationship. You are afraid to be alone. If you continue to avoid and deny the situation you repress the emotions you are feeling you will never be able to move forward, and will not find happiness with this girl.

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Dude. You have a fundamental attitude problem. You are very needy, very insecure and very beta. I told you not to spam the thread and you did exactly that and you also PM'd me twice. The natural human reaction is to not even read all the stuff you posted, I imagine this girl is doing the same. Do you know how annoying it is to be bombarded with questions without being given the chance to reply?

You want advice on what to do? Just stop for one second. Slow down. Calm down. Breathe.

1) Be prepared to lose this girl. If you had a tonne of other girls lined up, you wouldn't care this much about this girl, so I'm gonna assume you don't have any other girls you are gaming on the side. This means you are putting all your hopes on this one girl, your one-itis. Are you prepared to lose this girl forever? If the answer is no, then you will never get her back and you will make the same mistakes again with the next girl.

2) When a person doesn't answer your question, DO NOT send them more questions, it is needy as fuck. Learn to be patient. Learn to not give a shit.

3) Stop thinking thinking this girl ( or any girl) is the source of your happiness. You create your own lifestyle and women should feel privileged to be a part of it, NOT pestered by your annoying persistent contact.

As for what to do about this girl, don't pick her up, don't have dinner. Tell her "we need to talk" and then give her the all or nothing speech I gave you before. Do not make friends if she agrees to break up