I've fucked girls like that too.
It's bs in this situation because we were in an open relationship where I could hookup with someone else and vice versa and the other one couldn't get mad. So no she's more than capable of guilt free hookups. That's not it.

That makes no sense. Needing a break from a relationship so you can bang someone makes sense but if you had an open relationship all along, there'd be no need to break up to bang someone.

You asked for our opinion on your situation and you left out the fact that you have an open relationship? ?

Sorry. I've been really stressed over this lately. But yeah she said she wasn't sure about exclusivity because that's all she'd known and I was in a different state half the year. So we kept it open. Even though we were fairly devoted to each other we were free to do what we wanted. That's why I think she's depressed. She also mentioned once she was diagnosed bipolar. And she mentioned shed feel this way before about other boyfriends. So I really think it's that. I'm just gonna give her her space and call her when she said to.

It's a big red flag when a guy makes a statement like that without supporting details. It simply means, he has clouded judgment.
That's another red flag when a guy tries to soften the impact of the truth by some form of defense mechanism. If you want to confront a tiger, you have to look at the tiger straight in his eye. We can only analyze your situation and provide some guidance. In the end, only you can help yourself.

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I don't think this girl is depressed. She sounds like she puts on a victim's mentality to make you feel sorry for her and less likely to get mad when she fucks other guys. She wants space? Give her space and break up with her for good and go no contact. When a girl asks for space, give her a chasm. She will soon be back begging you to stay.

I'm not sure what purpose that would serve. Is there a middle ground? If instead of calling her when she said to I waited a few days later? I'm not sure but I think that could work. She's always come back. I don't see why she wouldn't now.

So in this "Real Life" open relationship, safe to say you prefer that it's okay for you to bang other women, but are repulsed be the thought of her doing the same thing? No wonder she's depressed.

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That's constructive.

If she has a pattern of leaving and coming back isn't there a high chance when I get back and call her we do fix things? We're just on a break. I think I was bein too available to her. I need to change that. I was acting beta which totally made her attraction levels fall. But she did say she was still attracted to me. When we ended the Convo to go on a break she's like I love you. She said this happens in her relationships where she feels like she falls out of love but she's always been loyal. She's had two other relationships in her life. One for a year and a half one for two years. She has a habit of staying when she's no longer happy. How do I increase her attraction back up? I already put up lots of pics of me and a bunch of chicks at a Monte Carlo sorta thing.

Dude, you're still at school, right? You really think this girl is gonna keep coming back until you're a 70 year old man? This girl is 100% in control, she is the one gaming you, telling you when to call her, then playing the victim to stop you from calling her out on her flaky behaviour.

That's why breaking up and no contact is the only way to regain control. You need to understand the basics of attraction. Decide what you actually want. Do you want an exclusive relationship with her, or do you want an open relationship? Be honest.

If you want an open relationship, do it. Fuck other women and ignore this girl, keep her as a backup.

If you want an exclusive relationship, tell her either she gets back with you 100% or nothing at all. Either she is your girlfriend or you remove her from your life. No friendship, no contact, nothing, ZERO.

Hey man I really appreciate all the help you've been. So what I'm understanding is when I get back home I'll call her a few days after she told me to and when we go out lay down the deal that either its me 100% or none at all? I mean I'm not gonna contact her at all till I get home. Should I maybe wait a week after? She was like call me on the 29th and we'll have dinner on the 30th. Shouldn't I wait till like the 5th and text her "hey you hungry?" Or something? How should I play it to regain control?

It is constructive! When you put shit out there like this, it is so others can see it from a different point of view.

Some times our own minds protect us from what we really need to see/hear.

We just naturally want to believe that the people that are fucking us, put us higher up on THEIR priority list, and they want to believe the same thing. EVEN in an "open" relationship.

I happen to think that an "open" relationship is BULLSHIT! That is not a relationship, it's a case of one party wanting a relationship and the other not.

FWB.... that's fine, but you HAVE TO understand fair is fair.

If your IN a relationship, ....you should have loyalty.

BUT when you "break up", it instantly shuts of that priority/loyalty switch.

NO MORE RULES, 100% FREEDOM TO FUCK!

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So what's my game plan here?

As the saying goes, "They who care least control the relationship," so you need to act as though you don't care if what you're going to do will cost you the relationship.

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I suggest you break with her. My friend said if the relationship is not perfect in the first year then it is not going anywhere.

I know how bi polar chicks work. There will be a high point and there will be low point. During the high point you will feel like the happiest guy in the world and that is the reason you want her back together each time she breaks up.

And the low point is when they get doubts and start doing stupid things and break up with you.

She is going to come back to you and she will break it off again, trust me on this. No one can handle such drama moreover you shouldn't handle such drama.

Trust me man break with up her and completely cut ties with her. Because she will try to get back with you.