Alright so two days ago I became official with a girl (told her to be my gf) after about 2-3 months of seeing each other. We both care for each other a lot/ do a lot of things for each other/ basically we're pretty in love - always hugging/holding hands/kissing etc .. People always tell us we make a really cute couple and all that stuff - maybe it's because we both were nominated for best looking people in our school last year ( i actually won the award) - so at school when we're together, people are always staring and making a scene and shit ..
Anyways, even though we dig each other a lot - i still feel deep down that there are some trust issues . I think it's because we both know what we've done BEFORE we started talking to each other. Ive seen her hookup with guys and she's seen me hook up with girls (remember - this all was BEFORE we started seeing each other). Everytime I go out and she's not with me she tells me things like "be on your good behavior" in a worried tone ( I honestly dont want to be with any other girl besides her - i wouldn't do something behind her back like that ) , but I have to admit when she goes out and i'm not there I get worried also .
I don't know why I get nervous, deep down I have trust issues even though as far as i'm concerned, as long as we've been talking we havn't done anything bad to each other, everything's been good so far. Maybe it's because I know there's a lot of guys who would love to be with her . But obviously i'm pretty sure she thinks the same about me "a lot of girls wanna be with him .."
So going back to how I started off, we became official two days ago - when I asked her to be my GF she got really excited and even put down the date and everything . Honestly I love this girl . we still havn't changed the status on facebook - and i'm pretty sure that once I do it , a lot of guys who are on her dick will back off . am I (as the guy who asked her to be my gf .. ) supposed to be the guy putting the change of relationship status and sending her the relationship request ?? or am i supposed to talk to her about it or what? cause honestly like I said , I have some trust issues and I think doing this is going to definitely help . I mean as a guy they say you're supposed to take charge of the relationship so I guess that DOES mean that I'M supposed to be the one doing the change ? it feels awkward as fuck cause I'm so used to the girl doing most of the shit . but I guess it all changes when you're this serious ?
also besides the facebook request question I had, what do you guys recommend I do about this deep down trust issue I think we seem to have? We try not to show our weak side to each other but we really are in love and I think there must be a way to make ourselves more at ease but I just don't know how . help?

thanks a lot

It's the girl's gender role to update the Facebook relationship status first before the guy. You're the prize; not her. Let her claim you as the prize. Give her that courtesy and pleasure. Don't take it away from her.

As for your trust issues, that's normal. You are both biologically hardwired to feel that way so you undergo the process of intrusive thinking and mate guarding. The key is that both of you should feel the same way. The feeling should be mutual and not one sided.

Intrusive thinking and mate guarding ensure that your love for each other grows deeper. Let nature take its course and enjoy the feeling of being in love. Without passion that comes from insecurity, the human race would be extinct.

Remember: Man and woman are team for the human race. Be the stronger sex. Control any emotional outburst from your end due to jealousy and the like. Let the girl express her emotional outbursts first. If you're more emotional than the girl, then you are doing the human race a big disservice. Let your logic and control lead your relationship. Let the girl have her emotions. Do not reverse your gender roles.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Keep relationships off Facebook.

doesnt fix my problem when I really dig this girl

If she hasn't mentioned Facebook, don't bring it up.

Sounds to me like you are getting possessive of her already and you want to get the status up there to show other guys "she's mine, hands off" which is an attitude rooted in jealousy. If you both want to put it up there, fine, but I've seen perfectly decent couples fight and break up over shit that's happened on facebook.

I tend not to even have girls I am dating on my friends list. So much bullshit drama can be caused over facebook.

is it even a big deal to see who sends it first when you're already in a relationship with her?

Dude, you're set on doing the facebook thing, we're telling you not to.

Can't help you on this one, because you're insisting on doing something not recommended.