I broke up with her in the beginning of FEB. my call. had only talked once sense then to see if we can work things out and she say "LJBF" i said no and had NC and about 2 weeks ago she contacted me on easter, said "hi" i ignored then she called and hour later, ignored she didnt leave a voicemail. now i want to find out what she wanted. whats the best way to ask? coming from a frame of indifference?

I'm thinking of replying with "?"

Why don't you just make a promise to yourself that if she calls again, you'll pick up? It's been two weeks. She may have moved on.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Well, i sent her a text this morning "why did you contact me?" and i havent heard anything back yet.

Bad move. You reply in couple of hours or you dont reply at all, but you definitily cant reply 2 weeks later and then expect her to respond (if she have any self-respect)

You should have keep NC, she would contact you again at some point in future. I know, curiositiy is a bitch, but when you make decision be a man and stick to it.

i guess at this point ill just have to wait and see if she contacts me again. until then i'm going to keep doing me.

Still nothing from her... is there anything i can do now? i really feel like texting her saying i still think about her. or even just say ask her if we can be friends again? or even just a "hi"

And what do you hope to accomplish by contacting her?

You didn't want to be friends with her before. Why the change? Because you feel like a window is closing or something? Before you contact her at all, I'd make sure you know what you are trying to get out of it. You didn't want her in your life at all before, why do you now?

I still love her. And I want her back. I miss it all.

You miss it all? Even the things that made you want to break up with her in the first place? Your oneitis is clouding your judgement. You're thinking emotionally, not logically.

Clear your head. Think clearly, remember what you really do miss, but make sure you remember what you did not like as well. Getting back together with her now is likely to simply extend the relationship you had. You wanted out of that at one time, right? Remember why you did, and remind yourself what you don't want in a relationship. Then ask yourself if you really believe that she can provide that.

Regardless, the most attractive thing you can do is get over the relationship and understand why you wanted out, and move on with your life. Being hung up on her is not going to be attractive to her, or anyone else who might be better.

You have such a valid point here. She took me for granted and nothing I can say or do will make her realize that. Me and her had such an amazing bond her personality and mine were a perfect fit. And I do miss her do I think I can do better? Sure. I will take time to find her but thats all it will really take is time. Maybe she will eventually realize that I was the best thing to ever happen to her and go wtf was I thinking? But by then it will be to late. I know im the prize and if she never realized it then its her loss.

Anyone else care to comment?