Good morning, brothers in arms,

Yesterday (Thursday my time) I met a woman on OkCupid who is highly intelligent, very funny and highly sexual. I messaged her for about an hour, giving her a lot of cocky and funny, which she loved and turned right around and gave back to me. Needless to say, I was charmed! I closed the conversation by telling her we needed to meet, and she agreed... I told her we'd go out on Tuesday (she told me she was busy for my first two suggestions), and she said that would be a good day. I also got her phone number, which she says she NEVER gives out on the first conversation.

So, all is going well... I start texting her today, and we exchange more C&F banter (this woman is quite C&F herself, as I mentioned) along with some sexual jokes. She seems to be enjoying herself, but is busy doing stuff, so she takes a long time between answering my texts. I bust on her for not replying to me during lunch, and then tell her we should reschedule our date for this weekend, and that she should look at her calendar and find some time for us.

She responded well to this, saying she would definitely look at her calendar when she got home. That was about 5:00pm tonight (I think she words as a bartender/waitress or something). I haven't heard from her since.

* My question: Should I continue to text her with funny, provocative messages to ramp up her interest, even if she doesn't respond, or is that showing neediness? So far I haven't responded, preferring to make her work for my next response. But, I'm uncertain here.

All help appreciated!
50

BTW: Apologies if this issue has already been discussed to death before... I am new to the forum, and will be getting much more involved/read up over the next few weeks.

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My advice would be stop texting her so much, if you arranged a date stop talking to her or text her. Only do if she is calling or texting.

Plus busting her out on her lunch, why she is not responding is really needy. She has no obligations to you, and you dont have any to her.

And when she said, she never gives her number out, is totally bullshit. She wants you to see her like a "goodgirl". Many girls do the same tricks

Howdy Yezzy, thanks for your response.

Things have turned out very well with this woman... she did text me back the next day, still very interested. It turns out that she works at night at a stressful job and can't respond for long periods of time.

In terms of my responses to her, I have texted her a bit even when she doesn't respond, but not much... just to give her a hard time in a fun way. For instance, when she didn't respond last night, I texted her "Hey, it's cute when you don't text me back... 'cos I know you're thinking nice things about me anyway!" She loved it, and has admitted to thinking about me quite a bit.

I've been very C&F with her, without ever being mean. When I bust on her for not texting me back, it's in a friendly fashion. She has explicitly stated she wants to be with a man who is very alpha and sexually aware, so I have been willing to be more forward and teasing (and sexual) with her than I might otherwise be.

She is currently really wanting to meet with me, although work difficulties seem to be getting in the way. My last text to her was "I hope you can make it to meet this afternoon... if you don't, you're a bad girl, and I might have to spank you for making wait till Tuesday to see you!" (We had planned to get together Tuesday after work). She writes back "I'm starting to see a pattern here" (We had already talked about her love of spanking) and then "Are you still at the Cup?" (a local restaurant with a nice patio). After that it was on... she came by about 20 minutes later, and things progressed from there.

Cheers, 50

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Yeah sounds good! There is not always a universal fix by all things, all girls are different in some ways. But it does seem to work for you. So keep it up

Just be reminded to seem to be busy like a busy guy, and give her attention sometimes. Just be totally unpredictable.

Try also to touch her and go for the kiss early, because she seems like that type of girl. A advice would be start by touching her hand, and play with her fingers and see how she responds. If she is responding well, just go for the kiss.

Thanks Yezzy, the "be busy" advice is good. I tend to be too "available" at times.

I'm getting better at kino, and am less inhibited about "going for the kiss", and I've had it work recently. In the case of the girl yesterday, though, I held off on the kiss, since it was a girl I met on OkCupid and she turned out to be too overweight for my taste. We had a great time talking, though... am always interesting in learning about the female perspective on things.

Cheers,
~50

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