Good. You're doing fine. Just remember she said she doesn't know this guy. How well do you think this will possibly turn out? Prepare yourself, because when you start living your life, she is going to want back in.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Now you are a free to go out and pickup girls.

Good luck!

My friend, you have made A LOT of mistakes, so I will focus just in one. Why did you tell her about you going to a night club/stripclub? She doesn't have to know everything about you. Then she reacting like that because you had a couple of beers? She's either a drama queen or she wanted to create an excuse to end the relationship (but couldn't do it).

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Una mujer se miente más de lo que un hombre podría mentirle

Why would a woman want to feel powerful and in control when she dumps a guy? I dont understand.. its somebody that was special to you.
Why would you cause harm to someone who cared about? Why would you hit someone after injuring them?
It just doesn't make sense to me.

I'm not sure it's a rational or conscious desire. But smiling, saying "I agree" and wishing them all the best knocks them for six every time.

It's not about taking pleasure in his misery. It's all about safety and security. A girl is thinking about dumping a guy. She obviously likes him or she wouldn't have had sex with him, let alone been his girlfriend. But for whatever reason, she wants to leave. Usually over-abundance or his neediness killed the attraction or she's probably found someone she thinks is better. She doesn't take pleasure in dumping her boyfriend (unless she is morally fucked up, which I like to think is rare). The reason why a quick "Ok, all the best!" works so well is:

1) It makes her think you don't care / never cared about her, which really hurts her feelings, even though she instigated the breakup

2) She begins to question her decision to leave you. She likes the option of being able to fuck a new guy, then if that doesn't work out, she can come crying to you for "sympathy sex". Bear in mind she may just be interested in a new guy but could be taking a risk and wants to keep you as a backup. Don't give her that option. Remove her safety net.

3) She mentally prepared for a big breakup speech, she put effort into thinking about it, you dismiss it instantly and she thinks, "All that effort and he doesn't care anyway?? WTF??"

4) She even begins to wonder if YOU already have another girl lined up and thats why you're so cool about her leaving. She wants you to remain in love with her, it makes her feel wanted, so do the opposite and she feels insecure. She thinks "What if she's hotter than me and my new guy turns out to be a loser? Then I'll be both single AND I'll look stupid in the eyes of my friends!"

5) She wanted to use the speech as a way of remaining friends. Even though she has lost attraction physically, she knows she will miss the platonic relationship. So, that's why you should always say no to friendship UNLESS you are the one breaking up with her.

I think all you said works in theory. But not in practice (for me anyways)
I recently broke up with this girl I been dating for 4.5 months now... and its been a month now we're apart but she's still on my mind. She left for someone else when I confessed my feelings to her, then a few weeks later I brought flowers to her work place and gave it to her.

I know the principles but just can't apply them when every part of your being is earning to be with this girl.. when she's in your mind constantly and you grief about her everyday, as well as dream about her at night.

I don't know.... I guess some guys are able to detach themselves from the partner fairly quickly. I never been like that.. When I'm into you, I'm really into you... or I'm just using you for sex. There's not much in between.

Do you think the advice only works for guys who didn't care about their girlfriends? If it was that easy for them to move on and it was only sex they were missing, why would they even ask for help?

Detaching will pique her interest, but first and foremost, it will protect you from getting hurt. Anyone here will attest to this.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Most normal people are like this. If you can get hurt by a long term gf and not feel bad for a while, you're entering sociopath territory. But you have to be able to walk away when someone doesn't want you, heal and move on.

No, it doesn't just work in theory, I've done in practice and it has worked many times. The difference is, you didn't do it in practice at all, you went to her workplace to give her flowers when she already had a new boyfriend. My method is relaxed, calm and shows you are secure and not needy. Your method is desperate, needy and borderline creepy / stalkerish. No offence bro, but you need to learn from your mistakes if you want to avoid it happening again in the future.

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I see her at work almost everyday now, she works in a different team but we run in each other sometimes. Is it normal that I want her to want me back just for the fact of it?

And if anybody is interested: I went out last weekend, some girl asked me to call her within 3 mins of meeting her. Also decided to take a class, and a very pretty tutor spent extra 40 min with me, just chatting, throwing IOIs.
I guess it does help to see that you have other options. Thanks everybody for the help!

I dont know man. This theory stuff isn't really applicable in practice I found. I can apply an opener under pressure, but when you obsess about a girl, I find it impossible to control myself. When me and this girl broke up the 1st time months ago, I waited outside her house in the rain until I finally saw her.. I couldn't take it anymore.. at that time I would do anything just to see her and express my desire for us to stay together. If I would see her with another guy I would have punched the other guy in the face.
I don't know man, because when these emotions of abandonment and despair set in I lose all self-control.
Like I said I guess other guys are less emotional then I am.. or for them the agony of being dumped doesn't last as long.. or maybe some people have more emotional self control then others.