Hey Gents,

I've gotten some really great advice here on my past relationships, I really appreciate all the insight you guys handout, especially the really brutal stuff.

I've gotten myself in a jam with my 22 year old fiance. Some of you may remember a post when we first got together regarding the same relationship. She's a bartender in a strip club and we met there. Quickly fell in love, she moved in 7 mos ago, been engaged since January blah blah.

I've done well with her shit tests so far and she pretty much knows I'll dump her over almost anything and can get any girl in the room where ever we are. We know we're in love and want to spend the rest of our lives together.

When she does something wrong (or that I just don't like) I tell her about it respectfully and she apologizes, when she does it again later on I tell her about and withdraw attention. She is correcting her behavior or at least trying since she never really has had someone hold her to a higher standard before. She's changed her work schedule to days and taken a huge paycut for us to spend time together. She's tried to afc me in the past but it never works.

Problem I have now is I know she drinks at work daily. Sometimes she gets drunk sometimes not at all. Lately the past few weeks she's been carpooling with her girlfriend and they work together (very sweet girl, her and her husband our friends of ours). She's been coming home drunk 2-3 nights a week and acting beligerent (this one never admits when she's drunk) screaming, slamming, throwing things acting irrational and literally trying to start a fight. This never happened before in the past.

Last night she comes home functional but irritable and not exactly sober bitching about how bad her day was. One little thing and she's flipping off the handle. Slamming things, throwing things, trying to attack me from behind, smacking me in the head when I'm sitting down trying to work telling her to leave me alone. This is a tiny very sweet girl next door type. More the type to cry and hang herself on the cross for attention then fight when there's a problem. Also, this never happens when we drink or get wasted together. Only when she comes home from work after drinking on some days, it's weird. It's almost as if she's on drugs or something else is going on but I doubt it.

She always apologizes and says she wants to be together forever and she'll fix it blah blah...

I can actually feel myself falling out of love for her, it's sad. I've started talking to other women and hitting on them in public again even though I'm still crazy about her.

When and how many times do I give a Woman an ultimatum?
How many chances should I really give her?
How the hell do I hard or soft next a fiance I live with?
How do I freeze out someone I'm that close to (she hates this, I even feel bad ignoring her when I am busy)?
I'm going to try to communicate with her about it again but going NC until she SERIOUSLY apologizes and if she doesn't that's all she wrote.

This has happened before and we've talked about it but it keeps happening. Is she repeating the same behavior because I didn't next her the first time? How do I get it through this chicks head I'm going to drop her on her face and never look back or should I just do it now?

Thanks again guys.

Much appreciation for the time and advice.

MTN

Something is bothering her. Talk to her about what it is.

Sometimes women start trying to pick up a fight inorder to end the relationship because they dont want seem like a bitch.

She might also be acting like this because :

1. She doen't like her job
2. She is feeling that you are being aloof and distant.
3. She has feelings for some other guy or worse cheated on you already and trying loose her guilt by blaming something on you.

Good luck dude keep us updated

You got engaged to a 22 yr old. This is how they act.

HAHAHAHAHA but you need to talk to her and let her know this is unacceptable behavior and the next time she does this grab your stuff and leave. Do not entertain this behavior and you really need to figure out the engagement thing because it sounds like she has some real issues.

Yeah, she knows she has issues. She's really trying to work on getting her shit together so I'm trying to give her a chance. She's apologized and all that and has acknowledged that she's toast next time it happens.

We'll see, maybe I'll just destroy that ass until she pisses me off again and drop her. Hope that doesn't happen...

Thanks everyone.

Lol'ed so hard. She's in desperate need of attention/affection and you're not giving it to her. As simple as that.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

U don't act like a 10 year old with a temper tantrum when you need those things I'd next this girl the second she put her hands on me